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another terf throwing a hissyfit in my anti-terf blog's askbox because i defended intersex people 😑

“There have been 0 cases of people being born unable to produce either gametes—“ yes the fuck there has lmao. I don’t have ovaries or testes, so cannot and will not ever produce any kind of gamete. And yes, I was quite literally born that way.

As an intersex person, I’m far more tired of shitty TERFs either outright lying about us or speaking like they have any kind of knowledge about us when they don’t than trans folk reminding them we exist and trying to educate them.

“Basic biology” has certainly failed this person and this is exactly why I say more advanced biology is required. These people think what they learned at like 11 years old is all there is.

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@patricia-taxxon I was inspired by ur post

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Almost a year ago now that I had my bottom surgery and it bears repeating

I'm really happy I had surgery

It healed perfectly

I've been having way more sex because I'm happy with my body

I get compliments on how it looks from every partner

Sex feels great

Dilating isn't a big deal and becomes less necessary with time

I love how tight clothes look on my body now

Vaginal orgasms are fucking epic

Destigmatize bottom surgery it fucking rules

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if rambley can have genuine yearning and loneliness underneath the scripted lines, i think he can hide overpowering lust behind his canned "I'm sorry, but that's against company policy!" responses to flirting. like if we're already conceding that the automated theme park kiosk can have emotions.

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Remember when that one hiveswap character was revealed to be a trans man and so many people were mad he wasn’t a butch lesbian? Sure was a time to be alive. People cared so much about a fictional troll character

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If you believe that trans men as a class possess structural power and authority as men, you are not worth my attention or time and you are an active and constant detriment to any trans man even vaguely in your circle and in general, and I hope that weighs on you.

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Can You Define The Word "Female", as a Perisex/Dyadic individual, Without Excluding Me, as an Intersex person Designated Female at Birth? (Spoiler alert, it's gonna be a hard one)

Fun new little game that I'm doing every time I block a new radfem as of today because people like to talk a lot about topics that, fun fact, are *very* nuanced and almost impossible to define.

It has the fun little bonus of challenging any learned bioessetialism and intersexism you may or may not have :D

Rules are:

You cannot define the word with itself(ex- a female is anyone assigned female at birth!1!1)

If your definition is challenged by me or any other intersex person, you are encouraged to think to yourself "the human experience is vast and varied, and cannot be neatly defined". It isn't required but it's definitely a helpful exercise for me!

No transphobia

More will be added as needed.

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forever tired of our voices being turned into commodity.

forever tired of thorough medaocrity in the AAC business. how that is rewarded. How it fails us as users. how not robust and only robust by small small amount communication systems always chosen by speech therapists and funded by insurance.

forever tired of profit over people.

forever tired of how companies collect data on every word we’ve ever said and sell to people.

forever tired of paying to communicate. of how uninsured disabled people just don’t get a voice many of the time. or have to rely on how AAC is brought into classrooms — which usually is managed to do in every possible wrong way.

forever tired of the branding and rebranding of how we communicate. Of this being amazing revealation over and over that nonspeakers are “in there” and should be able to say things. of how every single time this revelation comes with pre condition of leaving the rest behind, who can’t spell or type their way out of the cage of ableist oppression. or are not given chance & resources to. Of the branding being seen as revolution so many times and of these companies & practitioners making money off this “revolution.” of immersion weeks and CRP trainings that are thousands of dollars and wildly overpriced letterboards, and of that one nightmare Facebook group g-d damm it. How this all is put in language of communication freedom. 26 letters is infinite possibilities they say - but only for the richest of families and disabled people. The rest of us will have to live with fewer possibilities.

forever tired of engineer dads of AAC users who think they can revolutionize whole field of AAC with new terrible designed apps that you can’t say anything with them. of minimally useful AI features that invade every AAC app to cash in on the new moment and not as tool that if used ethically could actually help us, but as way of fixing our grammar our language our cultural syntax we built up to sound “proper” to sound normal. for a machine, a large language model to model a small language for us, turn our inhuman voices human enough.

forever tired of how that brand and marketing is never for us, never for the people who actually use it to communicate. it is always for everyone around us, our parents and teachers paras and SLPs and BCBAs and practitioners and doctors and everyone except the person who ends up stuck stuck with a bad organized bad implemented bad taught profit motivated way to talk. of it being called behavior problems low ability incompetence noncompliance when we don’t use these systems.

you all need to do better. We need to democritize our communication, put it in our own hands. (My friend & communication partner who was in Occupy Wall Street suggested phrase “Occupy AAC” and think that is perfect.) And not talking about badly made non-robust open source apps either. Yes a robust system needs money and recources to make it well. One person or community alone cannot turn a robotic voice into a human one. But our human voice should not be in hands of companies at all.

(this is about the Tobii Dynavox subscription thing. But also exploitive and capitalism practices and just lazy practices in AAC world overall. Both in high tech “ mainstream “ AAC and methods that are like ones I use in sense that are both super stigmatized and also super branded and marketed, Like RPM and S2C and spellers method. )

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As a transwoman in explicitly trans spaces I get treated like a wasp in a cup.

For example, I went to a speed dating event the other day. I'm pretty good at talking with people and dating apps suck. The venue had hosted other queer dating events including a sapphic event, which I had explicitly avoided. I did not want to roll those dice. But recently they held a T4T event which seemed like a much safer prospect.

I get there and its me, my roommate (transmasc, moral support) and my roommate's friend (transmasc-ish, also moral support). Apart from us there was one transwoman, one transman, and 3 AFAB NB Lesbians. Not a confidence inspiring turnout.

I spent the event making pleasant conversation, but as time went on I noticed that only the other transwoman and transman had really treated me normally. Everyone else was pleasant enough that I didn't fully suss out what was wrong until my roommate noted that they had all seemed a bit transphobic towards me. After that the pieces fell into place.

I can only assume its the masculine gender expression tied to the possession of a weapon (cock). I wasn't overly forward. I talked about a theoretical pet alligator, archeological digs, wind chimes, and architecture that I enjoy (Byzantine domes). Perfectly mundane and engaging topics. But I was treated like something unsightly. A task to be gotten through.

It hurts to show up to the event organized for people like me and still be excluded. I had avoided every other event for precisely this reason. I still found myself ostracized. This is not the first time this has happened.

I know that most of the people who follow this blog are cool. Believe it or not I've vetted each and every one of you.

You shouldn't need to be told this.

Address your internal biases. Please.

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the communities feature on tumblr is going to usher in a wonderful new era of discourse beyond our wildest dreams

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do u think rambley after experiencing sex will be begging it from you constantly but in the way that a child whos too prideful would request some food? do u think he is an absolute sub in bed?

yes, yes please let me reduce the 100 year old intelligent AI to a clingy pile of flickering synapses

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be kind to kids (yes, this includes teenagers) who identify as nonhuman, otherkin, fictionkin, therian, alterhuman, or a furry. they are living their life the way that makes sense to them. they don't deserve an "i told you so" if they grow out of identifying that way later on. they don't deserve to be asked "aren't you too old for that now?" they don't deserve to be laughed at and mocked online. children forming a wolf pack aren't hurting anyone. kids who want to meet other kids who identify as nonhuman aren't embarrassing.

kids need a sense of community no matter who they are. kids deserve the right to identify their own feelings. kids are allowed to express parts of themselves adults find "embarrassing". adults are allowed to do all of these things, too, but it's become routine for folks online to mock literal children for embarrassing behavior.

identifying as an animal isn't embarrassing; what is embarrassing is being an adult and picking on literal children. who cares, it's not hurting a singular soul. let them explore identity in ways that make sense to them. identifying as nonhuman isn't a danger to anyone else. they aren't hurting themselves. let them identify as a nonhuman and explore what that means to them. let them live their lives.

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a while ago i saw this radfem post that was in the genre of "oh i'm not transphobic, i respect trans people, but the facts!" and part of their whole point was like. well people assigned female have these deep, complicated relationships with their breasts after a lifetime of fetishization and misogyny, while transfems just thinks boobs are cool and hot!

and like 1) this is another in a long line of examples of how people just have just never actually listened to a trans girls' experience with her gender and misogyny. you think trans women don't have a complicated relationship with breasts? with suddenly having that part of your body be subject to so much scrutiny and the source of objectification? you think trans women never struggle with misogynistic beauty standards around breasts? are you fucking kidding me? and 2) i developed boobs naturally and think they are cool and hot. i regularly look at my tits in the mirror and grab them and think "awesome. these thangs rock. very sexy to me, the person who has them." sorry your fantasy that transfems have superficial and largely sexual relationship with their breasts, and that people assigned female have deep nuanced societal trauma around their breasts and don't find having tits erotic, is just that. a fantasy. i promise you people born with cunts can be shallow self-absorbed sex freaks too <3

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I have a short fuse when it comes to things like this. They’ll be too loud or something and I’d snap and tell them to stop…

Neurodivergent Girl

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It's fucking funny how, "after years of being told that it is transmisogynistic to use the word 'transmisogyny' to describe the intersection of transphobia and misogyny I experience as a trans man because it is allegedly taking away attention from trans women, a group of transmascs have decided to create our own label for transmasc experiences of gender oppression in order to have our own intracommunity conversations without conflict"

...gets you labeled a "transandrophobia truther" and allegedly a transmisogynist.

like idk man but on my end, it could not be more obvious that this is just the community willfully choosing to perpetuate transmasc erasure.