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I swear, my students this semester are going to make me either combust from emotions or have to write a post about queer mentorship because so far I've got:

student who asked about my ace ring

student who came to office hours to talk about gender, because they're trying to figure out their own gender and they thought I would have helpful things to say

student who said he was really grateful to have an openly non-binary professor because it means that he can see a model for what his future might look like

student who keeps dropping by office hours to talk about being a QPoC (and having to deal with racism in queer spaces)

all the students who just casually come out to me in office hours (god. I know that the world has changed so much since I was in college, but what a gift regardless)

and then of course the two separate students who have asked me for help with their D&D campaigns, which is honestly the funniest possible read of me

#what is my academic life #queer futurity #two posts in quick succession? on this blog? it's more likely than you think #(don't get too excited though; I am still buried under one thousand pounds of grading and course prep) #anyway students looking at me and being like 'oh this is an adult who has it figured out' is the funniest thing in the world to me #I actually need an adultier adult at all times. but we are all doing our best together.

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had a student approach me after lecture to ask if my ring was an ace ring today, which A. delightful (they wanted to know where I got mine because they are in the market for one) and B. happens a LOT less frequently than you would expect

#this is the first time I've had a student recognize it! #they were like 'I'm so sorry for being nosy' and I was like 'the point of the ace ring is to be a recognizable symbol! it's doing its job!' #I don't remember any tags that I use on this blog and I am currently migrained to hell so. back to my slumbers.

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A question from one of my students: do folks have surveys or censuses of queer* communities and/or experiences that they particularly like or think are well-designed? I have already sent a couple their way (Ace Census, of course), but if there are any others that stand out to folks...

*expansively defined--either of queer communities as a whole or specific subsets of identities/experiences is fine

#what is my academic life #I keep attracting queer mentees...how did this happen... #none of them are actually in my field of study slakjfdlkuafoisua

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one of my students told me I had "aro ace vibes" today and I literally didn't know how to respond

#that's mostly correct I guess! but also! what a thing to just drop on me! #this student has heard me talk about historical erotica a truly shocking amount. but then again that's probably the tip-off lksjflkdaufodus #what is my academic life

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Have been listening to 『なんか IWAKAN!』, which is a Japanese gender studies/queer podcast recently, both with an eye on a course I'm designing for next semester and as some chill listening practice for me, so this morning at 8:30 am I was jumpscared by them suddenly starting to talk about クワロマンティック (quoiromantic).

It's interesting listening, for anyone who happens to speak Japanese. One of the really striking things about it for me was how little they seemed to associate quoiromantic with ace or aro communities. Part of that is probably demographic--of the four people on this episode, one said they were probably ace and the other three are not--but it does mean that the conversation goes in different directions than a lot of the wtfromantic/quoiromantic conversations I have seen in Anglophone communities. For example, they spend a lot of time talking about how quoiromantic is helpful because many of them never thought about the difference between romantic and sexual orientation--but quoiromantic in Anglophone communities is often a pushback against romantic orientation. (Also, a lot of the examples that the regular presenters bring up would, in Anglophone ace communities, often tend to be classed as mismatched romantic and sexual orientations, e.g. a gay man having strong non-sexual attraction to a female friend or a straight woman having strong non-sexual attraction to a female friend.) There's also discussion of polyamory and alternative family/relationship structures, romantic friendship, the assumption that two people who have the possibility of being attracted to each other will always wind up dating, and S関係 (S relationships). It is really interesting to see a lot of conversations that I've seen primarily in ace communities being picked up and lauded as useful by larger queer spaces...but (at least in this case) being sort of divorced from a lot of their history and context. But, then again, it's a 40-minute podcast that's a supplement to a special issue of their magazine and an in-person event they were running, so they probably couldn't cover all possible topics. (Also I personally know most of the coiners and popularizers of wtfromantic/quoiromantic, so I may have...more knowledge...than is normal...)

(Also very charming when the guest speaker is like, "oh, can I swear on this show, do you have to bleep it out" and then upon getting confirmation that swearing is okay, going, "WHAT THE FUCK ロマンティック.")

#a post??? from Queenie???? in the year 2023??? what miracle is this #I don't remember what any of my tags are on this blog #asexuality in Japan #was that a tag???? I don't know. #quoiromantic #wtfromantic #anyway I have to go finish a book review and also check a proposal utilizing my research so. back to my slumbers

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Japanese Gender Census now open!

「日本語版ジェンダー調査2023」をとっています。よろしければ回答お願いします。

forms.gle/LFH3ZLxwjF6PGiZB9

English translation: I am taking the "Japanese Gender Survey 2023". Please answer if you would like to participate.

Source!

#very neat! #reblogs #not a real post

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new surreal experience unlocked: a student tried to explain the concept of a queerplatonic partnership to me

#I know I'm reading as queer and *waves hands in the air* some flavor of non-binary but I REALLY gotta start projecting more ace vibes #like. very sweet of her to explain it. but child. I know. I know. I really really know. #anyway. back to my slumbers #what is my academic life

[queenieofaces]

Hey, I read your posts all the time back when you were more active and I was figuring myself out. Just wanted to say: Thanks, and I hope whatever you're up to now is going well. :)

Hi, anon! Thank you for your lovely note! I'm really glad that my posts were helpful for you.

I'm doing...okay-ish these days! Started a new job as a professor, so I'm currently recovering from last semester/feverishly prepping for next semester, thus the continued radio silence. I am very tired all the time these days, but what else is new. There are a couple of posts that have been stewing in my mind for...literal years at this point, but we'll see if/when they manifest. (I am figuring out how to get involved in the queer mentorship program at my uni, and have connected with my local ace meet-up, although am currently too wiped to make the trek to meet-ups during the semester.)

Anyway, thank you for dropping me a line, and I hope that you're having a lovely day. ♣️

#ask Queenie #someday I will write my post on ace/queer time and you'll all be sorry >:3c #someday I will also write my post about what they don't tell you about leaving and uh. #that's gonna be hard to write but. I do want to write it eventually #the conclusion of my diss was about queer futurity so...still writing about things...just in different forums #anyway that's enough chatting in the tags

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If you haven't already voted, get out there tomorrow and vote blue up and down the ballot because HOLY FUCK.

#.gif #friendly reminder to please vote if you can :U #I turned in my ballot last week (heck yeah vote by mail) #reblog #not a real post

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It’s that time again!! Survey time!!!!

You can take the survey at:

https://forms.gle/vK75LSVd9AdRLcAF6 or tinyurl.com/AceSurvey22

#it's that time of year again! #reblog #not a real post

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In which I think I’m exploring multidirectional memory as a counter to the oppression olympics, but it turns out that asexual community memory is a site of ongoing ambiguous loss for me that I have to work through.

This one is pretty intellectual, introduces a lot of academic concepts, thinks through a lot of things, you know. But I also call myself a Lorax, so let it never be said I take myself too seriously :P

For the record, I think being haunted by the ghosts of people who aren’t dead is a pretty common occurrence in the internet age; it’s just that the haunting only has meaning to anyone beyond me personally for the asexual ghosts.

#regularly scheduled reminder that you should be reading aceadmiral #this is extremely my jam (also makes me think about memory as care via Kleinman) #anyway. back to being a ghost ^^; #reblog #not a real post

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This survey is about gray-asexuality and grayromanticism. Anyone is invited to take it, regardless of identity. The purpose of this survey is to investigate perspectives on these identities and how they are understood.

Click here to take the survey. It will remain open until September 15th.

Questions about the survey can be asked in the comments on wordpress (no account required) or via this contact form.

#reblog #not a real post

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Today this blog turns 10 years old!  Absolutely wild that I’ve been here for a decade (even if I’ve been pretty quiet on this blog the last few years).

Some quick updates from me before I vanish once more into the ether:

I’m using she/they pronouns these days, if you haven’t already heard

I am officially Dr. Queenie!  Dissertation is submitted to ProQuest and everything.  If you’ve been wondering where I’ve been, the answer is writing 115k of text.  Also, yes, the conclusion to my dissertation is about queer futurity.

This fall I will be Professor Queenie!

In related news...Pacific Northwest aces...I may be darkening your meet-up groups (we’ll see if I can circumvent social anxiety)

I feel like I should end with a linkspam or something but I gotta work on a conference paper that’s due on Monday so please imagine your ideal linkspam in your mind (and then build it--you too possess the linkspamming power).

#oh god what's my tagging system on this blog #what is my academic life #sure that works #I will say...the conclusion to my diss is probably the only academic work I've ever written in 'blogging voice' #and it is...unsurprisingly...the bit of my dissertation I'm proudest of

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A personal little tag to this month’s festivities. There’s also a little roundup of all the reviews I did this month in the first sentence, in case you missed any of them <3

#regularly scheduled reminder that you should be reading aceadmiral #also I want to hand this post to the author of a book I had to read recently lsjfdlksaufoisufaoisua #reblog #not a real post

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LYRICS I've been a mercenary, yes been a thief of tenderness I've been out here so damn long I had no words for what I was I let them fill the gaps because I was so sure that I was wrong

Now I'm home but does it fit Home but am I it? Home but do I count at all? Home, is it a bluff? Home, am I enough? Home, can I unbuild this wall?

And they say “let the labels be; just live your life, yeah, fancy free” Oh but my fancy's gone so fast Cause I'm a taxonomist I need the language in my fist I need to pin it under glass

So I'm home, to lay a claim Home, to use the name Home if I've earned the right Home, or maybe not Home, with caveats turning like a satellite

And so I talk to others and they tell me this is the homeland: circling around and 'round The only time I have no doubt: when fuckers try to force us out In battle I can claim this ground

So it's home for me and you home if you want it too Home, open every door Home, and then it's clear Home, so gather here Home, that's what home is for

#feel like this would resonate with some folks following this blog #ace music #reblog #not a real post

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Now announcing the launch of the Quoi Identity Survey! The purpose of this survey is to investigate the identities, demographics, and community involvement of those who affiliate with the quoiromantic, quoisexual, or quoigender umbrellas. Quoiromanticism is a concept that originated from a disidentification with romantic orientation, due to the specific intracommunity norms of the asexual community. The same principle has since been applied to gender and sexuality. However, you do not need to identify with a specific term in order to participate in this survey. If you are unsure whether you are part of the intended demographic, you are invited to err on the side of yes. The survey will remain open until April 7th.

#reblog #not a real post

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The long awaited hair post! How long? Well, I guess… as long as my hair! haha

#aceadmiral finally wrote the hair post!!! #someday...I will write a hair post....someday.... #in the meantime: read this :U #reblog #not a real post