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In 2016, let’s please do better.

Watch and absorb, folks.

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Men will say confidence is the sexiest thing about a woman..until that woman stands up for herself, until that woman has her own opinions, until that woman doesn’t need your compliments to make herself feel beautiful

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“let me start of by saying: ayesha curry gotta chill. then let me follow up with: black men who understand racism but not sexism (your average black man) gotta chill, too. no, seriously. every day i get on this damn site and i see nothing but black men, YES BLACK MEN, fighting racism but actively participating in sexism. wyd fam? this, however, particularly infuriated me. ayesha curry, steph curry’s wife, went on a cute little tweeting spree where she proclaimed that she’d choose “classy over trendy” and that “not wearing clothes” must be in nowadays, among other things. since a lot of you don’t seem to understand the outrage, i’ll do a bit of a translation for you all before getting into the meat and potatoes. “I’ll take classy over trendy anyday!” translation: “i’ll take classy (me being covered up) over tashy anyday!” boo, we see what you did there. you equated being nude and less clothed to trashy, which you (not so slickly) covered up by using the word “trendy”. you like to be more covered up? cool, ma. but don’t shame other girls that want to wear what they want, how they want, when they want, and for who they want. “Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters.” translation: “yall hoes let everyone see your body? ew, only my man can see my body.” ah, ah, ah. once again, we peep ya, sis. you acting like showing your body off is a lesser form of self expression, when for some women, it’s empowering. you and ya man’s situation is cool, but it’s not the standard, nor should it be. now, i could go on and on about why what she said was hurtful and not okay in the least, but i won’t. for one, i just explained it and honestly anyone who’s taken 10th grade english can peep the rhetoric (the “pure girl vs. hoe” argument is old and dated). but i’m not too pressed about what she said (girls like her say shit like that all the time). i’m upset about the black men. yall took the time, effort, and energy to take this ONE WOMAN’S preference (which, she worded incorrectly, but still) and used it as a vice to further police a woman’s sexual choices. “well, ayesha said she wants to cover up her body, so all you women who don’t are lesser and therefore worthless. my opinion is validated because a woman said it, by the way.” that’s not how this works, boy. i am sick and tired of seeing my black men, the same black men i fight for and rally for and live to protect, slander women’s sexual liberation choices. every. damn. day. you’re constantly feeding into a system that oppresses us, and when we speak up on it, we’re just “bitter hoes”. well, let me tell you something, “i got rejected by every girl i’ve liked so now i project my anger onto every woman” twitter: A WOMAN IS NOT LESSER FOR CHOOSING TO WEAR LESS CLOTHES AND HAVE CASUAL SEX. OUR BODIES ARE OUR OWN, AND IT IS NOT UP FOR YOU, OR ANYONE ELSE, TO DEEM THEIR WORTHINESS. WE GET TO CHOOSE HOW WE EXPRESS OUR SEXUALITY, AND IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT, YOU SHOULDN’T BE HAVING SEX OR A SIGNIFICANT OTHER. look. yall can try and say, “it’s just her preference!” all you want, and that may be true, but it’s really your preference. there’s been a negative stigma against women who don’t cover up as much for centuries, and you neanderthals are still holding on to it. it’s 2015. we, as women, can express our bodies and sexuality how we want. not how you want. so keep on pretending that the reason you’re single is because every girl is a hoe. your ass is single because you want a dog you can dress up and train, not a woman with thoughts and actions that are not your own. it’s perfectly fine and okay to want to dress modestly! of course there are girls out there who just naturally prefer to be covered up. i think that’s great, and i think that it’s important to mention. but i also think that you all have to realize that many women do this out of fear of being called hoes, sluts, ect. you can be a sexually liberated girl just as much in a mini skirt as you can in a skirt that touches the ground. but you all have got to stop shaming women who choose the former. the key to your liberation is our liberation, and we can’t be free until you all let us. stop trying to control black women’s sexuality the same way the white man tries to control your life. it isn’t fair, and quite frankly, it’s 2015. we still shouldn’t be dealing with this.“

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I’m white..

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everyone should should watch this at least twice

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Apparently it’s national kissing day! You know what that means~

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As an introvert, the best thing is finding someone who it isn’t draining to spend time with

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If hair braiding isn’t taught in many beauty schools, why does the government force black women to go (and pay thousands) to get a cosmetology license? What’s worse is not doing so could result in a $10,000 fine and a year in prison. Since the 1990s, the Institute for Justice has been fighting for hair braiders — and a new legal showdown in Iowa could be their biggest yet.

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