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Bonhoeffer Projekt: Entscheidungen

Hallo dies ist mein Blog zu einem Schulprojekt. 

Es geht darum wie junge Menschen heutzutage Entscheidungen treffen. Ich finde es schwierig  diese Frage allgemein wertend zu repräsentieren da wir alle Individuen sind und für uns selbst entscheiden. Darum hab ich mich erstmal gefragt wie ich selber Entscheidungen treffe und durch viele hinterfragungen und dem auseindersetzen verschiedener Themen im Unterricht wie zum Beispiel extrinsische und intrinsiche Motivation, also ob wir zum beispiel darum handeln weil es eine Belohnung gibt oder ob es aus eigenem Willen geschieht. Da kam  ich zu dem Gedanken das ich aus Erfahrungen und aus Emotionen heraus handel.

Hierbei sind die Emotionen das wichtigste da sie überhaupt der Grund sind warum ich Entscheidungen treffe. Ich möchte mich glücklich fühlen ich nöchte Freude empfinden das ist es eigentlich worauf ich meine Entscheidungen basiere, wenn man es auf das simpelste Verlangen und Bedürfnisse reduziert, jedoch ist das nich alles so ganz so einfach, denn Glück und Freude sind nicht unbedingt ein dauerhafter zustand man muss Sachen im Gleichgewicht halten und auch dinge tuen die man nicht tuen möchte um Glück und Freude zu erreichen.  Entscheidungen sind die Wahl zwischen einer oder mehreren möglichen Handlungen „Mut steht am Anfang des Handelns Glück am Ende“ (Demokrit)*1 dieses Zitat von Demokrit beschreibt das man Mut braucht um Entscheidungen zu treffen denn die Wahl zu haben bedeutet die Vor und Nachteile seines Handelns zu sehen, doch ist dies nicht immer möglich, denn wir können nicht in die Zukunft sehen wir können nicht immer genau Wissen was die Konsequenzen unseres Handelns ausmachen und im nachinein bereuen wir unsere Entscheidungen vielleicht wie ich, ich bereue meinen Eltern nicht früher von mir zu erzählen wer ich denn wirklich bin, das ich ein Mädchen bin. Aber oftmals sind wir auch froh darum wie wir unsere Entscheidungen getroffen haben. Ich habe 8 Jahre gebraucht um Endlich meine Hormone zu bekommen und mich selbst zu akzeptieren. Ich habe mich entschieden offen damit umzugehen das ich eine Transfrau bin und bereue diese Entscheidung nicht denn das ist es was ich bin und es gibt mir Mut und Kraft und Freude endlich mich nicht mehr verstecken zu müssen. 

„Don’t worry, be Happy“*2 dies sind die Worte von Bobby McFerrin die er 1988 gesungen hat und manchmal sollte man seine Sorgen beiseite schieben und einfach darüber nachdenken was einen Glücklich macht und es dann auch tuen. In meinem Fall hieß es mich nicht weiter darum zu Sorgen was meine Eltern darüber denken das ich Trans bin sondern darüber das ich Glücklicher bin, wenn ich es Sage, denn das bin ich auf jeden Fall.

Deswegen kommt es darauf an was uns Glück und Freude bringt denn das muss man erstmal herausfinden und dazu kommt noch das sich Sachen ändern können die einem Freude bereiten von simplen dingen wie Essen bis hin zu Partnern. Glück ist meistens nicht konsequent und man muss dafür arbeiten um es aufrecht zu erhalten in vielen Fällen geht es hier um materielle Mittel nämlich Geld. Mit Geld kann man sich einige Bedürfnisse erfüllen und sich somit Glück kaufen ein schönes Haus gutes Essen etc. doch auch nicht alles kann mit Geld erlangt werden.

Liebe zum beispiel kann man nicht kaufen dafür muss man den richtigen Partner finden, aber auch selber der richtige Partner sein das heißt Kompromisse eingehen Fehler zu akzeptieren aber auch an seinen eigenen zu abeiten. Eine Partnerschaft sollte im besten Fall ein geben und nehmen sein und selbst wenn Probleme auftreten können diese aus der Welt geschafft werden. Doch öfter denn je dachte man vielleicht die richtige Person gefunden zu haben aber es klappt doch nicht aus dem ein oder anderen Grund. So kommt es das was einem Glück und Freude gebracht hat sich ändern kann durch Erfahrungen.

Man kann auch Erfüllung finden in seiner Arbeit zum Beispiel in der sozialen Branche das es einem Freude bereitet anderen zu helfen und so ihnen Freude zu bereiten oder in der Hauswirtschaft wenn man Lob bekommt für das Essen was man geschaffen das man seine Talente zeigen kann, oder aber es ist nur ein Job und man macht ihn um Geld zu kriegen um Leben zu können, denn oftmals Arbeiten wir nur weil wir müssen und erfüllen uns unsere Wünsche und Bedürfnisse anderswo.

Und doch streben wir weiter danach unser Glück bis ans Lebensende zu finden und zwar erneut und erneut. Ich würde im allgemeinen also sagen das junge Leute oder allgemein Menschen Entscheidungen treffen um Glück und Freude zu empfinden doch der Weg dahin ist für ein jeden ein anderer auch wenn sich diese Wege kreuzen oder man auch nebeneinander geht man geht seinen eigenen Weg. 

Man sollte also sein Ziel immer kennen nämlich Glück und Freude doch man sollte nicht sich entmutigen lassen, wenn es nicht immer geradlinig ist. Eine weitere Sachen wäre noch das es immer Besser ist Freude und Glück zu teilen denn dadurch entsteht meiner Meinung nach eine bessere Welt.

hier noch einmal meine Quellen:

https://memeshappen.com/meme/92683/I-dont-get-the-emotions

https://falschzitate.blogspot.com/2020/02/mut-steht-am-anfang-des-handelns-gluck.html

https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don’t_Worry,_Be_Happy

https://www.happierhuman.com/happy-memes/

https://harmoni-living.com/blogs/news/relatable-work-memes

https://www.ebay.com/itm/392709723784

#memes #trans woman #philosophy

[sophieclair]

Do you know any good places for trans people who dont really know what to do as they start their transition..?

Hi there! There are a lot of great organizations and Tumblr’s with good tips, if you check out my trans resources tag you’ll find a bunch of them!

http://profeminist.tumblr.com/tagged/trans-resources

8 Tips for Coming Out as Non-Binary

Trans and Non-Binary Resource Masterpost

http://transstudent.org

http://nonbinary-support.tumblr.com/

Trans Youth Support Network

TransgenderChild.net

TransYouth Family Allies

TransYouthEquality.org

Here’s a masterlist from @transteens101

General resources:

local resources

gender masterpost

LGBT social group meetups

agender chatroom

trans chatroom

transgender faq

Everything Gender Part 1 (Video)

Everything Gender Part 2 (Video)

The trans teen’s guide to dating

Literature with LGBT+ characters

LGBT+ Films

Transgender advice

family issues

Transgénero (Spanish article on all things trans)

Transgender Religious Expression and Spirituality

tips for living stealth (written for trans men but also applies for trans women)

gender therapy

Trans related terminology:

transwhat

transhealth

transgender glossary (this one’s a bit outdated)

transadvocate

becomingus (includes the dos and don’ts of using certain trans-related words)

transgender faq

list of gender identities

Glossary of Transgender, Non-Binary and Genderqueer Words

Definitions

Understanding your gender identity:

Gender identity flowchart

What is gender?

Understanding gender

What am I?

list of gender identities

Am I Transgender? (Video)

Being Trans (Video)

I Think I Might be Transgender, Now what do I do?

Pronouns:

What’s a pronoun?

Gender Neutral Pronouns (Video)

The Pronoun Place

Gender Neutral Language

How Non-Binary Pronouns Work

Guide to Non-Binary Pronouns

Gender Neutral Titles

pronouns

How to Correct People’s Pronoun and Name Slip-Ups

Intersex:

INSA

Advocates for Informed Choice

Interact Youth

What it’s Like (Video)

What is Intersex?

Intersex Definition

Male, Female, or Intersex

Nonbinary resources:

Nonbinary support blog

Unisex names

Living as Nonbinary (Spanish)

Genderqueer (Spanish)

Nonbinary Flowchart

Explaining Genderqueer

Genderqueer and Hormones (Video)

The Nonbinary Safespace

Nonbinary Autistics

Gender Queeries

Ask a Nonbinary

Nonbinary.org

Genderqueer ID

Hell Yeah, Agender!

A-Gender

Genderless Person (Video)

When no Gender Fits

Androgyne Online

Practical Androgyne

Ambiguous Sexuality

Neutrois.me

Neutrois.com

Neutrois Nonsense

What is Neutrois?

Experiences as Neutrois

Bigender Resources

What it’s Like Being Bigender

Demigender Safe Space

Demi Safe Spot

Introducing Demigender

Subgenders

Genderfluidity

Genderfluid Facts

Genderflux Support

Teaching About Gender Fluidity (PDF)

How can I Live as Genderfluid?

Genderfluid Definitions

Two Spirit:

2spirits

Who Are They?

Native American Concepts

Of Indigenous North Americans

As They Are

Two Spirits: The Story of a Movement

Other Cultural Based Genders:

Hijra Wikipedia

Hijra Takes place in Indian Law

Kathoey Wikipedia

Where the ‘Ladyboys’ are

Muxe Wikipedia

In Mexico, Mixed Genders and Muxe

Fa’afafines Wikipedia

Fa’afafines: The Third Gender

Transfeminine resources:

tucking masterpost

Tucking and other skills

trans women resources master post

Makeup for beginners

MtF resources

Ask a transwoman

Tucking and other skills

Male to Female Support

How to hide stubble

tucking forum and thread

Tucking How-to Guide

low budget diy breast forms [video]

Realistic Breast Form Tutorial (Video)

The Breast Form Store

How to make home made breast forms

Women’s Clothing Terminology

TheLeelahProject

surgery booklet

hrt booklet

Trans Health Matters: Trans Women

girl names + their meanings

etiquette for women’s bathrooms

MtF HRT

Hormones: A guide for MTFs

Hormone replacement therapy (male-to-female)

Transgender Hormones - Transgender Care

Feminizing HRT (for Male-to-Females) - Michele O'Mara, PhD

Sex reassignment surgery (male-to-female)

Vaginoplasty: Male to Female Sex Reassignment Surgery

Surgery: A guide for MTFs (PDF)

MTF GRS

MTF surgeries price list (this is just for one surgery centre but can give you an idea of the estimated cost of any surgeries)

Transmasculine resources:

The Art of Transliness

Ask a trans guy

What it’s like being on T

Transmasc tips

GC2B Binders

Swimwear binders

Binding : how to guide + safety

FTM masterpost

boy names + their meanings

Workouts to Promote a More Masculine Figure

Where to Get Men’s Clothes that Fit

Dealing with the Dreaded Period

Pros and Cons of Strap-On Sex for Trans Guys

Relationship Tips for Trans Guys

A Guide to STPs and Standing to Pee

To Pack or Not to Pack

Swimming as a Trans Guy

Packing and Packers 101

Everything You Need to Know About Binders and Binding

Using the Men’s Bathroom

All About Top Surgery and Nipples

Androgel Q & A

What to Expect from Testosterone and When

Risks and Dangers of Illegal Testosterone

Genital Changes on T

10 Common Myths about Medical Transition

FTM Testosterone Therapy Basics

FTM resource guide

FTM transitioning guide

effects of testosterone therapy

FTM Chest Reconstruction Surgeries (includes Spanish translation link)

Hysterectomy/Oophorectomy

FTM Genital Reconstruction Surgeries (GRS)

FTM Basics: Terminology

Myths and Misconceptions about Testosterone, Transition, and Trans Men

1 year on testosterone: timeline of changes

FtM HRT

Hormones: A Guide for FTMs (PDF)

The Philadelphia Centre for Transgender Surgery

Coming out:

coming out tips

Coming Out to Family and Friends

Coming Out to Friends

Coming Out to Partners

Resources for Coming Out

Coming Out as Nonbinary

When Should You?

How to Come Out to Parents

Tips and Advice (Video)

Coming out & family issues

How to Deal with Parents that are Not Accepting

Tips for Coming out and Dealing with People

Explaining Your Transition to Kids/Younger Family Members

Trans mental health:

Gender spectrum: mental health

More Subtle Dysphoria

Dealing with Dysphoria and Helplessness

8 Signs and Symptoms of Dysphoria

25 Ways to Ease Dysphoria

tips on coping with gender dysphoria

How do I deal with dysphoria?

how to cope with Gender Dysphoria

transselfies: a trans body positivity blog

How to Deal with Parents that are Not Accepting

Trans suicide hotline

emergency hotlines (U.S. only)

international emergency hotlines

Doubts, Decision, and Detransition

Trans Lifeline

Trans advice/resource/discussion blogs and sites:

Genderfork

Gender inbetween

anagnori

transgenderteensurvivalguide

transclothesexchange

transresource

the-lgbt-youth-blog

transcending-anatomy

transgenderhousingnetwork

Transyada

Susan’s Place

transwhat

transselfies

Nonbinary support blog

helpfultransinfo

trans tips

transgenderadvice

transgenderbenders

Hope that helps! Readers, free free to comment / reblog with suggestions, thanks!

[sophieclair]

This Pride, don’t forget about us

ID: “This Pride remember to respect all trans people : Trans women who don’t shave with a drawing of a woman whit a yellow and pink beard, trans men who don’t bind, masculine trans women and feminine trans men with a drawing of a trans woman with short pink hair wearing a yellow baseball T-shirt holding hands with a trans man with a yellow crop top and short curly blue hair, fat trans people with the drawing of a fat trans woman with short white hair, dark skin and a pink cropped top, disabled trans people with a drawing of a wheelchair and a walking cane in the color of the trans flag, neurodivergent trans people with the symbol of the autistic community, trans people who are sex worker with a drawing of blue bra and pink underwear, poor trans people who can’t afford transition, trans people who aren’t out yet with a drawing of a closed door, trans people who don’t plan on transitioning, black trans people with a black fist holding a trans flag, and any trans people who isn’t white with multiple hands of different skin tones, muslim trans people with a drawing of someone wearing a hijab in the color of the trans flag, jewish trans people with a drawing of someone wearing a white shirt and a kippah in the color of the trans flag, non binary people even those who don’t identify as trans with the non binary flag, those whose identity you might not understand with the genderfluid flag, the agender flag, the demi gender flag and the genderqueer flag, trans people who don’t pass and don’t want to with a drawing of a trans woman with a beard and dark skin raising her fist, every pronouns with dialog box in which are different sets of pronouns, trans people of every identity with the gay flag, the lesbian flag, the ace flag, the bi flag, the pan flag and the aro flag, every trans person is beautiful and deserving of so much love so don’t forget the T.” End ID

P.S. : can someone tell me if I did the image description right cuz I have no idea

[sophieclair]

Courtney was the chief member behind Cohen’s fan club. Being Cohen’s biggest fan, she was responsible for organizing the fan club and monitoring the actions of its members. She was, as many people would say, rather shallow and felt she was a queen who thought she had a say in how others could approach Cohen or even speak to them. She was a beautiful woman capable of getting most of what she wanted by taking advantage of this fact.

But things for her changed once a certain young lady decided to get revenge for the treatment she received from both Cohen and the people associated with him. Courtney was at the top of this list.

Once possessing a voluptuous and shapely figure, Courtney now found her world to be a bit more round and thick as a Wailmer Pokemorph

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[sophieclair]

Today I have cut myself for the first time on purpose.

I am really afraid and hate pain but today I cut myself for the first not very deep but willingly. I physically injured my body myself because I am not able to tell my pain otherwise because I am afraid nobody believes me like always and tell me I that I never do something right . My cutting was not because of an event I just wanted to see scars that represent my hate against my body I hate it. I hate hate hate hate it so much. The pain is not very strong. It burns a little but nothing else. I am not sure if these will be the last or only the first. Thats it for today from me. Ah oh yeah happy fucking new year or whatever

Yours truly depressed

Transgirl Sophie

[sophieclair]

Why I really need to transition

Hey transgirl here and I wanted to talk about gender dysphoria a bit. Yeah my dysphoria lets me feel like shit and I literally want to rip off my penis because it does not fucking belong to me so yeah you could maybe tell I am not in the greatest mood right now and that is quite simple because I fucking hate my body for me it is just outright disgusting and everything could be really easy with a little something called estrogen. It would help me really much but I can not have it because I need a therapist but I can not find any so thats why I sit here. Depressed and full of suicidal thoughts and hoping somebody would just run me over but nothing happens and I stay here lonely and empty crying in silence until I spill my last tear on the floor with the rest of what is left of me.

#transgirl

[sophieclair]

Movies where i cried

I have finally watched Love Simon and now there are 3 movies where I had to cry because they fucked my feelings the first one is the bridge to Terabithia and the second where i probably cried the most is the danish girl because there were just so many similarities that I remembered everything all over again and again.

[sophieclair]

Anger

Do you know the power of bottled up feelings ? Because I want to tell you something about anger, not the kind of anger you can scream or punch away. No I want to talk about this anger this rage that I felt. This rage gathered in me for years and on this one day it was just too much. I was in physical pain because I could not express the anger that I felt , because I could not scream it in the face of the person that the anger was meant for. I could not tell the person how shit they are and mendacious. I did not know what to do I was not able to calm down. I screamed I ram my head against the wall let freezing water run over me but ... nothing only this anger this rage, agony and fear. The fear to knever feel something else only this agony and this rage without ever having a chance to let it go. Never be able to have a clear thought again. I tried to tell my best friend what happened but I was not able to speak properly I was just rambling and nothing made sense but I was able to calm my self a little bit and the anger leveled down, but since that day deep down I am still angry angrier than ever before and now I am in fear that this rage will rise again, this rage that you are completely helpless against, consuming your entire being and never letting you feel anything except agony.