#Kinmunity slander

[brightside-brigade]

So, I've been thinking about kin stuff a lot lately, more specifically my time back on Kinmunity. If you don't know, it's an online forum site for kin folk of all kinds. Maybe some people from there are on here? If so, hi, my username was InkyDaily, I'm still kicking.

But, I've realized how that being on that site did more harm than good for me as a whole with its philosophies and ways of running. Now I'm not dragging people who use the site or anything, I'm just talking about my own experiences, and keep in mind the site may have changed since I was there.

The site as a whole always felt... clinical. In a sense. There was a whole culture around things that made for a very limiting experience. There was pressure I always felt to keep up and fit in the very neat box The site had set out for being kin. Like there was a right way and a wrong way. There was a lot of pressure to fully understand your identity, not have fun with it. In fact the whole site felt very... pro cringe culture.

There was a lot of emphasis of always questioning your kintypes, and never taking any feelings you get at face value, and if you didn't, you were wrong. No, I'm not saying those who go about their identities this way are incorrect, because you're not. The only right way is your way after all. However, it's not right to push your way onto others, which is something I often felt the site did, and that led to me having quite a few identity crises.

I felt so pressured to fit in at the time, I even ended up lashing out at people who used terms like "kinning," off site. I'm not proud and I'm not excusing myself. However I do feel this was a product of the environment the site provided. This created an openly hostile environment not only for people who just liked those terms, but to new kin folk just starting out.

I mean, imagine you're a newly awakened little guy (gn) and you find and join the site. And on your intro post you immediately get grilled. "How do you know this is right," "what's your proof," or things like "have you tried taking a step away from your source," ect. Again, if you yourself use these questions for your identity, that's okay. I'm talking about forcing it on others.

I eventually, through cramming myself into the box this site set up, I eventually became a mod. In my time as a mod, I watched our site admin, who I will not name here as that's not the point of this, complain about and put punishments on people they simply found annoying or didn't agree with the sites specific views. A young user was once banned and called delusional over believe in and being curious about the idea of transformation. I'm aware why this kind of thing isn't possible, but calling a child delusional is not only wrong but very ablelist.

I also banned those who acted too much like roleplayers, ect. Now I'm not talking about those who used the site to rp, but those who were more uh, like, rawr XD with their posts. And there's nothing wrong with that actually. The whole "us vs them" style about it felt really icky. I'm not making any direct comparisons, but saying that the way someone identifies has to be a certain way, and those who dont fit it should be avoided and spoken out against gives uh.... vibes.

This whole ordeal is why I find it hard to post about kin stuff myself, because of the mentality that site instilled in me. And I hate it.

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