#as i said i am open to a conversation on relationships & intellectual combability but this question isn't that

[kxowledge]

Why are you dating someone below your intellectual level?

We can speak about intellectual compatibility in relationship - which I agree would be something to consider - but you're drawing on... writing?? Writing is a skill and it doesn’t reflect intelligence. It has no relevance neither for his chosen career nor for our relationship, so why should I care?

Anyone can learn to write academically – fairly easily too in my opinion. Some people pick it up quickly on their own, some need to be taught more explicitly. Same with many other subjects and skills.  In some education system (especially US/UK) there are way more essay-based evaluations, so it’s almost expected that you’ll learn how to write academically, but that’s not the case in many other countries. Additionally, writing in a foreign language is harder than you’d think. My boyfriend took classes fully taught in English for the first time a year ago and went from one class to a semester of courses taught only in English. I’d say that’s someone who is always pushing themselves and improving on an intellectual level. He doesn’t know how to write essays well because he has never had to, but he can very well learn now (and has clearly learnt from the feedback I’ve given him). The question is whether that’s a skill he should spent time on, as it is something that is developed necessarily through practice and thus requires a lot of time. The simple answer is that, while it could be helpful for one or two courses at most, it’s not particularly relevant for the rest nor it would be a useful skill for his career. And lol definitely nothing of use for our relationship...

#as i said i am open to a conversation on relationships & intellectual combability but this question isn't that #so that's not the answer you're getting. #but i'd be interested in thoughts as it is something i have wondered in the past! and i don't know where i'd stand as honesty & commitment #love & lifestyle/ambitions seem more important? #replies #anyway this has soured my mood when it comes to sharing excerpts from his essay. we were going to have fun! why ruin it!