#and building the cat house?????? oh my god what a symbol for building the foundation of a relationship

[shimmeringweeds]

out of context ep 12 "my new boss is goofy" quotes that I've hidden in my drafts since december hoping someone not me will bring up as more "queer-baiting" examples but, well, here we are.

These quotes are about apartment hunting. But also, do they not read as one person's anxiety over a budding romance?

Momose is hesitant to move because he's found happiness with what they have. Yet he wants the space to grow by himself in confidence and equality. He wants to keep the relationship (broadly speaking) but realizes that continuing as they are will not serve either of them in the long run. (Plus, in a typical courting situation, rejection at this stage is not a good look. +10 anxiety.)

But god bless Shirosaki. Healing boss of our dreams. He explicitly states his feelings on the matter. Yes, he wants Momose to stay. Yes, he is sad. But if Momose wants to leave, then he will back that choice without sacrificing the relationship.

There's an underlying message communicated here that the quality of their relationship is more important than the status of it (status equaling colleagues vs. neighbors vs. roommates vs. lovers) At the same time, he recognizes that status (boss/subordinate and, yes, romantic/platonic) is important to society. The impact that weight has on a person's psyche cannot be brushed aside. It's respected by them both.

They've survived abusive relationships. They are finding the value in sitting with loneliness and building personal confidence. They know they have unconditional friends backing them up. They grace each other with the gift of understanding and space to heal and to grow.

No rush. No pressure. No rejection. Good vibes only.

#I binged the whole series the day after Christmas #and was in absolute tears #happy tears #utterly demolished #you don't see something like this everyday #and building the cat house?????? oh my god what a symbol for building the foundation of a relationship #because this wasn't an ending it was a strong beginning #anyway very nervous about dropping this out of my drafts finally #that first screenshot was probably overlooked by everyone #but my hyper-vigilant ass latched on to that mfker #my new boss is goofy #atarashii joushi wa do tennen