when i started my last director job at a university, they told me one of my duties would be to write all the chancellorās letters. me:Ā ācool. but why though?ā them:Ā āEnglish isnāt the chancellorās first language.ā me:Ā āIām aware of that.ā them:Ā āthe chancellor likes the suggestions that autocorrect gives him if he misspells something.ā me:Ā āAh.ā them: hands me a copy of a letter the chancellor sent to a donor who had just given a million-dollar gift to the university, which includes the following: āThe profundity of your gift fills us with the greatest horror. In recognition we have prepared a special plague to compromise you and your familyā.Ā
Which is why to this day when Iām struggling to communicate in a different language, i remember the chancellor, who was Doing His Best, and i try to give myself a break.
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Do not punish the behaviour you want to see
I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?
But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,Ā snarkily say,Ā āSo, youāve decided to join usā?
Or when someone does something theyāve had trouble doing, say,Ā āWhy canāt you do that all the time?ā (Happened to me, too often.)
Or any sentence containing the wordĀ āfinallyā.Ā
If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Donāt complain about how itās not enough. Donāt bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.
Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.
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On Finding the Freedom to Rage Against Our Fathers, Minda Honey
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It puzzles me when people cite LOTR as the standard ofĀ āsimpleā orĀ āpredictableā orĀ āblack and whiteā fantasy. Because in my copy, the hero fails. Frodo chooses the Ring, and itās only Gollumās own desperation for it that inadvertently saves the day. The fate of the world, this whole blood-soaked war, all the millennia-old machinations of elves and gods, comes down to two addicts squabbling over their Precious, and that is precisely and powerfully Tolkienās point.Ā
And then the hero goes home, and finds home a smoking desolation, his neighbors turned on one another, that secondary villain no one finished off having destroyed Frodoās last oasis not even out of evil so much as spite, and then that villain dies pointlessly, and then his killer dies pointlessly. The hero is left not with a cathartic homecoming, the story come full circle in another party; he is left to pick up the pieces of what was and what shall never be again.Ā
And itās not enough. The hero cannot heal, and so departs for the fabled western shores in what remains a blunt and bracing metaphor for death (especially given his aged companions). When Sam tells his family,Ā āWell, Iām backā at the very end, it is an earned triumph, but the very fact that someoneĀ making it back qualifies as a triumph tells you what kind of story this is: one that is too honest to allow its characters to claim a clean victory over entropy, let alone evil.Ā
āI canāt recall the taste of food, nor the sound of water, nor the touch of grass. Iām naked in the dark. Thereās nothingāno veil between me and the wheel of fire. I can see him with my waking eyes.ā
So whereās this silly shallow hippie fever-dream Iāve heard so much about? It sounds like a much lesser story than the one that actually exists.
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Are you an advocate for censorship?
is this because i said not to use the r slur
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dont forget to do your daily clicks at arab.org, please!!
link for clicks
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How do I be cool like Jesus Christ
Be kind
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guy sitting in front of me in class was vandalizing wikipedia and i kept reverting his edits as soon as he made them and he couldn't figure out why it was happening
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Taking Jean Baudrillard to Outback Steakhouse, the Australian-themed restaurant which does not carry Australian food, was not founded in Australia, and was created with zero involvement by Australians
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ā[I]n spite of appearances, God and the world belong together. There is no place where the love of God canāt go. And that is unbearably hard to believe.ā
ā Rowan Williams, Archbishop of Canterbury, in āA Ray of Darknessā
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how to make movies good again:
put some fucking puppets in that thang!!!
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This is yuri.
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