#and someone givibg you a boundary is good and healthy

[howdidthisevenhappenanyway]

I have to admit that one vox trope I really dislike is the one where fox says ‘no actually I don’t want you to hang around and flirt with me; leave me the fuck alone’ and quinlan vos keeps hanging around and annoying him. like that isn’t cute? why is this trope happening here? the power dynamics alone are so fucked up, I don’t…

here is the thing. going away when you’re told to go away is cool and sexy, actually. and no, I don’t mean that will make someone date you when they already said no; if someone says no and you’re still expecting a yes if you do this one thing, then that’s not actually doing the thing, it’s trying to perform some cheat code

like there is the sort of jibing banter level of snark—which I know is how some people genuinely flirt and some couples have that vibe and they like it, and know the other loves them and they feel comfy doing the bit; and a lot of people feel this is vox to a t, and that’s cool if you can get the balance right. like but if someone is saying ‘no’ when they mean ‘yes’ it generally means they need to work on something within themselves, and you being around isn’t going to make either of you feel better.

I can’t see this trope as romantic at all. I personally can’t think of anything less attractive in a partner than them saying they don’t want to be with me lol, but for a jedi to be bugging an overworked and stressed to the gills clone commander all the time till he’ll say yes to going on a date just fucking reminds me of all the creeps who hit on retail workers while they’re working because they know the person can’t be rude because they’ll get fired

gross

#the quinlan in my head would never act this way but that’s the quinlan in my head #I just think he’s be super into enthusiastic consent #getting loud about it #but like…that’s just my headcanon #either way a jedi should defs know better #I feel like jedi would be very very big on consent and honestly #even being able to feel someone’s yearning or whatever while they say no jsut sounds like the makings of a headache to me #like oh baby no #I’ll come back when you’re feeling less fractured—on this subject at least because poor fox has a lot going on lol #any way that’s my two cents #this isn’t a vague post of critique of any one writer #it’s just skmethibg that seems really popular with vox and I feel like someone should point out #because some writers are able to straddle the cute snark like really well #but others it’s like #boundaries are good #and someone givibg you a boundary is good and healthy #fox feeling like he can say no and it be respected? #healing af #sexy af #(​even for asexuals but like a nonsexual sexy haha) #commander fox #quinlan vos #wasn’t going to put these in the tags but I want to be able to find this again