#and they'll hear 'do this by yourself without any input whatsoever because you know best what I need in all circumstances ever'

[awheckery]

life advice if you're ever helping someone move:

if you don't know what something is, and/or don't know how much something costs, don't assume the person you're theoretically trying to help either doesn't need the thing or will be easily able to replace it later after you throw it away

this message brought to you by the realization that my (cisgender) father somehow managed to throw away all of my menstrual products (that I had to order online after stores stopped carrying the kind I use), a $150 Livia unit for dealing with my crippling period cramps (while somehow keeping the charging cord?), as well everything on my vanity that was clearly in regular use

but somehow, the mostly empty box of breathe right strips, expired camphor rub and half-used roll of toilet paper were completely necessary to pack up

#screaming #this is why I have trust issues #this is why I hate having to ask my parents for help ever #because they love to help #as long as the help is only on their terms and timetable in accordance with their beliefs and preferences #why do I even bother talking #I can say 'please don't do this without me there's specific stuff only I will recognize' #and they'll hear 'do this by yourself without any input whatsoever because you know best what I need in all circumstances ever' #I told him I already threw everything away from the fridge that needed to go and what was left needed to come to the house #so he threw *everything* away because he didn't feel like transporting it #I pointed out that was $80 worth of groceries and he shrugged and told me it's just money #IT'S JUST MONEY I DON'T FUCKING HAVE #the detestable delocation of '23