#(well. perform it correctly or pray you had more queer/kind folks than church folks coming to dinner)

[jadedgenasi]

Watching people argue over tipping culture is just wild because the only two arguments presented are "pay the servers a living wage to begin with" and "servers actually make like 40$ an hour and you're killing them by guaranteeing a wage instead of letting them get tips."

My ass was queer in the South working at an IHOP making $2.14 an hour and going home with about 35$ a SHIFT on average, and it was NOT because I didn't do a good job. I had no idea I was queer at the time, I just had short hair and by god that was enough. Everyone else could smell it on me. My coworkers were pulling in 80, 100 every time I turned around and I was in college killing myself over paychecks that didn't cover my gas for the whole week. I begged to be allowed to host because they got the guaranteed $7.50 an hour.

I think it's stupid that restaurants are inflating prices by adding 20%-plus gratuities on checks and then saying that's not a tip. Like, I don't think this is being handled well and it feels like malicious compliance/like customers are meant to resent the servers and the idea of a fair wage for them, but I very much believe servers should not be paid a base rate of subminimum wage. That shit fucking sucks.

Your personality and your human face being the basis by which people decide if you eat tonight or make your rent is some horseshit. That's the bottom line.

#would i have had this issue in chicago? probably not! #was I in chicago? no. #I was in a college town in georgia and the fact that it was a college town meant I was ONLY passively aggressioned #instead of outright harrassed at every turn #working at ihop and the mexican restaurant was 'perform femininity correctly or starve' #and it shouldn't fucking be like that #(well. perform it correctly or pray you had more queer/kind folks than church folks coming to dinner)