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[tohokuu]

Anon ask time:

I'm a writer on here and im pretty notorious on getting things out late and I feel bad or it especially when it's a request.

But no one talks abt how it's just hard sometimes to be a writer on Tumblr. Like i worked my ass off to get only 500 followers and then an anon that reached out to me and asked for advice posts like three works and gained 1k followers in a month. I'm v happy for her and everything but it feels unfair sometimes. And i just want to be a big voice in the ateez fanfic community and have people recognize that im a good writer and be like you or hongism or pk but when you post something that you spent all this time on and for it to only get 10 likes is very disheartening.

And I have been revamping old works too but it still is so hard

ahhhh my love, it’s okayyyy

let’s pretend i’m letting you cuddle into my arms and i’m stroking your hair gently 🤗

now, PLS don’t compare me to caly, shes huge 😭 but that’s also like the biggest compliment ever, do not make me cry at 6 AM

the biggest thing about ANY hobby that ppl fail to realize is that it’s not supposed to be a job. it’s a hobby, you do it when you feel like it. i haven’t been able to paint in over a year, i feel like i’ve lost my artistic talent, but when i look back at my old pieces i’m like.. holy shit i drew that ??

or, DEAN ? if you know who he is, he hasn’t released music for maybe 2-4 years now ? people ask for more music but no one realizes how difficult it is to produce art. it’s difficult to put your brain together and find something satisfactory enough for your audience. writing is the same way. it’s art. it’s talent. sometimes it doesn’t flow in your head properly and it’s difficult to produce stuff.

and don’t ever feel bad for being late to a request. you’re not obligated to answer anyone. what are they gonna do ? tell their mom ? 🙄

and sometimes it is hard to gain followers. my old blog only reached around 570 followers before i just gave up and made a new blog. i had decent amount of works up there but it didn’t make much of a difference.

maybe a blog change could help ? a new environment often helps (that’s what all my friends that constantly change blogs say)

and maybe with recognition, it’s also a matter of tags. tags make a BIG difference. i changed some tags for my fics and it made my fics grow. tumblr ever only puts the first 4-5 tags to use and you gotta use the ones people will go for the most. it’s bit of a marketing situation as well

and i understand where you’re saying that it really burns you out when you work so hard on a fic and it only gets 10 likes :( that can be upsetting. but tumblr is literally a gamble, not everything will do well. many of my fics that’s i write don’t do well. my angst fics never do well and i have a couple of those. my fluff fics aren’t all that popular either.

my melanie series; even tho i worked hard and completed it, if you look at the individual works, there’s not many notes on it. and it’s not just me, it happens to every writer. i spoke to caly (hongism) a couple months back and she told me that a lot of her kinktober works didn’t get the most recognition, so really, tumblr is just a gamble

and also, notes don’t really matter when you’re doing something you love. if it soothes your heart to write, then fuck notes. i understand that notes and comments can be a motivator too, but that’s the readers job, not yours. us writers do our best to get our readers to reblog our work and leave comments, some listen and some don’t

and there’s also a target audience. most people consume the horny stuff, so other genres don’t often get the same love

i’ll be back with some business strategies later and you can drop another ask, or i’ll make a general post abt it

i’m started to get late for school now so i gtg 😭 if there’s anything else, my ask box is open

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[tohokuu]

honesty hours: I love you

:(((

honesty hours : i love you the most

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[tohokuu]

anon honesty time... but im actually one of ur moots

you're actually like... in my top 3 favorite accounts on here :) you were one of the first people i ever read on tumblr and ive always really admired your writing and how skilled you are. your stories are so fucking good and i loved the hades joong greek myth one so fucking much. ngl that fic has literally never left my head. also i wanna interact more and be friends but youlowkeyintimidateme in a good way!! i just think ur really cool. anyways keep doin what ur doin bc you're actually fucking amazing at it <3

TOP 3 ??? IM FLABBERGASTED

YOU LIKED THE HADES JOONG FIC ?? THAT ONE IS LITERALLY MY LIFELINE

and ofc ofc, my inbox is always open and i despise tumblr dms so dm me if you want my discord and we can always talk !!

PLS DON'T SAY I INTIMIDATE YOU ! i'm not intimidating at all, bestie

and you're so cool !!

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[tohokuu]

so, tell about anything that happened in your life. did your best friend fuck your dad ? or mom ? or both ?

did your boyfriend cheat on you ? has a boyfriend cheated on you ?

did your father act like an asshole today ? mine didn’t, but he gave me a fat attitude yesterday and called me ugly so i’m mad at him

anything shady happening that you guys wanna rant abt ? i’m here to soak it all up 😋

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[tohokuu]

for ur anon honesty hour… i am strongly considering texting my ex (we broke up 2 years ago i havent dated anyone since then but he has) and asking him to come over to smash but i am afraid of the detrimental effect doing that might have on my mental health😌😌😌 but i do miss him and we’re graduating college soon and we never talk anymore😩😩

KRKWKEJW if he’s sweet and has good d, i say text him 🏃🏽‍♀️

but if he’s mediocre, let that boy go

but then again, you should value your mental health above all ! dick comes and goes ! but if you wanna get in touch with him again, simply ask to hang out. don’t blatantly tell him to come over to smash 😭

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for honesty hour i lowkey wanna move blogs but i don’t wanna be annoying. i already have one time before and i don’t wanna 1) annoy my moots or followers 2) changing blogs gives me anxiety but i feel the urge/need to do it? i’m not sure what to do :/

is this lola ?... baby..

is it like an addiction ? i wanna know bc i've never done it myself before. (i'm too scared that i won't get the same kind of interaction on there)

i'd be quite scared to bother my moots too actually, i'm so intimidated by so many of them... but tbh, i think that if it makes you feel better

you should do it ! it's your blog and if you really want to, you should

you'll know who will stick beside you after the blog change and if any moots complain abt it, they aren't it

but back to the point, if it makes you happy, change your blog :)))

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[tohokuu]

for honesty hour, my friend didn’t fuck my dad, but i almost fucked my teacher lol it was my first semester in college and i was 18, he was late 40s, maybe about 50. my relationship with my dad is shit so naturally i found comfort in my teacher bc he believed in me, he was nice to me, etc. one night, we had to stay late for this project we were working on for class (there were other people staying late too, it wasn’t just us) and we were flirting a lot. he would stoke my hair, i would playfully hit him and apologize jokingly, and he’d say “it’s ok, im into that ;)” so i hit him again. at the end of the night, he asked me if i needed a ride home bc i couldn’t drive/didn’t have a car. now… i would’ve said yes and that would’ve led to some nice car sex, he would’ve taken my virginity, or at the very least i would’ve blown him… HOWEVER my mom was there already waiting in the parking lot to pick me up. i regret not going with him that day, i think about what would’ve happened that night a lot. my friend always tells me it would’ve ended really badly, especially since he had a wife and six kids. but i guess we’ll never know

oh my god-

i don't think it would have ended well, either. the age gap is huge and i know you said you were 18 but it's still a huge difference. i know a lot of the age gap x reader things glorify the age gap relationship

but i don't think that irl, it's something that could be suitable.

i've seen it work out for some people but i'd say it's safer to keep your relationship with him professional

I might just be saying this bc my coordinator was like that and it made me very uncomfy but babe, as long as YOU ARE SAFE !!!

i think everything always happens for a reason. i've been in a similar situation (not with a professor) but i think if one thing doesn't happen, it'll mean that something will happen or turn out right later on

but guys, pls understand the risks of having sex w your teachers LMAO

it's none of my business what goes on in your life but as long as you are staying safe and taking care of yourself, everything is okay <3

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Anon honest time: i live with my mom and dad. Im 24. And i take care of my dad sense my mom doesn't want too. My dad and mom are going to get divorce. My sister told me that after my mom leaves my dad is going into a rest home which will leave me homeless. Before you ask no im not working not because i dont want too but i havent found a job and i havent been...healthy enough.....its honestly really scary and i dont know what to do

well, is there a possibility that you can live with your mom ?

i’m very sorry about your father. i don’t know about your relationship with him or anything but know that your father going into a rest home is a possibility can be devastating.

i’m not gonna ask why you can’t work bc that’s none of my business, but is there any way you can move in with someone ? pay them back in a way that doesn’t have to involve money ? i’m not talking about anything sinister or malicious, but more of an equal exchange ?

is there a way we can help you on tumblr ? maybe a gofundme or a cashapp/venmo?

i’m not completely sure how to help out so if anyone else sees this ask and they have suggestions, please drop them in my inbox !

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[tohokuu]

idk if this is anon honesty or just straight up a rant (feel free to ignore if you want)

so because of pandemic and shit i had to move to another country but never changed schools since i'm about to finish and everything was online. but now i'm back to that country i used to live in because i need to take my final exams in person to graduate. the thing is my parents couldn't come with me, so they asked a family they're really close with if they could take me in for the next few months.

tbh i'm not besties with them or anything, i try to be as civil as i can and not bother them since i feel like i'm intruding and leeching off of their generosity. they have a daughter that is a few years younger than me, and she doesn't get along with her mom (never did) but now i can't help but feel like they fight because of me. and because the atmosphere is so tense and awkward, idk how to approach the girl and try and appease her (make her see that i'm not trying to push her aside or trying to be all comfortable in her space). now i don't want to go out of my room because i feel like the mom is constantly angry or annoyed and if i were her i would be even more annoyed at having to deal with an extra person in the house that doesn't do much except eat and go back to the room to study.

also, everyone in the family takes the mom for granted and make her do all the chores without even saying thanks, i'm the only one the cleans for themselves and thanks for the food she prepares etc. do you think this might be read as a stuck up behaviour? like i'm trying to show i'm superior to them? cause i really just want to go unnoticed to not cause trouble.

i would NEVER ignore this

and the thing about the family.. hm

the thing i would do in this situation, is to try to actually engage in the family more. not in a way where you seem like you're wordlessly intruding, more in a way where you're like apart of the family ? ykw i mean ? try to joke around ? IM SO BAD W THIS IM SORRY

now you said you always clean up after yourself so that's a really good thing, they shouldn't have to worry about cleaning up after you. but the situation with the daughter is a bit hard.. like,

especially since you're older than her, you can TRY (i'm not saying do it) maybe try to engage in any of her interests. talk to her about them ? even if it's just small talk, kind of like an older sibling ?

but i really can't offer perfect advice w this. it's so hard.

but i want you to know that you aren't doing anything wrong. if there's been tension before you even came, it's not your fault

and i would be mad too if everyone made me clean up their mess wtf ?? maybe to get the mom off your back, you can maybe suck up to her ? it's shit advice but it's exactly what i would do.. i'd help her clean around the house and stuff, and maybe the daughter might hate me for that but then i'd even it out by bonding w the daughter

and then... i'm really bad at giving advice. don't follow any of this. i always make decisions on impulse and then just.. wing it ?

BUT BABE IM SORRY - idk how to help w this one

but i don't think it can be read as stuck up at all ?? you always clean up after yourself and try to help around the house. that's not your fault ! and trust me, you're okay. if they had a problem, i think they would've made it super obvious instead of just leaving you wondering

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[tohokuu]

so.... anon honesty hour....

not really sure if this is really that "controversial" for tea but when we were in 8th grade there was a classmate of mine who recieved head 😕 worst part is the one who gave head was already in a relationship and they were doing it at our christian private school lmao

last time i got a non-celeb crush was still pre-pandemic, i remember 😔 the embarrassing things i did for him to *subtly* notice me 😟 he was one of our best violinist in our ensemble, 2 grades apart. he was your typical kind-of perfect boy but he was low-key. i feel like he isn't really as popular in the school. embarrassed myself at least enough times to remember me. there was one time that my music teacher assigned him to sit beside me since the other violinists left. we were sharing my music score to practice for our recital. our teacher advised us to write a signal on the sheet, he asked me if he could write on my sheet. this is a very normal situation, but somehow he and i made it very uncomfortable

idk why i can't even talk to him properly, because clearly, we have the same interests on things. we both like kpop, video games and even music production 😔 i really tried my best to make it obvious and WAS actually gonna try and talk to him on prom night but, it never happened because of the pandemic 😕 not to mention i was already worse at talking back then

i feel like i want to put more into this list but i kinda forget so this is it.... for now.... these were boring i think i need to save some stories that i forgot for later

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NOT THE CHRISTIAN PRIVATE SCHOOL NAURRR LMAO

and 8th grade ?? THOSE WERE KIDS WTF

i hate how kids are exposed to that kind of stuff so quickly like bro.. chill..slow down

and GORLLL the violinist ?? did you guys ever talk again after that ? or did he move away or something ?

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[tohokuu]

i'm fine! this was a quite chill week because i was doing less school works than expected... i was more worried about what to spend and reading another book at the same time reading fanfics lmao

i also want to do anon honesty hour again.... i'll do it next time i'm dropping the daily playlist 🥰

- reveal / the boyz

- change / penomeco

- counting stars / be'o ft. beenzino

- why / heize

- rube / jung jin woo ft. june, gaho & moti

- ☀️

so happy you're doing good !! and anon honesty hour is on, so drop anything (even if i don't answer on time)

and REVEAL BY THE BOYZ IS SO GOOD OMG

and i'll listen to all these other songs in a minute

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[tohokuu]

okay i’m here to just talk lol

okay so i have this friend and he’s my upperclassman. i really love him like a brother you know. i’m an only child but i think this is how it would feel to have a sibling. we mess around with each other and make fun too. he’s really easy to talk to and i enjoy him. but since he’s a senior he’s going to graduate pretty soon. i don’t know what i’m going to do without him. i know he’s going to be so successful in life and i’m really proud of him. i’m going to miss him so damn much.

OH MY GOD I AM GOING THRU THIS SAME THING 😭

i go to a two-year university and i have a friend who’s an upperclassmen and he’s literally amazing and i love him sm but he’s about to graduate from here at the end of this year and i’m gonna miss him sm bc he’s moving onto a separate university from mine 😭

but i literally am in leadership with him and i called him over and he said that, even though he might be leaving, the love between you two will always be there. you can always meet up afterwards and it might not be as much as before, you guys will still stay in touch if you really love each other

remember that he’s moving on to find his own way in the world and he might not be able to physically take you with him, he’ll take you in his heart :)

and here is a picture of me and my bestfriend [later deleted]

i look musty today. we both do but he’s really good looking !

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