#and they dont fucking communicate. they talk about smthing and dont fucking tell me so we get up and go and were walking for 10 minutes to

[scarlethallow160]

why tf do one bedroom apartments have to be so expensive (this is a huge vent dump pls avert your gazes)

my roommate keeps inviting people to our apartment without fucking telling me (or waiting til the LAST possible second to do so) even tho i’ve said time and time again i hate when people do that especially cuz he has a bad habit of doing that when we have plans where he just invites other people (esp people i barely know or dont know at all) without telling me or anyone else that was already involved. its even more aggravating cuz when this is brought up he acts like he makes sure to avoid this and he fucking doesnt like when i lived with an old friend and an ex-friend, him and our other friend invited someone to our place (so they invited a stranger to a place they did not live at) and none of them fucking told me until i was literally about to walk inside after work and like am i crazy or do people not see how rude that is?? like dawg thats my fucking home U GOTTA TELL ME WHEN PEOPLE THAT DO NOT LIVE THERE ARE GOING TO BE THERE

and if ur going to force me to interact with strangers have the decency to introduce us???? once we went to meet with some friends (not rly but i’d met them before) and ig one of their sisters was there and they just. didnt introduce us to each other? and we were on opposite ends of the table so its not like we could really interact either? and they did this when we got invited to another friends bday thing where someone i’d never been introduced to was there and they didnt fuckin introduce us and i was anxious cuz i was sitting across from her and finally had to be like “oh hi are u x? i’m so-and-so” like jesus christ is this not common sense for people? why are yall okay with forcing complete strangers to hangout

and with work today i was so overstimulated and got more and more aggravated by this cuz like i dont want to have to move every year and one bedrooms are so expensive rn but im so fucking tired of going thru this. not to mention we dont have a ceiling fan in our living room so he turns down the ac rly low when people are over so it jacks up our ac bill so it makes me even More anxious cuz him inviting people over = social anxiety for me and general anxiousness knowing our bill is going to be higher

i was so aggravated by this i ended up skipping out on plans we had today cuz my roommate also talks about himself. a lot. and we were out with friends like yesterday night or smthing and he kept going on and on about some guys he’s talking to on a dating app and i knew that would just make me angrier and idk it kinda sucked that one of my other friends involved thought i felt i was rly close with didnt seem to gaf either that i abruptly dropped out and theres obviously something wrong with me mental health-wise cuz i have this really bizarre self-sabotaging tendency when my mood severely dips where i convince myself no one cares or everyone hates me and think of this dark scenarios and just kind of start spiraling

and with my anger issues i go thru this weird loop of understanding a lot of my emotional/temperamental and communication issues stems from my fucked up family cuz my mom is super vain/self-absorbed and never thinks she can be wrong and basically my sisters are the same so i keep things bottled up and end up getting REALLY angry with no healthy outlet until i reach a breaking point and im just not great with communicating how i rly feel either cuz talking to my family was like talking to a brick wall and my older sister would literally cut me off constantly telling me to shut up so i rarely communicate things beyond like....joking around and stuff so i tend to vent/trauma dump into the void on social media lmfao which is obviously not healthy at all either but like......yeah it also sucks when i start spiraling and thinking back on this shit that i’ll never get closure from the longterm issues i developed from my family cuz now they want to act like we’re this tight-knit super close family that always got along and even if i were to ever bring this shit up they’d just point fingers or deny doing anything wrong.

 idk like its nice having a group of friends i can hangout with and stuff irl but also i feel like i cant ever really talk to them about anything like this that im going thru cuz i also feel super uncomfortable thinking i might be making things about myself (and honestly i do hate when people trauma-dump on me completely out of nowhere so i also want to avoid doing that)

also whats stopping me about addressing these issues with my roommate is cuz he has a tendency to victimize himself and thinking hes just being attacked? like he’s also super self-deprecating All the time which is also extremely exhausting to deal with constantly and it pisses me off that with our other friend/my old roommate, my current roommate kisses his ass and listened to him when he told him these issues of him being too self-deprecating etc. but ik if anyone else did he would just feel sorry for himself

im tired of this

#this post is a mess pls no one look at it #i needed to Express myself from certain prying eyes

[furryanarchist-blog]

this is gonna b long, but im mad and got issues with the inclusionist side. if u got somethin 2 add (cus lets b honest this gonna b biased as fuck bc i only interact with the worst of the inclusionists so i probs wont see the worst of the exclusionists) feel free to add it, id appreciate it and would b relieved 2 b proved wrong if u actually can prove it. (tldr; is at the end of the post)

tw: uncensored q slur, swearing, bold, brief nazi & concentration camp mentions

when talking about ace discourse, it is a intracommunity issue. its all lgbt+ people arguing with each other because of how they see things differently. so when addressing the discourse as a whole you have to acknowledge all the sides of it, because there isnt just one. that being said you can still discuss the issues that inclusionists have and the issues exclusionists have just talking about in those groups seperately. i see a lot of posts that discuss the “entirety of the discourse” but just talk about the opposing views they have. thats created a whole bunch of different standards each side has been held accountable for.

this post by @dogsanddiscourse is a great example of how each side is held to different standards. those who participate in the discourse on the inclusionist side do tend to ignore the issues on their side. even when shown how it can be problematic, a majority will still not acknowledge it. a good example of this is the CAH discourse. both sides made a cardcast discourse pack (exclusionists, and the 2 inclusionist ones x  x ) and there was plenty of talk about them. for instance the deck made by @x-q-u-e-e-r-x which featured many slurs (none of which have been used in ace discourse) had many people reblog and support it, where as the exclusionist deck got flack for including ace and aro identities. i have pointed out to people that some cards in the inclusionist pack were iffy at best, and no one has yet to acknowledge that. if you have a issue with something (cah discourse packs) you should acknowledge both sides who are doing it, not just the opposite side. (another example if u wanna look at smthing real bad is everything to do with discourseshit)

what i really hate the most is that you cant ask inclusionists to take a look at what someone is doing without 1) “attacking all aces and aros” 2) “accusing a entire side for one persons actions” 3) “being a bigot”.

people (not everyone!! but there are people who rb from these blogs) are continuously reblogging from people who have said straight up homophobic things like acerecourse, uninueclus, wetwareproblem, golbatgender / periegesisvoid, myidentityisnotaslur / memestealingasexuals, featherinmycapandcheese, and ppl like tenichyfingers, theangrybi / robotbisexual, kuroba101, drg-aido, vaspider, strategicgoat, juunkrat (who i havent seen in the discourse tag for a while, but this is why i dont like them) i could go on. there are many popular inclusionist blogs that people will continuously reblog from and support no matter how many times they will be called out. but, on the other side. as soon as a exclusionist has done something problematic they are immediately exiled and cut off (which is toxic and a whole nother discussion for a dif post)

even when not talking about specific people but ideas and symbols inclusionists will never directly address it but instead ignore it. i havent once (pls correct me if im wrong im beggin to b wrong) seen inclusionists speak out about: the ace triangle (a direct parallel to the triangles gay people had to wear in nazi concentration camps), not calling people things they dont want to be called (queer, allosexual), using “we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it” to co-opt cishets into the lgbt+ community. where as the exclusionist side will no-platform ad ignore anyone whos been called out, (example, example (u just gotta tell me who and ill look into it), example)

tldr; i just got a huge problem with the inclusionist side cus none of nyall will take accountablity for shit u say like this. everyone just sweeps it under the rug and ignores it. its frustrating especially when people turn around and say “well ur side did this” to completely ignore the problems uve been shown. and its not even u so y r u defending them. like seriously, its not impossible for u to acknowledge that uve made mistakes, everyone does. like all i want,, if for everyone to just step up and be responsible. like, if u say shit, u gotta take shit, u cant just keep hiding and blocking. square up and take responsibility for your actions

#soeaks #long post // #q slur // #nazi mention // #concentration camp mention // #acecourse #ace discourse #records #im make a callout post for myself i dont care. #callout #just cus of all the links in one nice place #archive