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BABY REINDEER (2024) Episode 6.

#baby reindeer #richard gadd #great show

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Some of my fav Lmm tweets🫶

#lin-manuel miranda #good morning good night #when twitter was a better place

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"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,

There is a field, I'll meet you there."

- Rumi

#rumi #if only

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Sometimes in life we have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone we care about is able to care about us in the way that we NEED them to.

It’s okay to let go of friendships and people that make us feel bad, even if you love them.

It’s okay to feel sad that you’re losing someone you love and care about but you HAVE to put yourself first. If not you’re going to continually get hurt and live in a cycle of heartbreak.

People change. Friendships change.

Ultimately you deserve better and there will be many people throughout your life that will show you that you are able to be loved and cared for the way you deserve.

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People who honestly think there shouldn’t be a proshot release of theater shows because then people wouldn’t go to the theater anymore are so fucking dumb holy shit how dumb do you have to be did people stop watching footbal games because it also airs on tv? did people stop going to concers because you could get the dvd? holy shit just let poor people have a taste of the thing too god damn it

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Belle and Sebastian - Get Me Away From Here, I'm Dying

#I've always felt this was a theme song for me #now the following me line is hitting me #thought there was love in everything and everyone you're so naive #like i couldn't even imagine what's happened to me cuz it's so far from the realm of how i relate #lots of unhealed trauma wreaking havoc

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I was out for a walk recently, venting via text to a friend about something silly, and I couldn’t stop myself from bookending my rant with apologies for bothering them. Their response stopped me midstep: “I want to know what’s going on with you.” As someone who wants to be as ambitious about my friendships as I am my work, but who always worries about needing a little “too much” from the people I lean on, the word “want” caught my attention. Ultimately I think that’s what we all need in relationships: People who want to show up for us, and vice versa. This kind of care and intention feels like a form of ambition—that’s not a term I would have previously used in a sentence about friendship, but it is one that makes sense to me now. ... [...] While I knew how much my friends mattered to me, learning to be ambitious about friendships required not just that I show up, but that I practice letting other people in. It meant embracing the fact that I’m inherently needy, even when the faulty self-reliance of one kind of ambition tells me I should be able to do it alone, or that I’m overstaying my welcome by asking too much of my friends. ... Yearning for stronger, more substantial connections isn’t news: Loneliness is considered a public health threat. Though some research shows that people with strong friendships have better physical and mental health, other research indicates we tend to lose friendships as we age. Our reliance on each other never truly fades, but too often, it’s shoved underneath too many obligations and too little time and resources.

Rhaina Cohen, a journalist and author of the forthcoming book, The Other Significant Others, has focused years of research and reporting on friends who are so close, they rise to the level of partners. “This is a big question I’m trying to deal with: what does it mean to be partners?” Cohen said. What kept coming up for people, she explained, was “this mix of deep and profound knowledge of another person, but also a kind of everyday presence, and sense that that person is interested in all of the mundanities of your life, and will debrief with you at the end of the day.” In a piece for The Atlantic, Cohen noted that in LGBTQ+ communities, there’s a long history of high value being placed on friendships, including friends as “chosen family.” “I think, for a lot of reasons, in the queer community, it’s just much more understood that friends can play a variety of roles and not be peripheral,” she told me. There still remain few roadmaps for organizing one’s life around friends, Cohen said, but she said she thinks there is a “growing recognition that having a social world beyond the nuclear family setup is important.” One of the things Cohen was thinking about before we spoke via Zoom, she said, was “to the extent that there’s ambition involved in building new ties, it involves putting in a lot of work on the front end to make friendship easy on a day-to-day level.” She shared an example: She lives in a home with her husband, as well as two good friends and their two children. They are a five-minute walk from one of her other close friends, with about 20 other friends and acquaintances within a 15-minute walking radius. “When our cultural norms treat living with friends as a passing phase and our housing is designed for nuclear families, it takes imagination to dream up a life built around friends,” Cohen added. “And it takes ambition to make the idea a reality.” Meanwhile, others point to small ways to be ambitious about friendship. “When I think about ambition, I think about focus, I think about intention, I think about momentum toward a goal,” said Danielle Bayard Jackson, a friendship coach and educator, and author of an upcoming book on friendship. Jackson explained that much of this is about taking our intention and making it tangible. She suggested putting a post-it where you can see it, listing three to five people you want to prioritize connecting with, whether it’s a close friend or someone you just met. You can also develop what Jackson calls friendship rituals—standing dates to have a call, get coffee, watch a show, or whatever works for you—to ensure friends don’t get pushed to the scheduling back-burner. It takes effort, and it shows desire, something Jackson said we should normalize in our platonic relationships. “We all want to feel like somebody's thinking of you,” she added.

#I'd like to think I'm an ambitious friend alas my ambition seems to have bitten me in the ass #reading the other significant others right now and it has so much good stuff in it #we are in a deficit of authentic relating and so many arbitrary norms work against us

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Posted by Belle & Sebastian on Instagram.

(I can kinda see myself I think if I zoom and squint).

#belle and sebastian #belle & sebastian #boston #2024 #great show #my no 1 band #life has been shit lately but getting out for this lifted my spirits for a bit

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Happy Birthday Vivian! (@thomasbarrowscigarette) Another year, another day to celebrate you! I'm currently hoping you're distracted with your cross-stitch for you to notice that I'm writing this, with your present sitting two feet from me slightly hidden. I'm very glad we're spending time together for your birthday and this past week has been so much fun, even with all of the rain, and the six hour flight always feels worth it after we have a great time together. I'm happy I have the honor calling you one of my best friends, and I hope to continue to have that honor until the end of time. I love you so so much, and I hope we make your birthday a great time (and that you enjoy the Jarvis!) Love, Kim

#not sure who the birthdays recipient is but lovely gif set #jarvis cocker #pulp #gifs

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Lin-Manuel Miranda: “I was just shaking my hips to save my life” (Moana Extras)

#lin-manuel miranda #gifs #I'm here for this

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#the holdovers

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It’s one thing to miss someone that’s no longer here but missing someone that’s still alive, that you can no longer talk to fucking sucks.

#yes it's its own kind of grief #and being cut from someone's life by someone outside the relationship

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#when values clash...

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#and i still can get lost with GPS 😄

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the curse of local theatre is that a show can change you forever and there is no recording of it anywhere at all and after a few years all you have are scattered memories and the knowledge that you were different before.

#this isn't local theater but I'm bummed there's no audio that i know of of that one off performance of Lin in Camelot I saw