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Pornographers are not your friends, part 2

Caution: The language on this one is even worse.  We’re sorry.  Most of this is from promotional copy, meaning the descriptions on the back of the movie cases or on their websites.  We think you ought to know how pornographers describe their own work.

We’ve got a scene in our movie where a girl comes to our hotel room and wants our autographs, and we tell her that she has to disrobe. And then we open up her ass and we try to play quarters in her ass! It’s crazy!  --Pornographer Matt Zane, quoted in Spin Magazine .

ONE OF THE BIGGEST WHORES EVER! Bridgette Kerkove will probably go down in the anals of porn history as one of the most filthy, disgusting cumpigs to ever have lived. She’ll stuff as many cocks in her mouth, ass, and cunt as is physically possible - and then some!

--Promotional copy for Gag Factor videos.

“Max turns ordinary teens and mothers alike into piss and cum-splattered sluts before your eyes. Max wastes no time, gagging girls on his cock and pissing down their throats before he even learns their email addresses! Max also uses speculums to pry-open their fuck-holes so you can look deep inside. He’ll spray his cum and piss into the gaping tunnels, even making them drink it out of their ass! Whether it’s a naive teen or classy broad, Max delivers the same ruthless treatment.” –From Max Hardcore’s Biography, posted at his website (he’s in jail now, btw)

“We at Pure Filth know exactly what you want, and we’re giving it to you. Chicks being ass-fucked till their sphincters are pink, puffy and totally blown out. Adult diapers just might be in store for these whores when their work is done.” –Promotional copy for “Anally Ripped Whores”

“ Women were born with three holes for one purpose: To cram a cock deep inside every cuddly cavity! Like true cock sockets, our whores subject their beautiful bodies to the nastiest 4-way debauchery ever lensed. We capture five starry-eyed sluts getting wild and testing the limits of carnal cock-consumption. They redefine raunchy and stretch the limits of ass, mouth, and pussy penetration.” –Promotional copy for Zero Tolerance - No Holes Barred “

"Let’s face it in the last 10 years men and women from all around the world have fantasized about fucking the world’s ultimate sex icon, hot and beautiful Jenna Jameson. That perfect body, that insatiable appetite for sex… She can please with a smile and a wink of an eye… Now, we all know you will never have her in person but… what about having her doing WHATEVER YOU WANT? Make her have sex with men, women, fuck her ass, cum all over her… ALL THIS AND MORE is what you’ll be able to do at VIRTUALLY JENNA! 

- From the website VirtuallyJenna

The college coed cummundrum continues! In other words college chicks are getting filmed naked! Without their permission! Naked while they change dress shower get ready for bed or take communal showers with other girls!

- Description of Real Hidden Coed Girls #1, from Amazing.net

Use'em:Pick up ordinary girls and persuade ‘em to get naked.  Abuse 'Em; Do what the fuck you like to 'em! They all love it anyway. Lose'Em: Dump'em and go looking for your next victim. Ride along as we pick up ordinary young women fuck 'em senseless and dump 'em! It’s all good clean fun!

-Description of Use 'em Abuse 'em & Lose 'em #2, from Amazing.net

Man: Are you crying?

Woman: No, I’m enjoying it.

Man: Damn, I thought you were crying. It was turning me on when I thought you were crying.

Woman: Would you like me to?

Man: Yeah, give me a fucking tear. Oh, there’s a fucking tear.

-Dialogue from Two in the Seat #3, as quoted by Robert Jensen in Getting Off.

Are you feeling ready to sign the NoPornPledge yet? www.NoPornPledge.com

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a handful of “rape culture” articles too cowardly to mention pornography as a factor:

http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/03/examples-of-rape-culture/

http://www.thenation.com/article/ten-things-end-rape-culture/

http://www.rantpolitical.com/2015/06/12/15-real-life-examples-of-rape-culture-in-our-society/

http://historyofrapeculture.weebly.com/contemporary-rape-culturepopular-culture.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/julia-kacmarek/rape-culture-is_b_3368577.html

http://www.shakesville.com/2009/10/rape-culture-101.html

http://www.xojane.com/issues/rape-culture-what-it-is-and-how-it-works

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“The research found that watching pornography has influenced one in every two boys to contemplate molesting girls, as 70.55% of the research participants thought about touching girls without consent after watching porn videos….The analysis from the study results suggest, boys’ showed more gender equitable attitudes and perceptions denying toxic masculinities after the end of the year-long intervention. Teenage boys’ desire to access pornography decreased significantly due to their increased understanding of the SRHR issues. Parents’ awareness of positive parenting also increased significantly.”

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You say:

“ All women are beautiful”

but what you probably mean is:

“All women have value.”

And the reason you’re mixing up those two words is that you’ve been raised to believe that only beauty can confer value on women.

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https://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=12123945

Everyone know porn is just a fantasy, except kids in New Zealand it seems.

Also they spelled rape wrong in the headline.

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“Why does a 13 year-old prostituted child with no experience command a price 100 times that of a 23 year-old with ten years of experience and in what other ‘profession’ does your value decrease the more experienced you are?”

— SM Berg at Radfem Repost

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Conversation with a former pornographer

“We asked, “Do you see a correlation between this and child sex trafficking?”

“Absolutely,” he replied. “She does whatever I ask. Then she has to do more. And do more and do more to keep getting that money. How’s that not sex trafficking?”

Pauling added, “There’s no difference between that and a pimp who tells a girl off of a bus that he’s her boyfriend and then makes her do more and more and more. It’s exactly the same, it’s just that oftentimes we’re dressed better.”

He has been out of the industry for eight years and now questions the appeal of porn.

“What’s appealing about a girl that’s curled up in a fetal position in a corner sucking her thumb because her mind is so blown by what she’s just done to herself that she doesn’t know how to handle it? Because that’s what porn is.”

Read the whole thing here

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what do you say when people ask “what about gay porn”? i always say that supporting the industry in any way is bad or that that isn’t the issue at hand but this feels inadequate at times like what about porn where women aren’t involved at all?

So I don’t support the commodification of human sexuality, full stop. I don’t support the concept of earning money by having sex. However, if anyone has any specific critiques about gay porn, you can post them below.

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Prostitution myths

Read the full text by the European’s Women’s Lobby here

“Prostitution is the oldest profession in the world.”

Let us change the perspective: pimping could indeed be considered the oldest profession in the world. In any case, just because something has existed for a long time does not mean that it should or cannot be changed. We do not say “murder has been around forever: we cannot do anything about it”. Look at death penalty or slavery for example.

“It is a job like any other.”

Do you know any other job where people face a mortality rate 10 to 40 times above the average? Where 60 to 80% of “workers” experience regular physical and sexual abuse? If this is a job like any other, how come so few women from Western Europe take the opportunity? How come the overwhelming majority are migrant women? Does this mean that this so called “job” is only for the foreign women in your country? For the sake of gender equality, should we campaign to promote this job for men? There are trade unions in Europe that do not see prostitution as a job as it is incompatible with the safety and the dignity, as well as the “career” progression, associated with a profession.

“Prostitution brings women economic independence, especially to migrant women.”

In times of economic crisis, with high unemployment, with thriving racist attitudes, it would be very easy to say that prostitution is a solution for women in general, and for migrant women in particular. It would even help to reduce unemployment rates! Real issues for migrant women are about: labour market access, qualification recognition and family reunification rights. Economic independence should not come at the cost of harm and abuse. In the 21st century, we have to do better.

“It is a choice.”

“If women had more economic choices in this society, they would not choose to be abused in prostitution”, says Fiona Broadfoot, survivor from the UK. Choice is always related to a context. Today in Europe, gender equality is not a reality: just look at the gender pay gap (16%), the prevalence of violence against women (1 in 5 women victim of domestic violence), sexist stereotypes, underrepresentation of women in business, academia and politics (24% of national parliamentarians)… In a context where many women face discrimination, poverty and violence, consent can be bought with money. Extensive research indicates that poverty, family loss, homelessness, drug addiction and a history of physical and sexual abuse combine to make young women vulnerable to entering prostitution. Moreover, the majority of women who enter prostitution first do so very young. Would you want your daughter or sister to choose prostitution? She could start tomorrow.

“Prostitution brings a lot of money.”

To whom? According to Interpol in Europe, a pimp earns 110 000 euros per year and per woman in prostitution. If prostitution were such a good job, how come the majority of women in prostitution do not own a car, an apartment or save money for the future? The idea that prostitution brings a lot of money is a myth. Moreover, debating on the amount of money earned in prostitution is a dishonest strategy: whatever the amount, prostitution is about someone buying access to your body and sexuality. Human beings are priceless.

“Prostitution is about sexual freedom, abolition is anti-sex.”

Let us be more precise: whose sexual freedom are we talking about? Everyone agrees that sexual freedom consists of enjoying sexual health and rights, based on equality and free from any discrimination, coercion or violence (definition of the World Health Organisation). Prostitution is not about sex, it’s about power: the purchase of sex is the denial of the other person’s desire. Paying for sex is denying another person’s right to sexual desire and consists of a profound disempowering of sexual agency in another human being. In other words, buying sex from someone can never be about sexual freedom. Abolitionists are pro-sex: they want genuine sexual freedom and equality between women and men, and this cannot be achieved as long as sexuality is placed within the scope of the market.

“Prostitution is part of women’s historical struggle to control their body.”

In the 1970s in Europe, women indeed struggled for the recognition of their reproductive and sexual rights, in particular the right to safe abortion. They were denouncing structural gender inequality and therefore any authority imposing its views on women’s human rights: religion, tradition… and the market. The commodification of sexuality and women’s bodies cannot be considered part of a collective struggle for women’s rights: prostitution is about men entitling themselves to buy sex, it is not about realising gender equality.

“Some women claim that it is their right to prostitute themselves.” 

Some people freely accept to work for less than the minimum wage (especially undocumented migrants for example); some even agree to sell one organ. In both cases, our society has decided to protect the most vulnerable and guarantee decent life for all; in such cases, the law therefore condemns the employer, or the buyer of the organ. Similarly, the law should criminalise the sex buyer, not the person in prostitution. Some persons might indeed claim that they choose to be in prostitution; but a democratic society is not built on the basis of individual claims that don’t reflect the situation of the overwhelming majority. At stake is the future we are creating, the society we want to live in. In this day and age, we should be more concerned about women’s and men’s right not to be in prostitution.

“Only “sex workers” should talk about prostitution, because they know best.”

 Should only women who have been victim of domestic violence be entitled to denounce intimate partner violence? Domestic violence is recognised as a structural form of violence against women, that affects us all, women and men, because it is about societal values. Prostitution also affects us all: it conveys norms and representations to young people, it is trivialised and even glamorised by the media and the culture industry. No wonder the insult ‘whore’ is so widespread! Moreover, for every mediatised “sex worker”, there are many survivors of prostitution, who very rarely speak out, because of the trauma linked to their experience. And millions of persons still in prostitution, who are invisible. It is time to listen to them.

“Prostitution is useful for society, especially for socially isolated and lonely men.” 

Sex buyers do not fit this stereotype: international research shows that the majority of sex buyers are men married or in a relationship, and are more likely to have a larger number of sexual partners (not through prostitution) than the rest of the male population. By justifying prostitution as a social institution, one would imply that some women are to be sacrificed for the “needs” of these men. Luckily, you or your sister/wife/daughter/friend is not part of the sacrificed ones. Women in prostitution are first and foremost women; they should all enjoy the same equal rights and human dignity

“Demand will never disappear.” 

What a sad vision of men…: according to this assumption, men are driven by their so-called sexual “irrepressible needs”, not by their brain. It is all the more surprising to believe, as the majority of men are not sex buyers. Demand is justified by a certain vision of masculinity, related to virility or strength, all stereotypes about men conveyed in our unequal societies. Demand can be reduced by education, prevention and legislation. It is as simple as that. Fatalism is used by people who do not want to change society.

“Abolishing prostitution would lead to more rapes.” 

Actually, it is the other way round: studies have shown that men buy sex simply because it is possible. The normalisation of prostitution on the contrary fosters acts of violence against women, by sending the social signal that women are commodities. Nevada, where pimping has been decriminalised, sees the highest rate of rape compared to the other American states. In a study on men, 54% of prostitute-users recognised having had aggressive sexual behaviour towards their partner(s).

“Legalising prostitution is the best way to guarantee access to basic rights for people in prostitution.” 

Being in prostitution is “legal” everywhere in Europe (except Croatia where it is criminalised). The issue of accessing rights is not linked to the legal status of prostitution, it is linked to the migration status of each person: if you are legally staying in a country, you can have access to basic rights, including HIVtesting and health care. If you are undocumented, you will not have access to these rights, including in countries that legalise or decriminalise prostitution; it has nothing to do with being in prostitution or not. In Germany, only 44 persons have registered as “professional sex workers”, out of the estimated 400 000 persons in prostitution. Legalising prostitution (or decriminalising “sex work” and therefore pimping) does not change the stigma on persons in prostitution.

“We must combat trafficking, but prostitution has nothing to do with it.”

Such claims contradict the reality: if prostitution has nothing to do with sex trafficking, what exactly are women trafficked for? According to EU data, 62% of trafficking in the EU is for sexual exploitation. Trafficking is profit-driven, and has a direct link with the prostitution markets, where the demand fuels the supply. It is estimated that the benefits from trafficking for sexual exploitation amount to US$ 27.8 billion. And where does this money come from? From the buyers, like in any other business. This is why prostitution and trafficking are intrinsically linked. 

“With the Swedish model, persons in prostitution face more violence as prostitution goes underground.”

 If buyers can find and meet with women in prostitution, so can the police and social workers! By criminalising sex buyers, the Swedish model changes the relationship between women and buyers: buyers are the criminals. Women in prostitution, who have been to Germany before joining Sweden, said to the Stockholm police prostitution unit that there is much more violence in legal brothels as sex buyers are entitled to do what they want, as they are the “clients”. Social workers in Sweden see that persons in prostitution feel more confident to come forward for assistance. On the contrary, in countries were brothels are legal (like Australia or Germany), service providers and law enforcement say that they have limited access to women. Legalising prostitution will not change the reality: prostitution is a form of violence. 68% of women in prostitution suffer from the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, like victims of torture or veterans of war.

“We should not criminalise sex buyers because they can save women or identify victims of trafficking.” 

Maybe you have watched “Pretty woman” too many times. A sex buyer who “saves” a woman, or report a case of trafficking, is still a sex buyer. The existence of “nice sex buyers” does not reduce demand, it just comforts a romantic vision of prostitution that has nothing to do with reality. Moreover, the “nice sex buyers” are a very tiny minority among sex buyers: punters’ websites are very revealing in that perspective. Here are some quotes:“Reasonable blow job but just a bad attitude and making no effort to look interested or even pretend to enjoy”; “it was like fucking an attractive sack of spuds” (The invisible men Tumblr).

“Abolitionists want to prohibit prostitution.” 

There is a great difference between the prohibitionist approach, which criminalises all actors in the system of prostitution, including prostituted persons, and the abolitionist approach that targets only the buyers, pimps and traffickers, in other words those who hold the power of choice. Simply penalising everybody does not address the root causes and gendered nature of prostitution. Abolition is about qualifying the structural, economic, psychological and physical violence inherent to prostitution, and therefore protecting the persons affected, and criminalising the perpetrators, i.e. the sex buyers. Abolition is about proposing concrete alternatives to persons in prostitution and changing mentalities. 

“The abolition of prostitution is utopia.”

 Abolishing prostitution does not equal eradicating it. Rapes, murders or paedophilia are prohibited, but still exist. What is important is the social norm conveyed by legislation: it anchors amongst human rights the principle that the human body and sexuality are not for sale. It creates the conditions for a genuine equal society to be realised.

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i’ve been thinking of that video, you know, the one where she burns her face for the sake of a contour. i watched it at 2 AM after having nightmares about churches. i thought i was still dreaming. she put chemicals on her body and fries in them. undoes in them. what a perfect metaphor for beauty worship.

is this girlhood?

oh we wanted to laugh. dumb bitch! in the comments. but i went back to sleep and i dreamed, not nightmare but not comfortable, of the cakes i will not let myself eat because of the cost of their calories. i started crying, woke up drenched in sweat, worried i’d somehow transported to the kitchen, worried i’d fucked up and actually done it. god, how terrifying. i remember the wave of gratefulness - no, no, this belly is empty, and it is good to be empty, like this.

how is it different. i’m not a dumb bitch; i’m a refined and self-controlled bitch, up on her shit. it is not dumb-bitch to starve yourself. to restrict. it is a respectable lady thing.

i think of her skin, swollen in the first week, while i go to work in heels and a jacket. my male coworker wears jeans. i think of her, waving at her face, while my hair goes up into professional-bun, stays there long after the headache. i think of her, watery-eyed and turning, bird-like, to look upon the damage she’d done - and i think of me, of my sunday-night facemask that “burns, but like, it works.” 

razors and waxing and eyebrow tweezers and picking at skin and sucking in and sitting properly and suffocating and curling smaller and self-denying and eyelash extensions and taping the second toe to the third so you can’t feel your shoes anymore and destroying, destroying, destroying

2 AM heard the first words i said that morning, softly.

“that’s self-harm”.

or it’s just girlhood. or it’s just beauty.

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“Being with a prostitute is like having a cup of coffee- once you’re done with it, you throw it out.” Source

“I have an easier time treating them worse.” Source

“For gods sake woman…I just want you to get naked and suck my cock!…If you like big tits, she is your girl. Too much like hard work for me.” Source

“Some of the girls are lovely but most are just holes to f*ck.” Source

“She’s a sad waste of good girl flesh.” Source

“If you want an attractive receptacle for your semen she will do.” Source

“LOL what beautiful girls OMG! WTF are you talking about dogg??? They are all old as fuck and the only young ones are ugly junkies lol rather fuck a blow up doll lol” Source

A sense of entitlement to sex any way they want it with no regard for the woman they exploit

“I don’t want them to get any pleasure. I am paying for it and it is her job to give me pleasure. If she enjoys it I would feel cheated.“ Source

“…She said “NO!” Sorry, what do you mean NO, this is what I paid for.” Source

“Well, she certainly knows what she’s doing and how to please a man. And there’s no damn nonsense about ‘don’t do this’ and ‘I don’t want it in there’ either. So, in a word, a perfect whore.” Source

“She was definitely on something…her oral (covered) was mechanical to say the least…No interaction at all. I know not all the girls enjoy it, but I’m not paying them to enjoy it- just to pretend that they are.” Source

“I took the lead and it was like shagging a corpse…Someone should inform her that a part of the job is to show some enjoyment and give some pleasure back to the punter.” Source

An opportunity to control and dominate a woman and perform degrading sex acts on her that their female partners refuse

“THERE ARE NO BOUNDARIES” Source

“If my fiancée won’t give me anal, I know someone who will.” Source

“You get to treat a ho like a ho…you can find a ho for any type of need - slapping, choking, aggressive sex beyond what your girlfriend will do - you won’t do stuff to your girlfriend that will make her lose her self esteem.” Source

“I guess the big thing is the control aspect of it. When you’re with a prostitute you have control over what happens. You get to have control over what you do, when, how, in what order, and I like that.” Source

“I would have no issue making a girl do what I want, after all that is what I pay for. 60 minutes of HER time to make ME happy doing whatever I want. If she doesn’t like it she is in the wrong game. I never spit on a girl but I have raised my hand to a girl.” Source

Recognising that the women they buy are unwilling participants

“I wish she had loosened up or pretended to be into it more. She grimaced as I came on her which was a turn off…Would recommend for those interested in ethnic girls, big boobs…just wish she’d lighten up a bit.” Source

“[She] pulled away, which really put me off. She didn’t seem to like her hair being touched…she just seemed really on edge for the whole, short time I was with her.” Source

“She had the gagging expression on her face…again she just lay there and complained about it hurting.” Source

“I got the impression she was somewhere else, and even though she looked, she wouldn’t make eye contact. Total waste of cash. The management should starve girls like this to make them perform.” Source

“Overall, she is quite attractive, but doesn’t have a great attitude and gives the impression that she doesn’t really want to be here.” Source

Describing signs of women who have been trafficked for sexual exploitation

“Onto the sex which was the best part as Hana was tight and able to take instuctions [sic] well. Her English is non existant [sic] in April but may be better now. Lucky for me i was able to converse in some Korean with her.”- ‘Might and Power’, Punter Planet, 19 June 2011

“The thing that struck me was the absence of the usual cheerful welcoming manner I enjoy with most other Thai girls. She did flash a pretty smile once or twice but mostly made it glumly obvious that my visit was just a chore for her. So although I got my semen extracted, I couldn’t call that a joyful hour.” Source

“Cold and passive. I tried to talk to her to understand if there was an issue: homesickness, personal event? Unfortunately with her poor English, I could barely get a few words as an answer…She remained passive and distant.” Source

“Ukrainian brunette in her teenage years…She seemed disinterested and took off her clothes as if she was merely doing a duty, alarm bells started ringing as she lay down on the bed without a word, no attempt at trying to warm up and break the ice…Her English is poor…[she] seemed nervous and fidgety.” Source

“Unenthusiastic, dispassionate…she claimed afterwards that she was “just tired” but I suspect she’s not cut out for being a WG [Working Girl]. I wonder if it would be stretching a thought too far to question if she had in any way been coerced?”

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“We’re producing the generation where they mostly learn about sex by watching porn. That’s like learning to drive by watching car crash videos. The point of sex ed isn’t to tell kids to have sex or not to have sex. It’s to help them figure out what they want.”

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"Playboy's shoot of 10 yr old Brooke Shields - " WTH?!!!! WHAT?! I'm terrified to even look that up. WHAT IS GOING ON

Yep. That happened. 10 years old, oiled up and naked

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countries where prostitution is legal have higher rates of human trafficking. that’s like an actual fact. not an opinion or anything. so tbh it seems a bit ‘swerfy’ to completely ignore that

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“Breasts play a big role here as men have become accustomed to getting aroused to large, silicone-enhanced ones, and their girlfriends’ seem small and uninviting by comparison. Pubic hair has become a big turnoff, especially today when many young women in the real world are removing it, so a woman who has “ungroomed” hair is less desirable. Josh told me how over the years the type of woman’s body he likes has come to resemble porn performers in that he likes them “shaved, oiled, and well-toned.” I asked him how he would feel if his girlfriend didn’t match up, to which he replied, “I would think that she didn’t take care of herself… that she needed to make herself look good, not just for me, but for herself also.” Also disappointing is that these women do not behave like the women in porn - they are not begging for rough sex, nor do they respond orgasmically to every touch. Many of these men don’t want to think of their girlfriends in the same way they think of porn women, but they find it increasingly difficult to separate the two.”

— Gail Dines, Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality (via ok-caroline)

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Something I’ve been considering is the clever trap the cam industry has made for young women. There’s no men trying to recruit you or skeevy producers/directors to worry about. When you hear about it, you’ll most likely hear about it from another woman, and she’ll tell you she makes her own hours, hundreds of dollars in a night, and only does what she’s comfortable doing. To a generation of women struggling with minimum wage in a deteriorating economy, this is very attractive. What she doesn’t tell you is that if she doesn’t get on regularly and often, she will not have any loyal customers to tip her. She won’t tell you that the 300 dollar deal she just made is for a month long commitment. She won’t tell you that no cam girl starting out only does what she’s comfortable with, because if she didn’t perform sexually, she wouldn’t attract an audience or inflow of cash in the first place. The cam industry is designed to be synonymous with choice feminism, making it seem empowering and progressive, leading women by the hundreds into making porn because it’s totally cool right? In reality, all of the women I met were desperately clinging onto an industry that made them it’s merchandise, afraid of speaking against members who treated like them like shit because they wouldn’t be able to pay their bills, hoping that their dad or brother or ex-boyfriend didn’t end up being part of the audience in their chatroom. And what happens after their profits aren’t increasing and a producer at a convention asks them to take it a step further?

Cam is not something many people take seriously, but it’s an easily accessible window into the porn industry. All she needs is an internet connection and a webcam. We must warn other women against this and make sure that sites like My Free Cams, Chaturbate, and CAM4 are sufficiently abolished along with all other forms of sex work.