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hey guys! it’s bec here.

it’s been a very long time since i’ve been on here (or on tumblr in general) and it’s time for me now to explain why and then bow out as gracefully as i can.

i loved every second i spent talking to everyone on here, giving advice and talking about love and all kinds of incredible and really gay things. anyone who’s been on here for a while knows that at a certain point that content stream began to slow and come to a stop completely.

the truth is that i’m just not the kind of person who can be on social media, especially with any kind of following or responsibility at all. as much as i loved everything i did here and am so proud of all the times i helped people, it wasn’t sustainable for my own mental health, and i felt unable to provide the honest explanation you guys deserved. this is it. i apologize deeply for how long it’s taken.

i’ve been meaning to do this for a while. i’m now a full-time college student in my sophomore year and don’t do much besides sleep and work, so it kept falling to the wayside. for those of you who’ve followed this blog for a while, you know i was one of two mods, and that we were in a relationship for quite some time. the other mod kept this blog going up until the middle of this year. unfortunately, that relationship recently ended, and that’s my cue. the other mod’s story isn’t mine to tell, but i’m leaving this blog in that mod’s hands.

everyone on here is so deserving of love, and i am so grateful for the time i got to spend with all of you. thank you for sharing your stories with me and letting me share mine with you.

as i said, social media and i don’t really mix, but for the time being i sometimes use twitter and occasionally instagram, and am, at the very least, reachable on those platforms. both of those usernames are @plantcrime.

be safe and take care of yourselves. keep loving boys. ♥

#bec #homoriginal

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oh to wrap bandages around and put disinfectant on another man’s wounds as i catch his tender gaze and lovingly call him an idiot and tell him to be more careful

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men’s shoulder blades… men’s backs… rb if you agree

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boys do this: throw stones at my window at midnight and sneak me out to kiss under the stars

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I’m!!! Gonna lay on my BOY!!! I’ll be back after sleeping for 1000 years on him

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Hierarchy of needs diagram except it’s just one and it says “boyfriend”

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Hierarchy of needs diagram except it’s just one and it says “boyfriend”

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GENDER IS A PRISON AND I CHEWED THROUGH THE BARS!!!!!!!!!!!!

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no offense but why are brown-eyed boys literally the most beautiful thing on this planet??

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hey transphobes

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Removing the carpet on the stairs in my flat reveals arcane secrets

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I dont have any good pics of me so here’s my contribution for trans day of visibility

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[Image description: Text that says “Happy TDOV!” in the colors of the trans pride flag. /End ID]

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Transgender Day of Visibility is on March 31st and if you’re trans then these blogs might boost your selfies if you send any to submit to them:

@brownandtrans (for all trans people of color)

@fattranspoc (for fat trans people of color)

@fuck-yeah-transmen (for trans guys)

@nbpocparty (for non-binary people of color)

@transmasculineselfielove (for transmasculine people)

@nbselfielove (for non-binary people)

@nonbinarynotandrogynous (for non-binary people)

@nonbinarycuties (for non-binary people)

@chubbytubbytrans (for fat and chubby trans people)

@fuckyeahcutetranschicks (for trans girls)

@transgirlsarebeautiful (for trans girls)

@dailytransselfies (general)

@transbutts (general)

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Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Genital surgery

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

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Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Masculine clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Swimming

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Genital surgery

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

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More resources:

What gender am I? A roadmap to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and coping tips

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns

Here is how to get hormones in America

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

The NHS’s Guide For Young Trans People in England

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Airports and traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Being religious and LGBT

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults)

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

Other trans blogs on Tumblr

Crisis help: Suicide and crisis hotlines

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Anyone can reblog, including allies! Hopefully these resources reach someone who needs them. Happy TDOV everyone!

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Some fun images for TDOV. (ID: four images with the words “trans day of visibility 2019” in the colors of the trans flag on pastel blue, yellow, green, and pink backgrounds.)