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It's like forgetting that people are different. Let's face it. Everyone cannot have the same heart and intentions as you. So, expecting people to handle situations like you do will just lead to unnecessary headache, frustration and disappointment.

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One of the things i'm really trying to change about myself is that i usually expect ME from other people.

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The thing is people don't care like that. They'll hurt you and that's all about it. It's not even going to affect their life in anyway because they're not thinking about you.

So, that script in your head about how you will revenge when they come back to beg you...thrash it. Life is not nollywood.

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"How do they sleep at night knowing they hurt me this much?"

My love, they not only sleep, if you hear the way they even snore...

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It's just so funny how easy it is to give advice, but when you're actually the one in the situation, it would just seem like you've suddenly become a fool. The funniest part is that you probably know what step to take , but you'll just find it so hard to carry out.

I came across this tweet one time, it states that "if e never do you, you go think say nah you wise pass. Advice go just dey sweet for your mouth."

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He calls me "my baby".

He sends me cute and thoughtful messages.

He remembers my favourite snack.

He notices how my face lights up when i'm talking about something i'm excited about.

He reminds me of how important i am to him.

He always wants to know more about me.

He is always looking for ways to make me smile.

With him...i feel safe.

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Adulthood is realizing that no one is coming to save you. You have to save yourself.

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Stop feeling stupid about your past decisions and regretting them. "I shouldn't have...", "If I could go back in time, i wouldn't...".

Stop being so hard on yourself. Yes, you've made some mistakes which you deeply regret. However, life must go on. Learn from those mistakes and make actual efforts to never repeat them. Give yourself a second chance.

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It's okay to choose yourself.

You don't have to feel guilty about it.

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8. Attention on Growth: Focus on your personal growth and self-discovery. Consider what you've learnt from your friendship and how you can apply those lessons in future relationships.

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7. Letting Go Gradually: It's okay to gradually let go. Letting go of a friendship does not have to occur all at once. It could be a slow process of emotionally detaching yourself while making room for new connections and experiences.

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6. Seek help: During this phase, seek help from other friends, or family members. Talking with someone you trust can help you get perspective, validation, and emotional support.

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4. Communicate Honestly: Have an honest and courteous chat with your friend about your feelings. One thing about me is that i hate regretting things. So, because of that, i would fight for my relationship with the people i care about until there's nothing to fight for. That way, if it eventually doesn't work out, i can move on with my life without regretting or thinking of what i could have done. Express yourself calmly and clearly, focusing on your own point of view, what's hurting you and give room for your friend to express him/herself.

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5. Set boundaries: If you're a soft hearted person like me, this is for you. If the friendship is giving you pain but you aren't ready to let go altogether because of how much you care about your friend, consider setting boundaries to safeguard your well-being. This could involve minimising contact, gradually reducing discussion subjects.

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3. Assess your needs: Consider your own needs, values, and limitations. Is the friendship is compatible with these parts of your life or it is just creating tension, anxiety, or discomfort.

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2. Reflect on the Relationship: Take time to consider the nature of your friendship, including its positive side as well as any issues that may have occurred. Is the friendship is beneficial to your life or it has become unhealthy or toxic?

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1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: See, there's no point in being a hard guy about this. Recognise and acknowledge your emotions towards the friendship. It's normal to be sad, hurt, or torn about letting go, and allowing yourself to feel these feelings is a vital first step.