#I'm just kinda ranting here sorry. There's a reason I tend to avoid that but I had to many Thoughts

[chill-vibes-but-rainbow-panic]

Honestly, maybe it's just the fact that I might be aspec, or that I've never been in a relationship myself, but I always find it. Really weird how people talk about their exes.

Like, I was watching a roleplay-video about two people arguing, because one of them kept getting messages from her ex, and not few people in the comments were like:

"Nah, not immediately blocking your ex is a red flag, she's a manipulator"

"If your someone's ex, you can't just go back to being friends, something will stir up"

"If my girlfriend kept her ex's messages, I'd get up and leave, too"

And these are not exaggerations, these are just paraphrased comments.

And I find it weird, because (and btw the person in the vid wasn't even responding to the ex, so those comments were even less warranted), ever time there is a story like "I broke into my ex's house and burned their furniture and planted murder evidence on them), (especially if it's a girl and her guy ex, for some reason) there are so many responses like "Yaaas queen, they deserved it 100% NTA!!!"

But like...there's also no further context. People can break up for all sorts of reasons: Friends who got into a relationship and realized they liked being friends better; partners whose life goals just ended up not matching; partners that just fell out of love; anything like that. That's no reason to immediately go scorched earth on somebody.

Hell, even if they did despise each other afterwards, people can change! They could have gotten closer again! What do you mean exes can never be friends again!!! (Probably stretching here, but it almost feels like treating romance as the highest form of relationship, meaning if it doesn't work out, no other form will)

Idk, sometimes it just feels like people immediately equate ex to 'worst person to exist on planet earth and an abuser', even if it could just mean 'person you are no longer in a romantic relationship with' and not much else

I can understand, if a new partner might be worried about being left for an older flame (because you can't really control what you worry about much), but a simple "We're not on bad terms, so we still talk" should be enough, and not this whole "but they are your EX!!!!" thing. It really depends on the individual relationship with the ex, and shouldn't be generalized this much

#Genuinely can't decide if aspec tags are appropriate here #It's probably not *that* relevant to the topic really #ex partner #I'm just kinda ranting here sorry. There's a reason I tend to avoid that but I had to many Thoughts #might delete later #Just Talking

[mcnuggyy]

As a white person and budding artist (that sure is. An intro) I'm always super careful to try and avoid harmful cultural and visual stereotypes in my art and practice sketches. I was wondering if you have/have posted any tips for drawing mexican people? I always do research before drawing anyone from a different culture or of a different race but it can be tricky to find things written by theae minorities themselves and I am always hesitant to take tips from another white artist on drawing other races 😅 (I also apologise if I worded anything badly here, I'm autistic and struggle to word things sometimes! Please feel free to correct me if I did!)

Heyo! I think the biggest reason there isn’t or even I haven’t ever made a how to draw Mexicans is ‘cause Mexico is very very diverse, and the majority of us are Mestizo ( “mixed race, especially one having Spanish and indigenous descent.”) There are definitely racist stereotypes to avoid such as orange skin, thick black mustache, lazy, alcoholic, poncho wearing, Mexican. Obviously. But this is just one small part of the coin, when there is a lot of anti-blackness, and anti-indigenous sentiments in our own communities, EVEN THOUGH, the majority of us ARE mixed race. This has to do with colonization, and the way the Spaniards just really fucked us over, brain washed us, and made being a White Mexican the IDEAL Mexican. So there’s a LOT to unpack there. 

Especially with Mestizos being prejudice towards their Indigenous communities WHILE STILL practicing the very same important practices that came from those communities (Dia De Muertos for example) Basically there’s an issue of still wanting to be Mexican, and have pride in your country, and culture, but not wanting be like those "dirty brown” Mexicans. To the point where the government is constantly trying to push the “we are all one Mexican race and nation” while actively trying to get people to essentially erase our Indigenous communities. Like there’s this big idea of “marrying White” that even my mom used to believe in for a while, because her own mother taught her that as well in order to assimilate and what not.  Again, lots of colorism and bigotry within our own communities. It’s a very big and complex issue, that we can thank the Spaniards for ( and the Mexican government who continues to uphold these toxic ideas), YAYY colonization!!! Weeee!!!!

( I mean I can even see it in my own family, with my dad’s side of the family clearly not being able to pass as White being severely impoverished, while my mom’s side of the family, who overall is much more White passing, have been able to hold positions of power in large companies and can even afford to buy more than one house)

Sorry to get into that very long rant, but I do think it’s very important to know this information to get started with actually figuring out how to accurately portray a Mexican, Tejano, Mex-Am, Afro-Mexican etc. Because well, anyone can be Mexican, just like anyone can be American! But I’ll get into the main communities that exist in Mexico to help you out!

So again, Mestizos (mixed-race) are the biggest group in Mexico, making up over 93% of the population! So that’s a good chunk of us jaja! So it’s good to talk about how different you can look in a mixed-race family! And what better example than my own family!

Both my parents look very “stereotypically” Mexican by American standards, especially my dad who is the absolute definition of a macho ranchero Mexicano jaja. Both my parents come from small farming communities in Mexico, but look very different themselves! Each pueblo kinda has their own differences too! The people from my mom’s pueblo all tend to have much lighter skin, with cool undertones, some even have blue or green eyes, and red hair! While the people from my dad’s pueblo (98 people in total there, very very small jajaja) Tend to have deep red undertones, thick dark hair, curly hair, hooked noses, and very very rarely hazel eyes! So it’s no wonder me and my siblings look so different as well! (none of us are adopted I assure you) 

So I’m very lucky cause I have a HUGE family to use as reference, and reference is key!!! but there are many cool Mexican celebrities and public figures you can use as reference if you don’t happen to know anyone (tho It’s always good to have friends with different experiences from your own as always)

But here’s some examples of how different mestizos can look, including some of my own specific references!

There is also our Indigenous communities “ Mexico's indigenous population is one of the two largest in the Americas (only Peru is comparable in size). More than one in ten Mexicans speaks an indigenous language”

I really recommend checking out this website to learn more, as this is something I’m still learning more about myself! 

Then of course we have our Afro-Mexican community! Mexico is cruel to it’s Indigenous communities, but even more so to Afromexicanos, who until recently were completely ignored by Mexico’s census. You can read more about this issue here.  Spaniards of course play a big part in the issues that face Afromexicanos today.  You can learn even more about this history here!

Did you know Lupita Nyong’o is Mexican! (A fellow Lupita <3 )

And of course, can’t forget White Mexicans! Don’t think the Spaniards just left after a while, because they stayed jajaja. (Look no further than Novellas and most big celebrates for some examples fhhffhf) 

So there really is no absolute way to represent us! (which was an issue I had with Coco actually.. with everyone having the exact same orange/brown skin) There is certainly a picture that comes to American’s heads when they think “Mexican” but in reality, things are much more diverse, beautiful, and complicating than that! 

However I do have some small little things I personally like to do to help indicate when I’m making a Mexican / Mex-Am character design based off of all of the information above along with my family and friends as reference! 

Moles! I don’t know why, but every Latino I know has so many moles.... from my childhood friends to my ex boyfriend, to every single cousin have... MOLES MOLES MOLES! Why? I haven’t a clue, but I always add them to my character designs jajaja! Even if it’s just a little one on the neck <3

Thick hair! It is a curse and a blessing. My grandpa will never bald compared to a white man, but in exchange I have to deal with shaving my chin every day to compensate LMAO. So I like giving my characters thick eyebrows, dark body hair, or thicker hair than most designs! It’s cool and neat!!! But please be mindful about how you do this as there have been white artists who have done this in racist and harmful ways, such as rcdart. ( X ) ( X ) 

I also recommend checking out shows like El Tigre, and Victor y Valentino, for some more fun and simple designs that show a wide variety of Mexican characters! (Also I just love Jorge R Gutierrez’s designs in general jaja)

Hope this helps! <3

#long post #wow this got really long #but HEY! there's lots to talk about jajaa #and this is like very limited to my own knowledge as well so fjhjrf #yeah!!! #anonymous #replies #callate guero

[mysticalacursedone-blog]

OOC: I'm sorry for lack of being on here.  I don’t feel safe.

Past few months, I haven’t been feeling safe. There are four people who I’m trying to avoid that I had awful experiences roleplaying with in the past[three out of the four found me]. I used to RP on tumblr back in 2011 with a different character doodlebob, and left in January of 2013. One of them caused me to leave the RP world. Even closed my personal because of them. I rejoined rp in late 2016 re-making doodlebob and starting Cosmo and I don't know where the heck I got this logic but, I somehow thought I wouldn’t run into them or they wouldn’t find me.  I didn’t realize how small the RP world was.  It also doesn’t help that some people lied to me about not interacting with one person in particular who did something to me that’s highly unforgivable and disgusting [i feel really uncomfortable saying publicly in a post what they did.], just to try to keep a friendship with me or just to RP. I’ve been really paranoid. This particular person changes their URLS and alias a lot[stalked me on my old personal with a different alias. They were REALLY good at disguising them self]. They’re a parasite.  Once you meet them, they don’t leave you alone.  They’re in my rules [along with another person out of the four. The other two don't bug me that much, one of them did minor things(guilt tripping people and kinda hard for me to trust.) the other was awful to me and other friends but, once ties were cut off, they left us all alone for good.  I still don’t want to see them.].  I hate mentioning them in posts, nor do I really want to for two reasons. 1. I don't want people thinking I'm trying to add drama on here. 2. I’ve noticed they like the negative attention they get [along with the other person listed] and use it to their advantage. This hasn’t been good on my mental health. It’s stressing me out and I can’t think straight, I’ve made mistakes and feel like I’ve been alienating myself from people., losing some friends I made on here due to it, and my rant habits thinking I want attention when I don't [I deeply apologize to all. I'm not good with getting my thoughts out properly, and don't look over what I put down(which I should. It's fully my mistake). I tend to just post or send everything when caught up in the moment.]. So, I took breaks from tumblr [and on top of that, real life stuff is effecting me] to avoid it and clear my head. Another reason I left a bit was, my muse for Cosmo was disappearing due to all this. [its slowly coming back. I need to re-watch early seasons again].

I’m sorry for not replying to threads it’s been hard with my muse being on and off.  When I have a good reply, it’s lost.  I really do want to RP with you all.  This will be the last time I post about these people.

#non magical post [ooc] #Rant #Don't be surprised if #i delete this #i get nervous