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date idea: we drink wine while a dilapidated mansion crumbles around us

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hey girl ….you ever been disappointed by a cis man? ……..wanna be disspaointed by a trans one ?💪🏻😏🤔🤨 please?

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#why the hell not reblog this but yaeh i've made a grunting noise like 5 times in my life you cannot make me make more #but tbh why the fuck not if you like making noise

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but if I don't get weird and horny about this then who will

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#flat bby #you can play my ribcage like bongos

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Ways to say "girlfriend" in Finnish

Tyttöystävä, tötsy ötsä, tötti pöddi, öödipöödi, tytti pyttis, tööttipötsi, ööli bööna, rönttö höttiäinen, tötö ödö, tötterö ötökkä, tyty ytty, töötti torvelo

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surpriiiiise my estranged father needs to either finally accept my name change OR get rid off me completely and cut me off from paying that

think my phone provider has my... identity in there twice. I need to go and see if they consider my deadname to be another person

it's been 7-8 years cannot remember when i changed my name and social security num how is it still wrong

#this is gonna fun cause mother is unable to talk to him and my siblings are uncomfortable of me cutting him off

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think my phone provider has my... identity in there twice. I need to go and see if they consider my deadname to be another person

it's been 7-8 years cannot remember when i changed my name and social security num how is it still wrong

#daily stuff #god how can i explain this girl doesn't exist #literally not a human being #can she stop haunting me i am the demon possessing this vessel now

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don’t make me tap the sign

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"why do you center men in your posts?" its almost as if... im a man... and im posting about me...and my own experiences as a trans man... crazy idea i know.

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laios’ shirt fighting for it’s life

#those buttons are sewn on REAL good #must appreciate the craftmanship

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guy who has chronic pain and fatigue: man why can't i do more stuff

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i don't know what autistic person needs to hear this but they are not watching you. the entire world is not constantly waiting for you to do something weird and laugh at you behind your back. you do not need to constantly self-police whenever there's the slightest chance another person might see you. you have a right to be your autistic self in public spaces. stop fighting yourself for their sake.

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for the TMA/TME post i had to google what it meant lol but anyway i was actually shocked to find that they’re actually labeling people in this way.

what is the point of labeling someone as “exempt” from transmisogyny??? like ???????

In isolation it could be a mildly interesting thought exercise, but in practice it’s just become “AFAB/AMAB” with extra steps, a sort of mirror image of TERFism used to paint anyone besides binary trans women as less worthy of “community resources” (whatever that means)

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one aspect of this which i think about a lot is the literalization of many online millennials. this is something we all have noticed i'm sure. it's like the opposite of irony-poisoning... literal-poisoning. it makes one very unfunny, obviously, but this is another aspect

it isn't just the therapy-speak thing, it's the idea that it is 'dangerous' or potentially problematic to leave anything unsaid or implicit. one other example that comes to mind is those 'guides' on consensual sex that were big in like, 2011-2015, which advised you to stop and ask your partner verbally before doing literally anything during sex.

obviously i'm not anti-talking during sex... some things should be discussed before they happen, sometimes feedback is necessary, sometimes requests are made... but if you've had sex you know that it would be unpleasant, strange and unsexy to halt and ask permission for every touch. and it would be unnecessary, because there's so much nonverbal communication going on, and if you have the empathy of even a brick, it's usually easy to read

this gives me the same vibe. it isn't the job of people getting married to word their vows with exit clauses just in case. it is the job of the state to provide cheap, easy, no-fault divorce. people generally get married because they're madly in love with someone and think they will spend the rest of their lives with them. of course, normal sane people are able to hold in their head simultaneously the idea that shit happens and this marriage might end in divorce and not death, as around a third of US marriages do.

but it's not romantic to say that. no one who's genuinely in love wants to fucking say that at their WEDDING. we all know that! people get divorced! some things can be left unsaid! not every moment of our lives has to be this ridiculous slog of explicitization

and suggesting we all explicitize everything kind of implies a lack of theory of mind for others. This is something i notice often from people who are intellectual in some ways but low on common sense and/or social skills, and have gotten caught up in this literalized culture of constant yapping and oversharing - they start to think other people are bumbling buffoon NPCs. They think anyone who doesn't post to social media in the style of a very explicit, therapized internal monologue doesn't actually have one. They think people who keep their mouths tactically shut about certain things didn't notice that thing at all. They think tact and propriety and earnestness are evidence of gormless stupidity. They think wedding vows are supposed to sound like your therapist is selling you car insurance.