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"She was speaking, stop interrupting her."

"She said to stop."

"You're being rude for no reason, don't speak to her that way."

"Don't call her that."

"She's right, I agree with what she's saying."

"She has experience, she knows what she's talking about. We should listen."

don't let other women stand alone to defend themselves when they're being attacked

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"She has faced rape threats, stone pelting and her mother and sister have been stalked because of the work she carries out in her community. Nineteen-year-old Koyel Sarkar is the head of an all-girls group in Siliguri that works for ending child marriages in her community, and they have together stopped eight child marriages in the past two years alone.

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Her work involves making public announcements in the local market to spread awareness about child marriages, conduct street plays as well as talk to her community members to collect information about an impending child marriage. Other girls in her group also tip her off. In many cases, she then tries to meet the young girl whose marriage is being planned, and strikes a casual conversation with her to find out the time and date of the wedding. She then strategizes on how to stop it.

Once, she even dressed in festive finery to gain entry into a house, where a wedding was scheduled, in order to stop it.

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Darjeeling being close to the border with Nepal, which is a porous border as no visas are required to travel across the border, child trafficking is also a major concern here, which sometimes takes place in the garb of child marriages."

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Things that are normal for girls:

wanting to wear clothing from the boys’ department

wanting to cut your hair short

not wanting to wear makeup

being attracted to other girls

hating your body

hating getting your period

hating your breasts and/or vulva

wishing you weren’t a girl

not feeling like a girl

feeling like you’re doing girlhood wrong

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not to sound like an old bitch but little kids shouldn't have unlimited access to phones or tablets or the internet in general. they really gotta go play outside and with toys sometimes. you can't let wifi raise your kid

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the fact that for most of history, women were forced to stay home and take care of everything so their husbands could go out and participate in intellectual pursuits, with any ideas she had being immediately dismissed (and then secretly stolen, if they were good) makes it impossible for me to listen to any discussion about the genius of X Y & Z famous influential male philosopher, writer, scientist, etc from decades and centuries past without being filled with rage, especially when you can’t even bring this fact up without being branded as a crazy feminist with a screw loose who can’t shut up about the silly little side topic of women’s oppression even though that silly little side topic is literally relevant to almost every single thing you could possibly talk about because it is the history of 50% of all the people who have ever lived!!!!!!!!!

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Let’s talk about everybody’s favourite socialisation scapegoat: mothers. People often confuse the idea that mothers do most of the childcare with ‘mothers do most of the socialisation’, which isn’t true, at least not in the way most people think it is.

Many mothers consciously reinforce patriarchal ideals, but this is not the only way that we learn patriarchy. We observe and internalise our mother’s place in the world, how men treat her, what work she has to take on and what she doesn’t, we learn what to expect from our mothers vs our fathers and match up what we know of them to society and vice versa. Pretty much all of us will realise our mother doesn’t hold the most power and we will also be conditioned to expect more from her ourselves (the classic example is the father hurts the child and the child is angrier with the mother for not protecting them)

So even if a mother is a passionate feminist or even just a non-feminist who firmly believes in men respecting women, this doesn’t necessarily socialise her children to respect women. Her children will recognise her lack of power instead. This is why it is not true that if mothers just did a better job in our society patriarchy would be over, the very role that mothers occupy in patriarchy mean a lot of the socialisation is done already by the structure.

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"I agree with the message of this post but the wording is too passive-aggressive or manipulative for me to feel comfortable reblogging it": a constant Tumblr experience.

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Discomfort isn’t empowering

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an adorable notebook to write my to do lists

What are cute little treats everyone has bought for themselves recently

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Sometimes trauma is just trauma. It does not teach a life lesson, you don't grow from it, you don't become a better person, and it was not "meant to be". Trauma can be a growing knot inside your chest that gets tighter and more painful everyday, and you may feel yourself growing sadder instead of growing wiser. Trauma shouldn't be used for inspirational stories when it is everything but one, it should be treated like the painful injustice it is. Searching for "the bright side" when there isn't one is just toxic positivity, and it does more harm than good to a trauma survivor who needs real help facing the awful things they went through.

Stop using other people's painful trauma for inspiration to your day-to-day life.

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Toxic Positivity

I feel like toxic positivity is really prevalent in the New Age and Manifestation communities, and I just want to show people what it is and how to avoid it.

Toxic positivity is the assumption, either by one’s self or others, that despite a person’s emotional pain or difficult situation, they should only have a positive mindset. - Dr. Jaime Zuckermane

Signs of Toxic Positivity

Hyperfocusing on positivity

Pushing away negative emotions.

Classifying certain emotions as bad and certain ones as good.

Not allow yourself to feel "bad" emotions.

Believing the right mindset can cure physical/mental illnesses or disorders.

Hiding your negative emotions.

Feeling guilty when you have negative emotions.

Dismissing other people's negative emotions and thinking they just need to be more positive.

Ignoring problems in hopes they go away.

Examples of Toxic Positivity

Manifest positivity!

I am in control of my destiny and will be cured (of physical/mental illness) if I manifest it!

Everything happens for a reason.

If I can do it, you can do it.

You have so much to be grateful for!

Positive vibes only!

Quitting is not an option.

Smile, crying won't help.

Being negative won't help you!

Everything will work out in the end.

Don't think about it, stay positive!

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Maybe we should just stop identifying as suffix '-ist's butthat won't happen because we care about the likes and reposts that come with the 'community' of tagging our posts with ideology cults

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People don’t understand the sheer fucking loneliness of growing up as a gnc girl.

When I was a little girl, at first, it was fine. Because all the kids wanted to do was run around and play. But the other girls “changed”, becoming more feminine. Soon enough they wanted to play princess and I still wanted to be a knight. And they noticed, and being the one weird kid in a classroom full of kids got me bullied relentlessly. That was when I started to isolate myself.

But it didn’t stop there because you see, I went to high school eventually where we weren’t playing games like that. We could talk about anything we wanted… but my appearance wasn’t up to the standard everyone expected. I didn’t wear makeup, I didn’t give a shit if my clothes were fashionable as long as they were comfy. But this time I had a few friends!

… and then they started to criticize me. And suddenly every day I came to school and no one had anything nice to say to me. It was all done under the guise of “we care about you and want people to stop picking on you” but they didn’t realize their words hurt way more than any other bully. They were basically saying no those bullies were right, there is something wrong with you, you should change.

And then back home I was getting it bad too. My mother, a lovely strong woman who has changed so much since then, always brought up how I looked. And again she didn’t mean it in any cruel way and she didn’t realize what was going on at school but can you imagine what that’s like? To have literally nowhere that you feel safe to be yourself?

I have literally had one friend in my entire life who has never criticized my appearance, and he’s a gnc gay guy who grew up just as insecure as I was.

To this day I am still so uncomfortable around people. To this day I still take every bit of criticism as an attack because when I was young? Everything was an attack at my very being.

And looking back there was absolutely nothing wrong with me! I wasn’t even THAT GNC but just the act of not caring about my appearance was enough to be a federal fucking offence. This fueled my internalized misogyny for most of my life because I could not trust women because every woman in my life treated me like I was defective.

I am still so lonely and I don’t know if the damage done can ever fully be undone. I’m working on it, but I’ve been working on it for years and I’m still a mental wreck.

Let little girls be who they want to be.

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“Childbirth is arguably the most traumatic event the human body can undergo, and new imaging techniques show that up to 15% of women sustain pelvic injuries that don’t heal… “If an athlete sustained a similar injury in the field, she’d be in an MRI machine in an instant,” said Janis Miller, associate professor at the U-M School of Nursing. “We have this thing where we tell women, ‘Well, you’re 6 weeks postpartum and now we don’t need to see you—you’ll be fine.’ But not all women feel fine after 6 weeks nor are ready to go back to work, and they aren’t crazy.” Researchers found that women can take 8 months or longer to heal from pelvic injuries sustained during childbirth… Miller said, “A woman may have bladder problems, and in some cases prolapse of organs if the pelvic muscles are not functioning well enough to hold them in place.” She and a team of midwives, radiologists and obstetricians studied a group of pregnant women at high risk for pelvic muscle tears, and used MRI to diagnose injury and track healing time… 25% of women showed fluid in the pubic bone marrow or sustained fractures similar to a sports-related stress fracture, and 2/3 showed excess fluid in the muscle, which indicates injury similar to a severe muscle strain. 41% sustained pelvic muscle tears, with the muscle detaching partially or fully from the pubic bone.”

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http://ns.umich.edu/new/releases/23330-childbirth-an-athletic-event-sports-medicine-used-to-diagnose-injuries-caused-by-deliveries

“But childbirth lasts ONE DAY and you’re all better after!!!”

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Emotionally unavalaible men are not attractive. “Bad boys” are not attractive. Good looking men who use you just for sex are not attractive. Men who act like your boyfriend but don’t want to commit are not attractive. Fuckboys are not attractive. Men who treat you like crap, don’t reciprocate your feelings, leave you feeling confused about your situation are not attractive. Please value yourself.

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Stencil seen in Cobbs Hill, Rochester, NY