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#I feel so šŸ¤“ rn Iā€™m sorryyy I just love this topic itā€™s like getting to the core of each characterā€™s psychology and shit itā€™s so AAAAAH
fumifooms Ā· 3 months
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Hey what're your thoughts on how marcille and chilchuck show affection for marchil?
I mean, marcille seems to be the type to be the most blatantly affectionate of the two, but I want to know your headcanons and observations on the subject. How do they communicate their wants for affection, and what do they view as signs of affection (ex: hugs, small gifts, ect.) and such?
Sorry it took me this long to answer!! Thank you sm for sending a marchil ask my way I swear I love them sm, they spark joy and even if I have uhh -checks- 67 drafts already I love dropping everything for them when the mood comes hehehe. I love talking about love languages actually! Little did you know that the first post I made on this blog was about analyzing the love languages of an ot3 lmao. The only reason why this is so late overdue is because as always Iā€™m going to talk so much about it. The pics I put in it are relevant but I donā€™t put them right beside where I make my point, so stick with me even if theyā€™re a bit jarring at first, theyā€™re just meant to show aspects of them~.
Marcille and Chilchuckā€™s love languages
+ their domestic romantic dynamic. Iā€™ll say, I ended up talking even more than I expected, and though it is in a marchil context I think my analysis of the characters is relevant even if their partner was anyone else, so non-marchil shippers might also enjoy this post! Give it a shot maybe~
To open it up, I think this post is very relevant. Marchil is def a ship where the ways in which they say they love each other feel more subtle, for Chilchuck at least.
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Their perspective, boundaries and overlap
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I think Chilchuck and Marcille recognize the otherā€™s way of showing affection well, though itā€™s very obvious that Marcille and Chilchuckā€™s ways are super different. Marcille is very open and loud and Chilchuckā€¦ Isnā€™t. Chilchuck is reserved while Marcille loves to get all the affection she can get. Marcille could be seen as too much while Chilchuck would be too little. One could even say they arenā€™t compatible, but I think thatā€™d be a mistake.
Yes Marcille loves big grand gestures and a lot of open communication, but her thing is analyzing people as they are, like how when she imagines how itā€™d have been like as his wife she put in details like how heā€™d be annoyed at having to wait for her to get ready and didnā€™t idealize that part of their relationship. Sheā€™s very good at putting herself in othersā€™ shoes, at understanding why they might feel this or that way. She typically doesnā€™t seem put off when Chil is snappy or discouraging at her, like when she shows him the ball of Izutsumiā€™s hair that she shaped into a cat lol. (The panel at the start of this section was when she was disappointed in him for cheating on his wife, so her good esteem for him was gone). She has a high esteem of Chilchuckā€™s intentions and has good faith in him overall, so instead of going "Heā€™s annoyed at waiting on meā€¦ Am I annoying to him? Does he dislike me?" or "He didnā€™t notice I got upset when we were out drinking with his colleagues. Does he even love me anymore? Would he care if I left him?" she goes "Oh thatā€™s just how he is, I know if thereā€™s an actual issue heā€™ll tell me, and he still has my best interests at heart.". Who knows if sheā€™d always be able to rationalize and keep that optimistic attitude up long term, but it gives me a good impression that she would! Or that at least sheā€™d communicate about it if she felt their relationship had a problem. She loves to confront people about that sort of thing! She can be more insecure and meek when the topic is sensitive to her like her being a half-elf, but when it comes to relationships like that, I believe sheā€™d stand up for herself if it came down to it. The way she said that his wife might have left to "test his love" and see if heā€™d chase after her is a bit worrying to me, but ultimately I think that was her dramatic novels fan self talking and not something that sheā€™d do herself. If she did leave, she would sooo leave a super long dramatic letter about how she felt and the situation and heā€™d reply and theyā€™d make up I think. ANYWAYS!
Of course everyone needs to be shown some affection once in a while regardless of if she knows well how he is or not, and Marcille would be very unashamed about asking that of him. Sheā€™d respect his boundaries with public displays of affection as much as heā€™d demand it, but sheā€™d be her usual overt self with stealing kisses or making him say I love you regularly. 0 PDA would be rough on her if Chilchuck wanted it that far, but sheā€™d do it, sheā€™d be able to twist it into something endearing too, like her being like "No one else gets to see him this way but me, I have this sweet side of him all to myself" and "Heā€™s just reserved like that, it makes the time when he does show it all the more meaningful", them cuddling a ton as soon as they get home and Marcille feels touch starved, etc etc. So what Iā€™m getting at with all this is: Marcilleā€™s love languages are very self-evident and hard to miss so unless Marcille suddenly acts mopey and doesnā€™t tell him why, and unless Chilchuck has some anxiety (what with his ex wife just up and leaving without him having been able to see the warning signs), he would feel very confident in her love for him and comfortable in the relationship, if not a little tired or frustrated with some aspects of it if she sometimes does too much.
Meanwhile, like mentioned, even if Chilchuckā€™s love languages are more subtle, more rooted in casual domesticity rather than big gestures or words, Marcille would see and recognize that and not hold it against him or feel burdened by it. She highly values communication ā€”in a way they both do, even if when itā€™s about feelings Chilchuck becomes a bit of an ostrich hiding his head undergroundā€” so if thereā€™s a problem sheā€™ll for sure confront him about it too. Chilchuck is good at voicing when there are practical problems or when heā€™s uncomfortable, and Marcille is good at voicing when there are emotional problems, so theyā€™re pretty complementary in that way.
Surprisingly I think if she ever did a marriage proposal itā€™d be very private though, itā€™d be a big deal to her and she would want to talk about it in the comfort of their lonesome, already thinking through the grief and how everything would work. I think Chikchuck would also prefer a private proposal, but on the other end I could totally see him thinking sheā€™d love this grand fancy gesture of a big public proposal and organize one for her (Ooh good fic prompt right there). Once theyā€™ve talked it through though theyā€™re both very enthusiastic about it and openly talk about it with friends and coworkers, and Marcille gushes about her fiancĆ© and they both have bachelor parties on their own end and whatnot. The big day would be a fun one, and the daughters would be the perfect wingwomen I believe~
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Their love languages
Alright now that the groundwork is done letā€™s do this thing! Ok so the "official" love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts (giving and receiving), quality time and acts of service.
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Marcille
Starting with Marcille, sheā€™s pretty balanced Iā€™d say! In the sense that she cranks them all to the max. Oh yes, and part of it is that sheā€™s very aware that the time they have together is counted, so she wants to make the most out of every moment.
Idk if itā€™s fair to say that Marcille has something like separation anxiety, what with her getting mad at Falin when she left and they didnā€™t see each other for 4 years, and with during canon with Falin and such, because theyā€™re all intense situations that donā€™t necessarily show how clingy(or not) she would be under normal circumstances (and she doesnā€™t live with them so sheā€™s def ok with distance to some degree), but also I def think itā€™s fair to say that due to her experiences with loss sheā€™s scared of taking her eye off of someone she loves for one moment and for them to disappear, also like how we see her talk to Izutsumi when she thinks sheā€™s going to prison. All that to say that yes, quality time!! She adores quality time, sheā€™s the kind to soak up in someoneā€™s presence even if theyā€™re doing completely different things in the same room. She loves talking with him, cooking with him, bathing with him, even just chilling on the couch together. Post-canon theyā€™d both be rather busy I imagine, so it only makes those moments they share more important. Theyā€™re trying out the long distance thing and making it work with the power of communicating well šŸ™ Again, sheā€™s big on acts of service, would resurrect you, would bathe you, would nurse you back to health or do something for you. Since sheā€™s observant I could see her noticing subtle things in Chilchuckā€™s routine that she could help with, like getting his mug of coffee for him each morning, etc. I feel like those things are so natural to her that she wouldnā€™t mention them to Chilchuck or talk about how she does these things, so if sheā€™s doing too much Chilchuck has to tell her because she wonā€™t realize otherwise.
Gifts. We see with how she showers Chil in apology gifts intended to be from him to his family that she does value gifts! Giving wise, I think sheā€™d be the type to be out shopping, see something that reminds of you then get it for you casually. Itā€™s probably resulted in a few joke gifts that did not land lol, like idk modern AU a grumpy cat mug, or socks with "If you can read this bring me a beer" written underneath them. Sheā€™ll also put her heart and soul into gifts sometimes, especially for birthdays which mark the passage of time for her and even if a year passes by a little fast she makes it a point to always always go all out about it, she wants to show that he matters to her and thinks of him a lot, so sheā€™ll put all of herself into picking out an heartfelt gift. She can get a little stressed and perfectionist over it but she does genuinely enjoy picking out gifts and giving them. Receiving wise, sheā€™s also super big on it! Sheā€™s the kind to instantly value gifts more than other, maybe better suited options she has, like if you give her an ugly hair accessory or a mug sheā€™ll 100% use them all the time from then onā€¦ Until she passes onto something new and the item gets sidelined a bit, but then when sheā€™ll find it again years from then on sheā€™ll be struck by memories and emotions and how much it all meant to her. I could see Chil getting her choker necklaces like she often wears for example, or books he canā€™t begin to understand about magic theory. Itā€™s not as much of a ā€˜love languageā€™ as the other ones I think, but she does really appreciate them, and if Chil makes an effort to get her flower bouquets somewhat regularly it would for sure make her feel really loved and happy. Oh yes! Also I def think that if she took up sewing or (personal hc) sheā€™d love felting bc of when she did a tiny Izutsumi with her hair, sheā€™d love making handmade gifts! Sheā€™d weave him a bracelet. Sheā€™d write him letters and put a nice scented oil on them.
Physical touch ohhh sheā€™s big on touch. Even platonically we see that sheā€™s very casual with her touches and does it a ton to most people (mostly Falin, Izutsumi and Chilchuck, but with her being a healer it also happens with Laios etc) and likes to cuddle or hang onto others, in daydream hour artworks, when sleeping with Izutsumi in an extra, etc etc. Even if she had a romantic partner I think sheā€™d keep doing that with her friends and maybe even favoring Falin when sheā€™s there for platonic touch, but I also def think that sheā€™d be super touchy feely with her partner both in public and in private. As long as it doesnā€™t interfere with what Chilā€™s doing and he can remain cool and collectedā„¢ļø he wouldnā€™t mind I think, so theyā€™d be holding hands often and like, if he were to sit down on a couch with a beer sheā€™d just drape herself over him and theyā€™d chill out there (until they talk and she makes him laugh too hard and he spits his beer out all over them rip), not unlike how Izutsumi would. But YES physical touch is def a big love language for her, wether theyā€™re arguing or just sharing a soft moment together, if he put his hand to her cheek gently she would melt into his touch. And she loves doting on others herself and touching them and feeling like theyā€™re real and warm and alive, so yes yes touch is a big thing to her. Words of affirmation arenā€™t a big deal to her to give out, because itā€™s so natural to her, but they would mean a lot to her to receive. She can get insecure and feel lonely/alone, and having someone be supportive and tell her that she is valued like in the mandrake chapter lifts a lot of weight off of her shoulders, and I imagine thatā€™s doubly meaningful when the words are each and all true and earned when they come from Chil. Whenever he says "I love you" unprompted itā€™s like an arrow to the heart. Again, if he made the effort to be romantic and like idk, tell her poetic things like itā€™s a love letter she would absolutely melt. "My boyfriend is the best, most romantic most loving most virtuous man" @ everyone in hearing distance etc etc. She wants to keep his words all to herself and be a little greedy but just maybe while kicking her feet sheā€™d go "and then he said blablabla~" with friends and coworkers at the palace (who may or may nit be willing listeners lol).
So because of all of this, of how she values all of them, I think sheā€™d cherish whichever love language her partner does the least! She likes variety, and like weā€™ve talked a bit she adapts herself to whoever sheā€™s with a bit. Sheā€™s personally a big cuddler, but sheā€™d value whenever Chilchuck says that he loves her etc more in the end because she knows how much that means for him and how many feelings were put into that gesture for her.
She wants the full range of affection, everything that someone is ready to offer. She wants the full storybook romance experience babyy, if itā€™s a crumb of love sheā€™ll take it and gobble it up whichever form it takes. They all mean something to her in different ways.
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Chilchuck
Chilchuck is more picky. He knows what he likes and what he doesnā€™t like, and he doesnā€™t like to compromise much (though learning to do so is part of his arc in canon). His favorites are acts of service and words of affirmation, and physical touch selectively, imo.
First of all, Chilchuck is a more private person by nature, but I think itā€™s also worth pointing out that he has some stress over how things ended with his wife, so someone growing on him and him getting to trust them etc also just takes slower. Wether you think Chilchuck will largely be open and comfortable once the confessionā€™s done and theyā€™re dating, or if him opening up and growing used to being loving and loved again is more gradual even throughout their romantic relationship, his love languages will differ depending on what "stage" he is at. For example, I think heā€™d actually love receiving words of affirmation, theyā€™re just not his highest priority and he needs to highly value them and trust them first, trust that theyā€™re not lies or that you donā€™t have shit judgement. For the rest of this though Iā€™ll assume theyā€™ve been dating for a good while and have grown used to it and are very familiar with each other. Like Marcille maybe his insecurities creep up on him sometimes, but with the power of communication and support those moments tend to be short lived šŸ’Ŗ She keeps him from using alcohol as a bad coping mechanism & distraction too much.
Ok so starting out with quality timeā€¦ Iā€™ll get it out of the way but yes I think theyā€™d be sexually active, though with how they work away from each other like with his wife and he spent 4 years holding out fr her his libido isnā€™t as intense as weā€™d asssume I think, and for elves "often" might be like once a month, so who knows. This is gonna come back in the physical touch section~ But yes Chilchuck spent a lot of time away from his family, so I think if he values quality time he super values the quality more than the quantity of time spent together. That said, I also headcanon that he gets stuck in his head a bunch about it so as long as he thinks about his family to motivate him on the job for example, he also half-asses the time he spends home and heā€™s generally too tired to go out and do big things, just wanna relax, so idk!! He might be a bit of a neglectful lover and Marcille needs to poke him so they go out on dates, but yes I think in a similar way to Marcille he really appreciates the time just spent together, even if itā€™s working on their own thing in the same room. As for conversations or emotionally meaningful moments, I think emotional stuff tires him out quickly, unlike with Marcille where she seeks emotional stimulation from books, so spending time being heartfelt and vulnerable together would be appreciated, but would need to be kinda rare for him to not be exhausted dead lying on the pavement and unable to keep up. Feeling gets him tired too, he never knows wether to repress or let the love grow or how to word what heā€™s feeling etc etc. At least at first, dates that are activities and allows him to just have fun without thinking much are best. Itā€™ll take him time to grow more used to feeling emotionally naked with her and for it to come more easily and naturally, but theyā€™ll get there and theyā€™ll be sooo domestic. So in the end! Quality time is appreciated but not particularly important, Chilchuck can really keeps the love going even when spending a loooong time away from each other or keeping the moments spent together casual. Oh yes I havenā€™t gone into that in any of my posts so far I think, but part of why heā€™s so casual and seemingly dismissive with his wife imo is because the relationship was sooo based on familiarity, respect and trust to him, theyā€™ve been together forever, he trusted that they loved each other and were in this together and that he didnā€™t have to be extra for her to feel comfortable in the relationship because he trusted that she knew him well enough, trusted that she would stay with him even if their relationship wasnā€™t perfect, etc etc. So imo as long as heā€™s like "I love her and thatā€™s enough for me, I trust that if thereā€™s something up sheā€™ll tell me and we can figure it out, I trust in our relationship to stay strong even if we donā€™t see each other much" then he can seem very casual and neglectful from an outside perspective. But make no mistake he thinks about her all the time and sighs forlornly because he wants to sleep in her arms after a hard day of work and has horny dreams of her 10/10 she matters a lot to him.
Acts of service!!! Biiig big one, thereā€™s little more that Chilchuck values receiving than respect, though heā€™s much more stingy about giving it out, what with his teasing and insulting snappy remarks and how heā€™s always laughing at Marcille in canon. But yes like mentioned just before, Chilchuck likes familiarity in a relationship, so his partner anticipating his needs and going out of their way to do services for him would be suuper appreciated and would make him feel loved, would make him feel understood which in turn makes him feel safe that he doesnā€™t have to try and be someone heā€™s not to satisfy her and that she understands him well enough that she wouldnā€™t leave him due to miscommunication. Doing big favors would also be appreciated, but he prefers to live a routinely daily life imo so the acts of service would show themselves in small ways, like idk letting the water run in the bath because he knows Marcille will want to take a relaxing bath when she comes home from work. Itā€™s definitely the love language that he does/give out the most imo, theyā€™re the way heā€™s most comfortable showing that he cares and that he thinks of them and that he loves them, and he can feel safe doing them in any context wether he has all the eyes in the world on him or if theyā€™re alone. Heā€™s also generally protective, and looking out for her would fit into this category imo. But yes post-canon, I think one way in which this shows is that heā€™d do her hairdos, maybe even daily if possible. He loves blonde hair and heā€™s agile with his fingers, but he doesnā€™t value complicated hairdos much, but heā€™d learn a lot of hairdos for her, because he loves her and knows how it was once super important to her, and also bc he wants her to slay out there and at the same time heā€™s doing himself a favor by prettying it up hehe. He had a thing for undone long hair but he loves Marcille and when in the final chapters her hair was all messy the unfamiliar sight of it unsettled him, so besides just wanting her to get through the day without eating her hair and getting the urge to shave it all off, he also just does it because it feels so her and he remembers that side of her fondly (yes, even if that used to make her take even longer to get ready in the mornings).
Might surprise you might not but I think gifts are everything to him. Like the cowl from his daughter that he always wears, and all the mementos from his family we see he keeps in his room, like the dragon plush and the flower. Maybe they help him feel that the love people hold for him is real and exists/has existed at least at one point, maybe itā€™s about the memories, maybe itā€™s about being able to keep hanging onto them even after a relationship is over, idk!!!! But I think having gifts from his loved ones makes him feel like his life is fuller and warmer and like he always has some love surrounding him. For that reason he would super value gifts that Marcille would get for him. She overdoes it a bit and often gets him stuff for no particular occasions, mostly stuff thatā€™s useful and that gets consumed so itā€™s not a problem or a bother though, but when it sticks it sticks, like a durable pair of gloves in a style he likes that she got for him. I donā€™t think photographs exist (at least not for the non-dwarves) but if they did oooh heā€™d be keeping stacks of them, would have some framed, he wouldnā€™t want people to know because he thinks heā€™d look corny but he wouuuuuld. Heā€™d also have the "this reminds me of Marcille" moments when out into town, looking at jewelry or food that she likes (I imagine this is often the sort of gift/act of service heā€™d get for her, meals that he picked out because she loves them), but heā€™d also have the instinct to get her a gift on special occasions, and heā€™s s bit clumsy with it but he wants to make the item meaningful. He knows what she thinks is romantic, the woman has made plans for him to apologize to his wife with gifts after all, but he also knows that she loves gifts that scream "him" too so the man just doesnā€™t know what to do to make it as best as he could and he really doesnā€™t want to fuck it up. I think once heā€™d made a little metal sculpture-puzzle for her, like a little rabbit out of metal scraps, and heā€™d be so self-conscious about it but my god sheā€™d adore it sooo much. Itā€™d be cute if he got her a locket, even, and then with the help of imported dwarven technology they could get a picture of them or even all their friends into it and it becomes her most precious item for the following centuries. Ouuugh thatā€™d make a sweet fic where he plans out a birthday party for herā€¦ā€¦ But yes yes, practical giftsā€¦ He knows she values ornamental useless things, unlike him, and though he doesnā€™t fully approve he also wants to do right by her so heā€™d go out of his comfort zone and find pretty gifts for her. I touch upon it a bit in my fic Grind Me Down Sweetly (named bc ground coffee beans & itā€™s meant to be like her slowly getting through the walls he built around himself :] Finding a newfound vulnerability with someone new but finding it soothing, sweet even if a lil bitter bc itā€™s coffee), and for example he gives her money for a favor she did for him as a friend. She doesnā€™t want to accept it, because to her doing something for her friend to help them out is more meaningful than getting rewarded for it, but for him respecting each otherā€™s time and abilities is a big thing too. They end up compromising somewhat, because she then spends that money on gifts for him/them to share, so it ends up being a gift to the both of them for a shared effort~
Alrighty physical touch. In canon we see him get touched quite a lot, and when it isnā€™t patronizing or crowding (like others going to pet his head) he doesnā€™t seem to mind at all. But itā€™s a question of wether heā€™d enjoy it here. We donā€™t really saw that I think? He often doesnā€™t mind touching others but usually his touches have a practical purpose like pushing or pulling someone out of danger, and when it isnā€™t he doesnā€™t seem to enjoy it, like when Izutsumi sleeps in his bed. As far as I remember the only time we see him happy for touch beyond the few meaningful hugs like when he wanted the party to head back to the surface, was when his succubi were seducing him, sooo overall I get the feeling heā€™s not big on touch. Like being open with his feelings itā€™s something heā€™d keep for the more occasional time rather than something he does often. He is casual with touches but doesnā€™t give it out and seek it out naturally, so Marcille being very clingyā€™s not a problem, and as we see with Izutsumi always sleeping with him heā€™s ready to sacrifice his comfort for others too sometimes. I think being Marcilleā€™s lover though I feel like heā€™d warm up to touches more, like sheā€™d love to have him rest his head on her lap and to massage his scalp so eventually Chil looks forward to that as part of their routine and it relaxes him and feels right. I think he does like kissing, the routine goodbye peck feels warm and soothing, but with touch what heā€™d like the most would be making out and having sex and whatnot. Listen itā€™s super meaningful to him like, the peak of being vulnerable and naked and pouring out his emotions for someone for him. But yes she hangs onto his arm, holds his hand, goes to hug him from behind when heā€™s cooking, etc etc, and he doesnā€™t dislike it, but itā€™s not one of his love languages perse in that sense. Itā€™s more that physical touches are a part of her, so he associates those with her, and so in a way he quite likes them, but itā€™s nit something he gravitates towards.
Words! I forget what Iā€™ve mentioned already and what I havenā€™t oof, but yes Chilchuck values respect a lot, and with his last relationship he now values straightforward communication a lot. "If you want to leave me, at least please tell me first" style. But just with the way he is in canon too, where he hypes up his professional skills a lot, getting earned praised does mean something to him. Inversely, he devalues himself interpersonally quite a bit, calling himself a coward or selfish etc etc, and ultimately itā€™s Marcille telling him that he was a virtuous husband and that he may still have a shot with his wife that makes him see the glass half full and reflect on himself more positively! Remember what I said about Chilchuck first needing to value someoneā€™s opinion before putting stock in their words? This is the canon moment that makes me feel the most like she earned that trust from him, he values what she says and her perspective. He knows her words arenā€™t empty and heā€™s able to trust in them more than he trusts his own judgement about himself. So yes yes, he loves getting told that he has qualities, that heā€™s skilled and manly and handsome and virtuous and kind, though he doesnā€™t need to be told "I love you" heā€™d still find it nice ofc. I say this because as Iā€™ve said I think his way of being in a longterm relationship is soaking in the familiar casual soothing energy of it, he loves knowing her and noticing the little things (much like her with how she notices that he hates having to wait on someone for example), and he trusts her love in him, so he doesnā€™t feel like being told I love you is necessary, but it is a nice bonus.
And this is the bit where the post I linked at the beginning becomes especially relevant. I think Chilchuck shows his affection in subtle but thoughtful ways that showcase just how much they know each other, because to him love languages are less about proving how much love one holds for another but about defining the bond that they share, about quality more than quantity. Heā€™s not one for big gestures, he just wants to feel connected with the person heā€™s with. Access intimacy, in-jokes, being protective/attack dogism, knowing the little details (Marcilleā€™s favorite) and voluntary vulnerabilityā€¦ These truly ARE more in line with how Chilchuck shows his affection. And thus Marcille would see them for what they are and greatly value them as well.
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Last points
ā€¦ Help I forgot to talk about how teasing is like their whole thing lol
Ok so more concisely, Marcille will receive and give as much affection as sheā€™s allowed, while Chilchuck needs to have the right setting right mood for it and makes more efforts for her sake to outwardly show it.
Edited in: Short section about pet names!! Chilchuck likes to call people by name and finds that in itself to be intimate but with half-foot names having ā€˜first namesā€™ where Chilchuckā€™s is Chil, he might instinctively shorten it to Marci. Otherwise Iā€™ve thought itā€™d fun if he gave bunny themed pet names teasingly, like his silly rabbit like the meme or harebrain rip, ā€˜bunā€™ would have the benefit of being related to foodā€¦ But also I could see him defaulting to calling her ā€˜loveā€™, ESPECIALLY if they had a conversation about pet names and discussed it- it could be a more sustainable way for her to feel loved since heā€™s not regularly showing his affection outwardly much or saying "I love you", thatā€™d be sooo sweet I think. They discussed pet names, and since he doesnā€™t regularly say "I love you" or show affection all that much, having him call her love as a pet name eases all of that and makes her feel so special and loved. He takes a bit of time to get used to it and not feel silly and self-conscious, but nowadays it slips off the tongue so easily.
How do they communicate their wants for affection: Marcille will blatantly ask for it and/or make the first move herself, except for when she senses that Chil is tired and needs his space. Chilchuck will blink in morse code, and Marcille will somehow understand (to his upmost relief and adoration). Heā€™ll grab her sleeve subtly to ask for her attention and touch, wordlessly walk up to her and reach for her face to leave a tender kiss on her lips, quietly speak to her if he wants to tell her something. And, you know, the other half of the time he feels horny and on top of the world so he indulges her wants for big passionate gestures and being very blunt and forward about it.
What do they view as signs of affection: They recognize each otherā€™s way of showing affection well enough, but itā€™d be more about which signs they prefer Iā€™d say. For example, Chilchuck does love getting smothered by her kisses and affection sometimes, but if itā€™s in public 99% of the time the embarrassment will win over, so it ends up meaning more to him that she doesnā€™t, that she holds back for his sake and she loves him enough to do that and she doesnā€™t blame him for it and she cares and she would stay with him even if heā€™s maybe flawed and- It means a lot!!! Itā€™s like an act of service in that way. They compromise and do acts of service sooo much for each other, like she hurries in her care routine so he doesnā€™t have to wait on her for long, but then he sees her get out ready with her hair a mess and he takes the time to tie it up nicely for her. But yes Marcille overanalyzes everything and will seek out signs of affection into literally anything, but values whichever way to show affection she knows is hardest to do for Chil beyond the ones that feel so heartwarming because they just scream "Chil" to her. Meanwhile Chilchuck values her keeping in mind his boundaries, values her words and her being there for him, an unchanging fixture in his life offering him unconditional love through thick and thin. He values how well they know and understand each other, and how they communicate when things donā€™t feel as easy. Like, you know, when one of them becomes a dungeon lord and threatens humanity for example.
The compromises that being in a romantic relationship inevitably brings, and having to put some efforts to understand the other person and better the relationship, are points at the heart of Chilchuckā€™s plot with his wife imo. With the bicorn chapter, Marcille and Chilchuck have already hashed out a lot of their differences and come to a deeper understanding, so Iā€™d say theyā€™re halfway there to making it work :) Oohh what if I gave you hope in the world sometimes being a good bright pā€™ace where things can go right and love can be fulfilling and rewarding, and what if you gave me a concrete real example of the virtuous man figure that Iā€™ve always idealized in books even if no one real can be as flawless, and the compromise both our outlooks on lives mixed to make made something beautiful and productiveā€¦
A bit like how the sweet & salty sandwich feels like an ill-fitting mix of ingredients but still tastes surprisingly goodā€¦ Like perhaps a sweet woman and a sour man would go well together after all.
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Iā€™ll share this lil marchil song analysis @thatsmimi did once of Soap by The Oh Hellos to be the note I leave this post on~
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