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So I just heard about “Primed: The Back Pocket Guide for Trans Men and the Men Who Dig Them.” It’s the first sexual health resource written by and for gay, bi and queer trans men/ transmasculine people, put out by Rainbow Health Ontario, and it’s a very frank guide that answers basically any questions you might have about safer sex. They’ve released it for free download here.

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I love you using feminine/masculine equivalents of your deadname, I love you chosen names with cultural significance, I love you stereotypical trans names, I love you super uncommon names, I love you noun names, I love you trans people who keep their birth name, I love you changing your name more than once, I love you using multiple names simultaneously, I love you people who haven't decided on a name yet, I love you every single name of every single trans person ever.

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Ok while we are talking about treating trans people as humans and not as sexual objects can we talk about assumptions of what genitals we have?

Yeah trans people get the “what’s in your underpants hehe” questions from cishet people all the time but like.. some of y’all also make assumptions while trying to be supportive? Like, I really need y’all to understand that there are trans women with vaginas and trans men with penises. You simply cannot treat all trans women as though they have a girldick and you cannot treat all trans men like they have a boypussy. Gender Affirming Surgery has been around longer than most of you were even a twinkle in your daddy’s eye (literally the 1950s, making bottom surgery 70 years old) and some of you still act like there isn’t a significant portion of trans people who have had it or have a goal to get it.

It’s totally fine to not want to get it/be no-op, but I have also met trans women who have confided with me that they have severe bottom dysphoria but do not want to undergo GAS because they are worried partners will be disappointed by it. And that’s fucking sad. I just feel like the commodification of trans bodies as a fetish has led to this idea that what genitals you have determines if you are trans or not, which is just ridiculous. It’s the same transphobic rhetoric that people use to justify not dating trans people because of “genital preference” when they literally have no clue what genitals a trans woman or man has.

All vaginas are good vaginas, and all penises are good penises. There aren’t more real or more fake genitals, just the ones you have.

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The Appendix: Transmasculine Joy in a Transphobic Culture - Liam Konemann

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this was that tiktok i saw btw lol

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Finding other trans people attractive is a crucial part of reducing one's own struggles with dysphoria, I am not joking about this. Obviously it is not ever a bad thing to want physical changes to help get where you want in your transition, but, once you start to realise people built like you now can be beautiful or handsome or even enviable for what are usually considered transgender traits, it can go a long way towards helping you feel like those traits aren't so bad to have after all...

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Elisabeth Ohlson Wallin

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Jesse Pinkman is an allegory for being transgender

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A quick reminder:

Testosterone is NOT a contraceptive, and there is a chance you can get pregnant (if you're having sex with people who can get you pregnant) even if you aren't having a period anymore. You CANNOT rely on T for birth control.

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so i got top surgery. super great. but it turns out im built like the worms from Men in Black. decidedly not so great.

Transmasc swag unlimited true form

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i did not have “born in the wrong body” childhood transgender angst i had “blissfully unaware of the concept of gender until the world lucifer’d me and made me bite that fucking awareness apple and then suddenly everything was Wrong” angst

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thinking about that time I was at some kind of diversity and inclusion thing that involved discussion in small groups and one straight girl said she really wanted to be a good ally but sometimes there were some things she just didn’t know and was too afraid to ask for fear of accidentally being offensive. and as the only queer person in this 4-5 person group I said well go ahead and ask me, I don’t care if you accidentally use the wrong term right now or whatever, it’s better to talk about it and learn something, I love talking about queerness and I’ll answer the best I can. and she just looked so nervous and in the end wound up refusing to ask for fear of causing offense. and it wasn’t just the group setting, I’ve known straight people to act similarly even when it’s just one on one

and just. you guys. this is what purity culture and the “if you don’t know something you were never a real ally in fact you’re a bigot in fact you’re worse than bigots because you pretended not to be one” attitude does. how can our allies be allies if they’re scared to talk to us? to ask questions, to make mistakes, to learn? can we please bring back the idea of “in good faith”? there’s way more to say here about identity politics and virtue signaling and acting like language is more important than action but I’m too tired for that right now

please feel free to add to the discussion (regardless of if you’re queer or not), I would love to hear about people’s experiences with this and if others feel differently about it

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NON-BINARY MASTER POST (part 2)

This is a collection of all my body positive illustrations for non-binary folks I did in 2017. I hope, they help you! <3

You can find part 1 here: [LINK]

For more body positive artwork, please check out my instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bopolena/

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Stop convincing yourself you’re wasting your life away. The time you’ve spent resting and healing was and is necessary. You’re not a waste of a person if you find yourself struggling right now. Healing, recovering, sitting with your pain is foundational. It’s not a waste. You are still whole.

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instead of going on testosterone you should just be bitten by a radioactive cis boy and get more masculine traits spiderman style

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cis people talking to trans people are literally like ‘omg i’m so sorry i really don’t want to offend you please don’t get offended i’m so sorry if i say something offensive i really didn’t mean to offend you i’m just uneducated and don’t know anything about trans people so please please don’t get offended i’m so so sorry. anyways do you have a dick’