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A brothers story: Narcissistic abuse.

How do you deal with a narcissistic person. An Ex wife is very difficult to deal with. When they were married she treated him like crap and knocked him down as much as she could. He was in the Marines she never let him do anything even with his family when he was home. Could you imagine not being able to even see your own family?! Their marriage was short lived but he only married her because she would take the child, and each time he requested a divorce she became pregnant or stated she will harm herself. He felt bad no matter how psychotic she is. Even her own family contacts him and tells him she’s crazy and to just leave be. Her own family sent him emails showing her mental issues with manic bipolar and multiple personality disorder as well as being a narcissist to not just him but anyone around her. Since childhood her family couldn’t deal with her as she has homicidal ideations when people make her a little mad. She was cheating the entire marriage. For years she has flipped her mind and keeps taking drastic measures. It started with her having him falsely arrested and him getting all charges dismissed. Then her sending texts to him and herself with threats to him and his new family with children. (He changed his number and emails it stopped but of course on her end it didn’t) she didn’t know he changed his number. Each WiFi number she used was tracked back to a towers in her area many states away from him. The courts accidentally gave her his new email since he pays child support for the children. So far 3 guys came forward about sleeping with her while he was deployed. The only time he was with someone else was when he told her it’s over. Not cheated! She emails him constantly with threats and fights and always blames him as the aggressor for the fights. However all he asks is about the children and when he can speak to them. He moved states, he changed numbers again, filed restraining orders. Shortly after moving she find out where he lived and CPS comes to him and of course her accusations are found false but when his state attempted to find her they couldn’t. She uses his social security number to destroy his credit. He lost communication with the children because she won’t answer any emails text or calls unless it involves paying or an issue she has. She tries to force him to call her # knowing she will claim harassment. As she continues to claim she will ruin his life. Every text or email from her is “you’re bipolar , “smallD**ck boy”, “spermdonor” “bald, chick nipples” just rude and childish messages. He has offered a mediator, therapy, visitation that works for both parties and he gets no contact for the kids. He offers to do things her way and it’s never good enough. The sad part is when he talks to the kids they tell him everything she coaches them to say and think. She literally tells them to call him by his name and to say they hate him. Even the kids have told him, she tells them to be as mean as they can and that they don’t have to listen to him ever! She is mom and GOD as she claims. Or she will send messages pretending to be them. Since they are under 13 courts won’t let them speak. He went as far as to not do visitation anymore because she plays a dangerous accusation game and each time it’s unfounded. In the same breath she gets mad he doesn’t take the children. Over the years he has compiled over 4000 emails, screen shots, recorded calls, messages everything to show her mental instability and her narcissistic personality. My question is how do you co parent with someone who threatens you and your family. It feels as if she forces his hand on having anything to do with the kids to protect his family. I’ve never seen someone so diabolical they can’t co-parent and so psychotic they believe what they say even when you show them exactly what they sent you in recorded document. Like woman!!!!! She wanted the divorce and cheated the entire marriage but once she saw he didn’t fall and is living a happy life, where he is a better man it’s like she broke mentally. Worse than what she was before.

When she obtained a order of protection on him she lied and stated he had fire arms- well his fire arm was stole 3 years before hand and Cobb county Ga had it in evidence he never claimed back, she claimed he beat her when she was pregnant but the voicemails show he wanted to leave her and she would BEG for him to stay. She claimed she feared for 7 years yet again - voicemails and emails prove she was the aggressor and never hurt her. She claimed he convinced her to never call the cops- well he was never home to do so after the Marines he worked out of state. Never one did she have a bruise a cut or even a scratch. He has had multiple black eyes including the day of their wedding when she punched im him in the face. She has given him bruises and scratches that were pictured. In her report she claimed she felt afraid and ran to him in the bathroom. Call records show he was on FaceTime with his now wife who was valuable witness to everything. She took his phone not to call 911 but to meddle in his relationship. She just couldn’t let him be happy. They were married separated living together for the entire marriage. She dated over 10 guys throughout the marriage. Then at the time her boyfriend lived in Las Vegas. He dodged a bullet with her. The case was dismissed and removed from his record. This was the turning point of her trying anything in her power to ruin his life. For a second he was mentally shattered but his support system brought him up! They carried him to the top. Now she is mad. Let’s fast forward to the day she got the order of protection- when arrived to their residence he went with 3 officers to get his uniforms and his truck. This crazy woman cuts the screen and shatters the window of the baby’s bedroom so she can throw clothing and other pyramid out the window. Screaming at the officers “you better get a warrant”. Get this she has the nerve to blow up his phone every hour on the hour for days after that. BEGGING him to come by asking him to just talk to her. It was game over he signed anything those divorce papers said just to get her out his life. She claims to be a victim for 7 years. She was not she IS the AGGRESSOR.

Fast forward - He has gone to court over 3 times in 2 years to get a restraining order and guess what. NOPE she’s too far from him. Statues have to be met in order to obtain such order. I swear it is just sad. The scary part she is trying to be a police officer in Chicago: WOW!!! now that is insane. She could harm someone really bad. She is very good at making you think she is an amazing person but emails, texts, phone recordings and voicemails all say differently. She plays the victim card very well. Yet she is no victim. She reminds all of us of a Casey Anthony, Amber Heard, and the Gabriel Hernandez trials! Very worrisome! Over 50 people can testify to her verbal-physical abuse and false accusations. She was very good at falsifying messages to herself but she forgot a tiny factor. Maybe she got so mad and caught up that she actually forgot she was sending them from her very own email. Not one she claims someone made and isn’t hers but the one she uses for her everyday life too. Narcissistic people will believe their own lies and believe their own games. GASLIGHTING AT BEST. They often have a tendency to make themselves have a spotlight/power and have others feel sorry for them. But SORRY WE DO NOT FEEL BAD FOR A GROWN WOMAN WHO THREATENS BABIES OR AUTISTIC CHILDREN. Not in this life time. Who even calls an autistic child fat and tells the parents to put the child on a diet. Its one thing to be mad at the adults but the child. Leave the children alone. Disgusting! We pray for justice for him. She will and does cause trauma to all. It’s her way or No way. We can’t wait to see what fabricated messages and emails she comes up with. Everyone knows of photoshop and edits. He has been working with detectives and lawyers for years. Ironically she moves and can’t be served. His proof is live, his is real, and his story is just beginning to be told. She shows the good parts of what she says and the bad of how he responded by telling her no or ignoring her but never what triggered his protective parental stand. Fortunately those are all over social media now not part of the story but the full story, full conversations, and the full evil in this woman.

Update—

Yes she forced him to a point where he wanted to give up his rights and be dead. She had him living in a constant state of pain. He picked himself up and became stronger. He speaks out! Maybe then but now HE is done and he has spoken! DM if you would like to see correspondences. They will blow your mind. Talk about insanity! He has been begging for his children since 2020 and she still hides. One thing the children will know for sure is the truth. She won’t even let him speak to the children without her hovering because she is afraid he will tell them things that will show he has always tried. Things that will prove to them and everyone she is a MONSTER. Even when he broke and almost gave up on them he humbled and apologized. Tell me why does a mother need to control how children speak to their parent? They mention a friends name and she hangs up. She blocks every means but acts like it’s him who has the issues. Yet she has no problem getting in touch with him when she needs something. Or when she wants to argue with him back and fourth. Tell me if you are so abused by him and he’s an aggressive person that you hide from, why do you offer to get rid of your children to him and his family for not weeks but years at a time. But coward and back out because he wanted it on a legal document in court not just a handshake? 🫣🤔😕🤨🤔🤔🤔 Please enlighten us all. Her name is … Didivalis Cruz

He allows her to smear his name but at the end of the day the proof of it all is in had evidence. NO MORE! Never again! The truth of it all is written in black and white. Let her claim the victim position. The day will come we’re all will be shown and the world will know it is not him who had been in the wrong it is her. Yes he WAS behind in child support due to Covid-19 but he still pays over 800 a month and Paid off all arrears just to beg to speak to the children and still nothing. Only a spineless mother would say she’s in her right to withhold children because she’s was paid half during Covid months. Always about money and being the victim!

[surviveoutloud]

A brothers story: Narcissistic abuse.

How do you deal with a narcissistic person. An Ex wife is very difficult to deal with. When they were married she treated him like crap and knocked him down as much as she could. He was in the Marines she never let him do anything even with his family when he was home. Could you imagine not being able to even see your own family?! Their marriage was short lived but he only married her because she would take the child, and each time he requested a divorce she became pregnant or stated she will harm herself. He felt bad no matter how psychotic she is. Even her own family contacts him and tells him she’s crazy and to just leave be. Her own family sent him emails showing her mental issues with manic bipolar and multiple personality disorder as well as being a narcissist to not just him but anyone around her. Since childhood her family couldn’t deal with her as she has homicidal ideations when people make her a little mad. She was cheating the entire marriage. For years she has flipped her mind and keeps taking drastic measures. It started with her having him falsely arrested and him getting all charges dismissed. Then her sending texts to him and herself with threats to him and his new family with children. (He changed his number and emails it stopped but of course on her end it didn’t) she didn’t know he changed his number. Each WiFi number she used was tracked back to a towers in her area many states away from him. The courts accidentally gave her his new email since he pays child support for the children. So far 3 guys came forward about sleeping with her while he was deployed. The only time he was with someone else was when he told her it’s over. Not cheated! She emails him constantly with threats and fights and always blames him as the aggressor for the fights. However all he asks is about the children and when he can speak to them. He moved states, he changed numbers again, filed restraining orders. Shortly after moving she find out where he lived and CPS comes to him and of course her accusations are found false but when his state attempted to find her they couldn’t. She uses his social security number to destroy his credit. He lost communication with the children because she won’t answer any emails text or calls unless it involves paying or an issue she has. She tries to force him to call her # knowing she will claim harassment. As she continues to claim she will ruin his life. Every text or email from her is “you’re bipolar , “smallD**ck boy”, “spermdonor” “bald, chick nipples” just rude and childish messages. He has offered a mediator, therapy, visitation that works for both parties and he gets no contact for the kids. He offers to do things her way and it’s never good enough. The sad part is when he talks to the kids they tell him everything she coaches them to say and think. She literally tells them to call him by his name and to say they hate him. Even the kids have told him, she tells them to be as mean as they can and that they don’t have to listen to him ever! She is mom and GOD as she claims. Or she will send messages pretending to be them. Since they are under 13 courts won’t let them speak. He went as far as to not do visitation anymore because she plays a dangerous accusation game and each time it’s unfounded. In the same breath she gets mad he doesn’t take the children. Over the years he has compiled over 4000 emails, screen shots, recorded calls, messages everything to show her mental instability and her narcissistic personality. My question is how do you co parent with someone who threatens you and your family. It feels as if she forces his hand on having anything to do with the kids to protect his family. I’ve never seen someone so diabolical they can’t co-parent and so psychotic they believe what they say even when you show them exactly what they sent you in recorded document. Like woman!!!!! She wanted the divorce and cheated the entire marriage but once she saw he didn’t fall and is living a happy life, where he is a better man it’s like she broke mentally. Worse than what she was before.

When she obtained a order of protection on him she lied and stated he had fire arms- well his fire arm was stole 3 years before hand and Cobb county Ga had it in evidence he never claimed back, she claimed he beat her when she was pregnant but the voicemails show he wanted to leave her and she would BEG for him to stay. She claimed she feared for 7 years yet again - voicemails and emails prove she was the aggressor and never hurt her. She claimed he convinced her to never call the cops- well he was never home to do so after the Marines he worked out of state. Never one did she have a bruise a cut or even a scratch. He has had multiple black eyes including the day of their wedding when she punched im him in the face. She has given him bruises and scratches that were pictured. In her report she claimed she felt afraid and ran to him in the bathroom. Call records show he was on FaceTime with his now wife who was valuable witness to everything. She took his phone not to call 911 but to meddle in his relationship. She just couldn’t let him be happy. They were married separated living together for the entire marriage. She dated over 10 guys throughout the marriage. Then at the time her boyfriend lived in Las Vegas. He dodged a bullet with her. The case was dismissed and removed from his record. This was the turning point of her trying anything in her power to ruin his life. For a second he was mentally shattered but his support system brought him up! They carried him to the top. Now she is mad. Let’s fast forward to the day she got the order of protection- when arrived to their residence he went with 3 officers to get his uniforms and his truck. This crazy woman cuts the screen and shatters the window of the baby’s bedroom so she can throw clothing and other pyramid out the window. Screaming at the officers “you better get a warrant”. Get this she has the nerve to blow up his phone every hour on the hour for days after that. BEGGING him to come by asking him to just talk to her. It was game over he signed anything those divorce papers said just to get her out his life. She claims to be a victim for 7 years. She was not she IS the AGGRESSOR.

Fast forward - He has gone to court over 3 times in 2 years to get a restraining order and guess what. NOPE she’s too far from him. Statues have to be met in order to obtain such order. I swear it is just sad. The scary part she is trying to be a police officer in Chicago: WOW!!! now that is insane. She could harm someone really bad. She is very good at making you think she is an amazing person but emails, texts, phone recordings and voicemails all say differently. She plays the victim card very well. Yet she is no victim. She reminds all of us of a Casey Anthony, Amber Heard, and the Gabriel Hernandez trials! Very worrisome! Over 50 people can testify to her verbal-physical abuse and false accusations. She was very good at falsifying messages to herself but she forgot a tiny factor. Maybe she got so mad and caught up that she actually forgot she was sending them from her very own email. Not one she claims someone made and isn’t hers but the one she uses for her everyday life too. Narcissistic people will believe their own lies and believe their own games. GASLIGHTING AT BEST. They often have a tendency to make themselves have a spotlight/power and have others feel sorry for them. But SORRY WE DO NOT FEEL BAD FOR A GROWN WOMAN WHO THREATENS BABIES OR AUTISTIC CHILDREN. Not in this life time. Who even calls an autistic child fat and tells the parents to put the child on a diet. Its one thing to be mad at the adults but the child. Leave the children alone. Disgusting! We pray for justice for him. She will and does cause trauma to all. It’s her way or No way. We can’t wait to see what fabricated messages and emails she comes up with. Everyone knows of photoshop and edits. He has been working with detectives and lawyers for years. Ironically she moves and can’t be served. His proof is live, his is real, and his story is just beginning to be told. She shows the good parts of what she says and the bad of how he responded by telling her no or ignoring her but never what triggered his protective parental stand. Fortunately those are all over social media now not part of the story but the full story, full conversations, and the full evil in this woman.

Update—

Yes she forced him to a point where he wanted to give up his rights and be dead. She had him living in a constant state of pain. He picked himself up and became stronger. He speaks out! Maybe then but now HE is done and he has spoken! DM if you would like to see correspondences. They will blow your mind. Talk about insanity! He has been begging for his children since 2020 and she still hides. One thing the children will know for sure is the truth. She won’t even let him speak to the children without her hovering because she is afraid he will tell them things that will show he has always tried. Things that will prove to them and everyone she is a MONSTER. Even when he broke and almost gave up on them he humbled and apologized. Tell me why does a mother need to control how children speak to their parent? They mention a friends name and she hangs up. She blocks every means but acts like it’s him who has the issues. Yet she has no problem getting in touch with him when she needs something. Or when she wants to argue with him back and fourth. Tell me if you are so abused by him and he’s an aggressive person that you hide from, why do you offer to get rid of your children to him and his family for not weeks but years at a time. But coward and back out because he wanted it on a legal document in court not just a handshake? 🫣🤔😕🤨🤔🤔🤔 Please enlighten us all. Her name is … Didivalis Cruz

He allows her to smear his name but at the end of the day the proof of it all is in had evidence. NO MORE! Never again! The truth of it all is written in black and white. Let her claim the victim position. The day will come we’re all will be shown and the world will know it is not him who had been in the wrong it is her. Yes he WAS behind in child support due to Covid-19 but he still pays over 800 a month and Paid off all arrears just to beg to speak to the children and still nothing. Only a spineless mother would say she’s in her right to withhold children because she’s was paid half during Covid months. Always about money and being the victim!

[surviveoutloud]

A brothers story: Narcissistic abuse.

How do you deal with a narcissistic person. An Ex wife is very difficult to deal with. When they were married she treated him like crap and knocked him down as much as she could. He was in the Marines she never let him do anything even with his family when he was home. Could you imagine not being able to even see your own family?! Their marriage was short lived but he only married her because she would take the child, and each time he requested a divorce she became pregnant or stated she will harm herself. He felt bad no matter how psychotic she is. Even her own family contacts him and tells him she’s crazy and to just leave be. Her own family sent him emails showing her mental issues with manic bipolar and multiple personality disorder as well as being a narcissist to not just him but anyone around her. Since childhood her family couldn’t deal with her as she has homicidal ideations when people make her a little mad. She was cheating the entire marriage. For years she has flipped her mind and keeps taking drastic measures. It started with her having him falsely arrested and him getting all charges dismissed. Then her sending texts to him and herself with threats to him and his new family with children. (He changed his number and emails it stopped but of course on her end it didn’t) she didn’t know he changed his number. Each WiFi number she used was tracked back to a towers in her area many states away from him. The courts accidentally gave her his new email since he pays child support for the children. So far 3 guys came forward about sleeping with her while he was deployed. The only time he was with someone else was when he told her it’s over. Not cheated! She emails him constantly with threats and fights and always blames him as the aggressor for the fights. However all he asks is about the children and when he can speak to them. He moved states, he changed numbers again, filed restraining orders. Shortly after moving she find out where he lived and CPS comes to him and of course her accusations are found false but when his state attempted to find her they couldn’t. She uses his social security number to destroy his credit. He lost communication with the children because she won’t answer any emails text or calls unless it involves paying or an issue she has. She tries to force him to call her # knowing she will claim harassment. As she continues to claim she will ruin his life. Every text or email from her is “you’re bipolar , “smallD**ck boy”, “spermdonor” “bald, chick nipples” just rude and childish messages. He has offered a mediator, therapy, visitation that works for both parties and he gets no contact for the kids. He offers to do things her way and it’s never good enough. The sad part is when he talks to the kids they tell him everything she coaches them to say and think. She literally tells them to call him by his name and to say they hate him. Even the kids have told him, she tells them to be as mean as they can and that they don’t have to listen to him ever! She is mom and GOD as she claims. Or she will send messages pretending to be them. Since they are under 13 courts won’t let them speak. He went as far as to not do visitation anymore because she plays a dangerous accusation game and each time it’s unfounded. In the same breath she gets mad he doesn’t take the children. Over the years he has compiled over 4000 emails, screen shots, recorded calls, messages everything to show her mental instability and her narcissistic personality. My question is how do you co parent with someone who threatens you and your family. It feels as if she forces his hand on having anything to do with the kids to protect his family. I’ve never seen someone so diabolical they can’t co-parent and so psychotic they believe what they say even when you show them exactly what they sent you in recorded document. Like woman!!!!! She wanted the divorce and cheated the entire marriage but once she saw he didn’t fall and is living a happy life, where he is a better man it’s like she broke mentally. Worse than what she was before.

When she obtained a order of protection on him she lied and stated he had fire arms- well his fire arm was stole 3 years before hand and Cobb county Ga had it in evidence he never claimed back, she claimed he beat her when she was pregnant but the voicemails show he wanted to leave her and she would BEG for him to stay. She claimed she feared for 7 years yet again - voicemails and emails prove she was the aggressor and never hurt her. She claimed he convinced her to never call the cops- well he was never home to do so after the Marines he worked out of state. Never one did she have a bruise a cut or even a scratch. He has had multiple black eyes including the day of their wedding when she punched im him in the face. She has given him bruises and scratches that were pictured. In her report she claimed she felt afraid and ran to him in the bathroom. Call records show he was on FaceTime with his now wife who was valuable witness to everything. She took his phone not to call 911 but to meddle in his relationship. She just couldn’t let him be happy. They were married separated living together for the entire marriage. She dated over 10 guys throughout the marriage. Then at the time her boyfriend lived in Las Vegas. He dodged a bullet with her. The case was dismissed and removed from his record. This was the turning point of her trying anything in her power to ruin his life. For a second he was mentally shattered but his support system brought him up! They carried him to the top. Now she is mad. Let’s fast forward to the day she got the order of protection- when arrived to their residence he went with 3 officers to get his uniforms and his truck. This crazy woman cuts the screen and shatters the window of the baby’s bedroom so she can throw clothing and other pyramid out the window. Screaming at the officers “you better get a warrant”. Get this she has the nerve to blow up his phone every hour on the hour for days after that. BEGGING him to come by asking him to just talk to her. It was game over he signed anything those divorce papers said just to get her out his life. She claims to be a victim for 7 years. She was not she IS the AGGRESSOR.

Fast forward - He has gone to court over 3 times in 2 years to get a restraining order and guess what. NOPE she’s too far from him. Statues have to be met in order to obtain such order. I swear it is just sad. The scary part she is trying to be a police officer in Chicago: WOW!!! now that is insane. She could harm someone really bad. She is very good at making you think she is an amazing person but emails, texts, phone recordings and voicemails all say differently. She plays the victim card very well. Yet she is no victim. She reminds all of us of a Casey Anthony, Amber Heard, and the Gabriel Hernandez trials! Very worrisome! Over 50 people can testify to her verbal-physical abuse and false accusations. She was very good at falsifying messages to herself but she forgot a tiny factor. Maybe she got so mad and caught up that she actually forgot she was sending them from her very own email. Not one she claims someone made and isn’t hers but the one she uses for her everyday life too. Narcissistic people will believe their own lies and believe their own games. GASLIGHTING AT BEST. They often have a tendency to make themselves have a spotlight/power and have others feel sorry for them. But SORRY WE DO NOT FEEL BAD FOR A GROWN WOMAN WHO THREATENS BABIES OR AUTISTIC CHILDREN. Not in this life time. Who even calls an autistic child fat and tells the parents to put the child on a diet. Its one thing to be mad at the adults but the child. Leave the children alone. Disgusting! We pray for justice for him. She will and does cause trauma to all. It’s her way or No way. We can’t wait to see what fabricated messages and emails she comes up with. Everyone knows of photoshop and edits. He has been working with detectives and lawyers for years. Ironically she moves and can’t be served. His proof is live, his is real, and his story is just beginning to be told. She shows the good parts of what she says and the bad of how he responded by telling her no or ignoring her but never what triggered his protective parental stand. Fortunately those are all over social media now not part of the story but the full story, full conversations, and the full evil in this woman.

Update—

Yes she forced him to a point where he wanted to give up his rights and be dead. She had him living in a constant state of pain. He picked himself up and became stronger. He speaks out! Maybe then but now HE is done and he has spoken! DM if you would like to see correspondences. They will blow your mind. Talk about insanity! He has been begging for his children since 2020 and she still hides. One thing the children will know for sure is the truth. She won’t even let him speak to the children without her hovering because she is afraid he will tell them things that will show he has always tried. Things that will prove to them and everyone she is a MONSTER. Even when he broke and almost gave up on them he humbled and apologized. Tell me why does a mother need to control how children speak to their parent? They mention a friends name and she hangs up. She blocks every means but acts like it’s him who has the issues. Yet she has no problem getting in touch with him when she needs something. Or when she wants to argue with him back and fourth. Tell me if you are so abused by him and he’s an aggressive person that you hide from, why do you offer to get rid of your children to him and his family for not weeks but years at a time. But coward and back out because he wanted it on a legal document in court not just a handshake? 🫣🤔😕🤨🤔🤔🤔 Please enlighten us all. Her name is … Didivalis Cruz

He allows her to smear his name but at the end of the day the proof of it all is in had evidence. NO MORE! Never again! The truth of it all is written in black and white. Let her claim the victim position. The day will come we’re all will be shown and the world will know it is not him who had been in the wrong it is her. Yes he WAS behind in child support due to Covid-19 but he still pays over 800 a month and Paid off all arrears just to beg to speak to the children and still nothing. Only a spineless mother would say she’s in her right to withhold children because she’s was paid half during Covid months. Always about money and being the victim!

[surviveoutloud]

A brothers story: Narcissistic abuse.

How do you deal with a narcissistic person. An Ex wife is very difficult to deal with. When they were married she treated him like crap and knocked him down as much as she could. He was in the Marines she never let him do anything even with his family when he was home. Could you imagine not being able to even see your own family?! Their marriage was short lived but he only married her because she would take the child, and each time he requested a divorce she became pregnant or stated she will harm herself. He felt bad no matter how psychotic she is. Even her own family contacts him and tells him she’s crazy and to just leave be. Her own family sent him emails showing her mental issues with manic bipolar and multiple personality disorder as well as being a narcissist to not just him but anyone around her. Since childhood her family couldn’t deal with her as she has homicidal ideations when people make her a little mad. She was cheating the entire marriage. For years she has flipped her mind and keeps taking drastic measures. It started with her having him falsely arrested and him getting all charges dismissed. Then her sending texts to him and herself with threats to him and his new family with children. (He changed his number and emails it stopped but of course on her end it didn’t) she didn’t know he changed his number. Each WiFi number she used was tracked back to a towers in her area many states away from him. The courts accidentally gave her his new email since he pays child support for the children. So far 3 guys came forward about sleeping with her while he was deployed. The only time he was with someone else was when he told her it’s over. Not cheated! She emails him constantly with threats and fights and always blames him as the aggressor for the fights. However all he asks is about the children and when he can speak to them. He moved states, he changed numbers again, filed restraining orders. Shortly after moving she find out where he lived and CPS comes to him and of course her accusations are found false but when his state attempted to find her they couldn’t. She uses his social security number to destroy his credit. He lost communication with the children because she won’t answer any emails text or calls unless it involves paying or an issue she has. She tries to force him to call her # knowing she will claim harassment. As she continues to claim she will ruin his life. Every text or email from her is “you’re bipolar , “smallD**ck boy”, “spermdonor” “bald, chick nipples” just rude and childish messages. He has offered a mediator, therapy, visitation that works for both parties and he gets no contact for the kids. He offers to do things her way and it’s never good enough. The sad part is when he talks to the kids they tell him everything she coaches them to say and think. She literally tells them to call him by his name and to say they hate him. Even the kids have told him, she tells them to be as mean as they can and that they don’t have to listen to him ever! She is mom and GOD as she claims. Or she will send messages pretending to be them. Since they are under 13 courts won’t let them speak. He went as far as to not do visitation anymore because she plays a dangerous accusation game and each time it’s unfounded. In the same breath she gets mad he doesn’t take the children. Over the years he has compiled over 4000 emails, screen shots, recorded calls, messages everything to show her mental instability and her narcissistic personality. My question is how do you co parent with someone who threatens you and your family. It feels as if she forces his hand on having anything to do with the kids to protect his family. I’ve never seen someone so diabolical they can’t co-parent and so psychotic they believe what they say even when you show them exactly what they sent you in recorded document. Like woman!!!!! She wanted the divorce and cheated the entire marriage but once she saw he didn’t fall and is living a happy life, where he is a better man it’s like she broke mentally. Worse than what she was before.

When she obtained a order of protection on him she lied and stated he had fire arms- well his fire arm was stole 3 years before hand and Cobb county Ga had it in evidence he never claimed back, she claimed he beat her when she was pregnant but the voicemails show he wanted to leave her and she would BEG for him to stay. She claimed she feared for 7 years yet again - voicemails and emails prove she was the aggressor and never hurt her. She claimed he convinced her to never call the cops- well he was never home to do so after the Marines he worked out of state. Never one did she have a bruise a cut or even a scratch. He has had multiple black eyes including the day of their wedding when she punched im him in the face. She has given him bruises and scratches that were pictured. In her report she claimed she felt afraid and ran to him in the bathroom. Call records show he was on FaceTime with his now wife who was valuable witness to everything. She took his phone not to call 911 but to meddle in his relationship. She just couldn’t let him be happy. They were married separated living together for the entire marriage. She dated over 10 guys throughout the marriage. Then at the time her boyfriend lived in Las Vegas. He dodged a bullet with her. The case was dismissed and removed from his record. This was the turning point of her trying anything in her power to ruin his life. For a second he was mentally shattered but his support system brought him up! They carried him to the top. Now she is mad. Let’s fast forward to the day she got the order of protection- when arrived to their residence he went with 3 officers to get his uniforms and his truck. This crazy woman cuts the screen and shatters the window of the baby’s bedroom so she can throw clothing and other pyramid out the window. Screaming at the officers “you better get a warrant”. Get this she has the nerve to blow up his phone every hour on the hour for days after that. BEGGING him to come by asking him to just talk to her. It was game over he signed anything those divorce papers said just to get her out his life. She claims to be a victim for 7 years. She was not she IS the AGGRESSOR.

Fast forward - He has gone to court over 3 times in 2 years to get a restraining order and guess what. NOPE she’s too far from him. Statues have to be met in order to obtain such order. I swear it is just sad. The scary part she is trying to be a police officer in Chicago: WOW!!! now that is insane. She could harm someone really bad. She is very good at making you think she is an amazing person but emails, texts, phone recordings and voicemails all say differently. She plays the victim card very well. Yet she is no victim. She reminds all of us of a Casey Anthony, Amber Heard, and the Gabriel Hernandez trials! Very worrisome! Over 50 people can testify to her verbal-physical abuse and false accusations. She was very good at falsifying messages to herself but she forgot a tiny factor. Maybe she got so mad and caught up that she actually forgot she was sending them from her very own email. Not one she claims someone made and isn’t hers but the one she uses for her everyday life too. Narcissistic people will believe their own lies and believe their own games. GASLIGHTING AT BEST. They often have a tendency to make themselves have a spotlight/power and have others feel sorry for them. But SORRY WE DO NOT FEEL BAD FOR A GROWN WOMAN WHO THREATENS BABIES OR AUTISTIC CHILDREN. Not in this life time. Who even calls an autistic child fat and tells the parents to put the child on a diet. Its one thing to be mad at the adults but the child. Leave the children alone. Disgusting! We pray for justice for him. She will and does cause trauma to all. It’s her way or No way. We can’t wait to see what fabricated messages and emails she comes up with. Everyone knows of photoshop and edits. He has been working with detectives and lawyers for years. Ironically she moves and can’t be served. His proof is live, his is real, and his story is just beginning to be told. She shows the good parts of what she says and the bad of how he responded by telling her no or ignoring her but never what triggered his protective parental stand. Fortunately those are all over social media now not part of the story but the full story, full conversations, and the full evil in this woman.

Update—

Yes she forced him to a point where he wanted to give up his rights and be dead. She had him living in a constant state of pain. He picked himself up and became stronger. He speaks out! Maybe then but now HE is done and he has spoken! DM if you would like to see correspondences. They will blow your mind. Talk about insanity! He has been begging for his children since 2020 and she still hides. One thing the children will know for sure is the truth. She won’t even let him speak to the children without her hovering because she is afraid he will tell them things that will show he has always tried. Things that will prove to them and everyone she is a MONSTER. Even when he broke and almost gave up on them he humbled and apologized. Tell me why does a mother need to control how children speak to their parent? They mention a friends name and she hangs up. She blocks every means but acts like it’s him who has the issues. Yet she has no problem getting in touch with him when she needs something. Or when she wants to argue with him back and fourth. Tell me if you are so abused by him and he’s an aggressive person that you hide from, why do you offer to get rid of your children to him and his family for not weeks but years at a time. But coward and back out because he wanted it on a legal document in court not just a handshake? 🫣🤔😕🤨🤔🤔🤔 Please enlighten us all. Her name is … Didivalis Cruz

He allows her to smear his name but at the end of the day the proof of it all is in had evidence. NO MORE! Never again! The truth of it all is written in black and white. Let her claim the victim position. The day will come we’re all will be shown and the world will know it is not him who had been in the wrong it is her. Yes he WAS behind in child support due to Covid-19 but he still pays over 800 a month and Paid off all arrears just to beg to speak to the children and still nothing. Only a spineless mother would say she’s in her right to withhold children because she’s was paid half during Covid months. Always about money and being the victim!

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“The hardest battle you will ever have to fight is between who you are now and who you want to be.”

— Unknown

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“Focus on what you can do rather what you can’t. Small steps turn into miles.”

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“Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of yours.”

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Having been a victim and sadly currently seeing my mother be a victim of narcissistic abuse as well, without having the means to fight it and seeing her downtrodden everyday but trying to pick her up and keep her optimistic and happy about her future, watching Johnny Depp win his case against Turd makes me feel a bit lighter that someone out there will maybe one day believe her as well.

This wasn’t a loss or a step backwards in society, it was a step forward to believe all victims, not just women.

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I came across this post today and thought I'd share it with everyone who reads this blog.

I've realized during the past few years since the pandemic started, that experiencing such toxic and negative responses can be so confusing. As a person going through this, for years I knew that I wasn't being treated well but I could never connect the dots between the definition of abusive behaviours vs what was really happening. Knowledge is truly power, as it has opened my eyes to understand what exactly I've been experiencing and how to prevent it from breaking me apart any further.

For the longest time I didnt understand what or how to implement boundaries or thresholds on people, even those very close to me, such as family. I always thought it was disrespectful to do so even if they are treating me wrongly. Now with the knowledge I've gained and awareness between what is what, I'm able to draw the line slowly between what is enough for me and not feel bad or guilty about it.

Healing and taking back your life, confidence, self-worth, and self-respect is soooo essential. Something I feel like I once had, and lost cause I gave those who disrespect me, the rights to my life.

I wish everyone going through this gains their life back one step at a time, in this upcoming new year and is able to live their best life!

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It really does help in truly understanding what these terms mean and how they relate to behaviours that you experience and witness.

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“If you get that gut feeling that something isn’t right about a person or situation, trust it.”

— Unknown

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“Every one says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive.”

— C.S. Lewis

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But do you like who you are? When nobody is watching?

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“Never give up on something you really want. It may be difficult to wait, but it is worse to live with regret.”

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