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lordystrange · 1 year

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Let’s talk about sex baby 🎵

More specifically let’s talk about smut in fanfiction. I started this yesterday before the byler sex scene fiasco in byler tag, but I think this is even more relevant now.

(Don’t cancel me yet, read this first)

(I’m tagging multiple ships because this is not just about byler. And whether you approve smut or not, you should read this.)

So, usually there are two points of view. First one is very strongly against smut, because sexualisation of minors is wrong (which is true) even when they would be aged up in the smut fic.

Second one is pro smut fics, because they either don’t care OR they think having representation of sexual affection between teenagers is important in order to normalize sex for teens, not make it a tabu.

These two povs can co-exist and they should co-exist. The problem with the first one is this: this mindset tends to see sex as only a physical act. That it’s only about lusting certain bodyparts or certain types of bodies.

But it’s not. It can be, if you are a superficial person and see people only as objects. (Or if all participant agree that there is no feelings, only intercourse.) Sex with your romantic interest is a lot more. There is the connection and shared feelings. And when you are a teenager and experience your first love, it’s normal to also experience urges and learn about your and your partners bodies and have your first sexual experiences alone and together and learn from them.

Also you can learn a lot about sex when you’re reading about it. Of cource you could actually read sex ed books, but that’s pretty much just technical pov, not a romantic pov. If there is a character you relate to, your first sexual experience can be reading about that characters first times. The thoughts and the feelings, the preparation and the aftercare. And if it’s well written, it’s a lot better option than trying to learn about sex in phub.

Then there is ofc the queer pov, especially with byler fics. Two sides there too. I know homophobes who tend to see queer relationship only through a sexual lens, and that’s why it’s important to show them that they are so much more. And also that there can be asexuals there too. Some homophobes again don’t even believe in queer relationships and/or think they are not normal. Then it’s important to show them, that queer relationship is a relationship just as much as a straight one, in the romantic and the sexual way.

Basically my main point here is, that writing a fic where teenagers (possibly queer ones) have sex is not necessarily sexualisation of those characters. It can be, but when it’s not and the fic is written right it’s actually excellent (queer) representation.

How can you do it right then? What can be wrong in the latter pov?

Well, when writing a smut fic, the people should be written as people, not props. If they are treated as props for sex, it’s sexualisation. Also in ST we have seen how the characters look like, so changing their features into sexier ones is also sexualisation.

Now let’s talk about age. Like I said earlier, sex is a normal part of life for a teenager. But it’s also normal if it’s not. Different people are ready for at different ages. And some might never wanna have sex and that’s fine.

If you write a fic where teens have sex, the important thing is to make it realistic. They are not sex gods, not well experienced, they shouldnt go all the way right after their first kiss, everything doesnt go perfectly…. If everything is ”perfect” and they are mature and well experienced at the age of 15, that’s sexualisation. Not realistic.

I appreciate that many smut fic writers age up ther characters (yes i did research in ao3 for this post). But I also noticed A LOT of fics where the characters (or just one of them) were 12 OR YOUNGER… and that brings me to the next topic.

Writing about little children having sex is just sexualisation. It’s not the same thing as teens having sex. Kids don’t have sex. And especially when just one of them is a kid and one is adult, that’s not even sex. That’s rape. If you are having pedophilic thoughts, get help. (Of course if writing kid smut is what keeps you from actually raping a child it’s a lot better to write the kid smut, but perhaps don’t share it with the world. And please get help)

The last thing I wanna talk about is kinks. I’m not a fan of kinks, I don’t have them and I don’t get them at all. But it’s no shame if you do. And they are normal to have. If you wanna write about them, you can, but remember everything I said earlier. 15 year olds having their first time shouldn’t include kinky stuff, that’s just you sexualising them. And of course use the right tags!

This is fanfiction after all, so basically everyone are free to write whatever they want, I cant stop you. But the things I mentioned above are really good to keep in mind.

And the most important thing to remember when you post a smut fic (or any fic really) is this: Use correct tags and warnings. That way no one will accidentally read something they don’t like.

Comment or reblog if you want. If I forgot something relevant, please add that. :)

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