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It always shocks me when I bring up trans men’s issues - specially issues common in the south/more conservative/rural areas - to someone who makes their whole thing being a ‘trans advocate’ and they just don’t know what I’m talking about .

I mentioned how common it is - especially in more conservative Christian places - for trans men to be set up with a husband by their family and then be forcibly impregnated as a way to make them detransition to someone who runs a whole blog about ‘spreading awareness about trans issues’ and she looked at me like I was crazy and said “woah I never knew that happened to trans men.”

She knew about and understood that that stuff happens to cis women, but she never thought it happened to trans men… like come on.

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I just looked in the mirror and remembered the joy and wonder of being trans. I am a trans man and I love myself for it.

#mtmine #ftm #trans joy #transmasc #gender euphoria

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Reminder that y'all should just say what you mean instead of "AFAB" or "AMAB".

If you are referring to penises, say penis.

If you are referring to having a period, say the word period.

If you are referring to being raised female or male, say that.

If you are referring to the ability to get pregnant, say that.

And so on, and so on, and so on.

The terms "AFAB" and "AMAB" do not tell you anything about a person's reproductive, hormonal, or chromosomal profiles. It does not tell you what body parts they have. It does not tell you anything about their life experiences or what gender they were raised as.

Using "AFAB" and "AMAB" as if they are synonymous with [perisex] "female" and "male" excludes intersex and trans people. Using the terms "AFAB" and "AMAB" in this way is only recreating the sex binary of female and male but masking it as more progressive when it really isn't. Just say what you really mean.

There are trans people who have the same equipment as a cis person of the "opposite" assigned sex. There are intersex people who were assigned a sex at birth while having completely different internal reproductive organs or hormones, or who were raised as a different gender than the sex they were assigned at birth.

There is no such thing as "AFAB" or "AMAB" experiences. AGAB language only describes what you were assigned at birth. It says nothing about your body or your life experiences.

I know that people tend to shy away from using direct language when talking about anything related to sex (even as it relates to biology and not anything actually sexual) but using the actual terms for these things isn't bad. It's extremely counterproductive to movements to view sex as a fluid and broad category when you use AFAB and AMAB as if they are anything more than a sex designation given at birth.

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way too many if you are far too comfortable using AGAB as a term especially cis people but a lot of trans people are using it way too loosely and often, so many if you basically just call trans mascs AFABs and trans femmes AMABs and dont realise how this is no better than misgendering a lot of the time, you want to get rid of gender roles but are way too comfortable grouping trans people by biological sex.

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TW: Description of fatal violence against a Black trans man

San Francisco's DA has released the video of Banko Brown's murder. His murderer is not facing any charges because of the claim it was in self-defense, hence why protestors have been demanding the video be released.

Banko, who was unhoused and struggled to find housing as a Black trans man, was accused of shoplifting- although his friends disagree with this (although, in my opinion, poor people should be allowed to take whatever the fuck they need & security guards are bastards too). The security guard who killed Banko, Michael Earl-Wayne Anthony, claims that he threatened to stab him, and later lunged at him, which is why he was shot.

The released video shows Banko walking quickly towards the door before being physically stopped, and then aggressively attacked- punched in the face, thrown around, and forced to the ground, all while trying to get out of the store. After he is free, he grabs his bag and begins walking backwards out the door facing the security guard, who is following him as he tries to escape.

Anthony then shot him. Because he "feared for his life."

Civil rights lawyer John Burris said: "It seems to me the officer was being aggressive, physically controlling, and beating up on Banko, who ultimately broke loose and went out the door. He turned and was facing him, and he was shot. I haven’t seen any evidence Banko was lunging toward the officer. It seems the use of deadly force was unconscionable and unnecessary" and calls into question the allegation that Banko threatened to stab the officer.

Black unhoused lives matter. Black transmasc lives matter. Donate to his family's GoFundMe for his funeral.

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there are not many posts like this out there but shoutout to trans women who like their voices, shoutout to trans women who like having a dick, shoutout to trans women who are butch, shoutout to trans women whose transition has been ‘unconventional’, shoutout to trans women who will never pass and dont care to, shoutout to trans women who are tall, shoutout to trans women who break the binary that was reinvented in progressive spaces. you people are so fucking incredible.

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i’m not thrilled by the use of “cishet ace” because i have Associations with that term, but holy shit did people completely miss the point of this post. how dare you say we piss on the poor.

y'know the thing a lot of people who worry about "well if we just let ANYBODY be queer what will happen!!" don't talk about is like. what will probably happen if some cisgender heterosexual calls themself queer for X reason is that they will go to an inclusive queer space and listen to other people and discuss their own unique perspectives on issues. like a cishet ace might hear a gay man talk about feeling broken and ashamed and go "oh I've had a similar experience being ace!" and everyone else will get a chance to learn about how being ace changes your experiences with sexuality. if someone comes in and says "i'm queer because i'm autistic" and then talks about how their autism & experiences with ableism has impacted their interactions with gender in society, everyone will get a chance to learn how neurodivergence can change how you internalize gender and how ableism is often directly tied to gender.

the thing is, people will use shocking phrases like "oh so a cishet autistic person is queer now?? so a cishet incel is queer now???" because they have a very bitter and small-minded view of sexuality and gender. they are (not in a societal power sense, but in a moral/rhetoric sense) no better than conservative cisgender heterosexuals who lose their mind at butch lesbians and cis men wearing nail polish.

because what happens when a person says they are queer and get let in to queer spaces just on that is... they learn about other people and other people learn about them. if they act like an asshole they get educated and if they keep doing it they get kicked out. people who understand the radical nature of queerness should also understand that if someone says they are "queer", they probably have put thought into that and have a reason for feeling that way, and by letting them into queer spaces you have an opportunity to learn more about experiences outside of your own. and you get to help a person! it's a win-win scenario for everyone!

if someone says "i'm queer because of [wild crazy thing]," my reaction is going to be, "cool, i'd love to know more about how you came to identify as queer, i'm sure you have some really interesting things to say about queerness based on your experiences!" it's that simple. queerness is vague and unique and constantly shifting, and we all have more to learn about aspects of it. if someone finds comfort and solidarity in calling themself queer, then i'm sure we have some interesting things to talk about and learn from each other! nobody knows everything and humans can't be put in perfect boxes.

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someone needs to learn about the central park five, it seems

It's an important point that any system for establishing guilt will have false positives but torture and murder is bad even if it's torture and murder of the genuinely guilty. Like "kill all rapists" isn't bad just because there's no good way to tell rapists from non rapists

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it’s always wild to me that t/erfs refer to us as “lost lesbians” when so many transmasc folks I see… are gay lmao

sorry can’t be a lost lesbian if I’m not into women

they’ll insist it’s just “comphet” like no i’m just a fag

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why on earth do you purposefully misrepresent rape and sexual assault statistics? yes obviously men being sexually abused should be taken seriously, but claiming that it happens at the same frequency that it happens to women at is completely false. this is true both in official crime statistics, and crime surveys.

Probably because new science is saying that's not true and it's estimated now to be roughly equal. I've given links on this before that you've clearly ignored.

This is a less than 1% variance.

AND it's a feminist take.

Why do you continue to ignore modern studies who are actively telling you that you're wrong and pointing out the flaws in the way these statisics and studies were collected and conducted? Is it because it's not useful to your narrative? Is it because if you admit that sexual violence is not solely conducted by men and that all people are endangered by it, then it's more difficult to argue that you're justified in hating and fearing half the population of this planet? Is it because you've gotten so used to thinking there's no way any man could ever share any experience with a woman that you've forgotten at the end of the day that the human experience is rich with common ground?

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so its just like a fetish...?

Y'all see what I mean when I say I get crap for it?

No! It is not a fetish! It's this neat term called gender nonconforming. Y'see I'm a female, I was born as a female, but my ideal self would have a dick and no tits. I've had plenty of people tell me I'm confused, that I'm just trans, but they're all wrong. I tried that, went through that gender exploration and it just wasn't me, I'm not a guy.

It's not a fetish to present the way I am, who I am. You wouldn't call a nonbinary person fetishistic for wearing a binder right? I have a packer, a binder, an stp, these are things that aren't strictly for trans folk and people need to start realizing that.

I always hear gender (and the way you present) is a spectrum but people really treat it as if there's only three viable options. Cis, nb, and trans, while dressing accordingly to each. Stray from the image people have in their mind and suddenly your transphobic, your fetishizing other people for being who you are.

Basically, just fucking let people choose their own gender and present how they want. You're a cis dude who wants tits? A vagina? Or go on E? Fucking go for it. You're a cis girl who wants a dick? Doesn't want breasts? Maybe you even want to go on T? More power to you.

Fuck the people who say you can't be your ideal self. Fuck the people who say your body represents your gender. After all you wouldn't say that to a trans person right? So why would you say it about anyone else's gender?

If I gotta fight a million anons, make a million posts for people to understand they don't have to stick to the three options society has made popular than I will.

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I still have yet to have someone coherently tell me how a non-passing, non-op, no-hormone, non-transitioning trans man has any power or privilege over a cis woman. Both of these people are named Julie and wear makeup and skirts and work the same thankless cashier job. Where is the privilege coming from here???

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i have a normal amount of feelings about jake zyrus (<-lying)

#jake zyrus #trans #transgender #transmasc #ftm #mtmine

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Notice how ATE trans people move goal posts to how ATA people can perfectly describe their own oppression?

Can’t use transmisandry because it rides in the coattails of transmisogyny, can’t use transandrophobia bc apparently our masculinity isn’t the target of our oppression, and anti-transmasculinity just doesn’t exist.

This is why i have such a hard time trusting that non transmascs are going to be on our side. If you were so keen in solidarity with your trans brothers you’d consider at least listening to us, but yet you constantly disparage us; pave ways for our own silent demises, even.

To the non transmasc, we might as well just be built for the following:

• Put our bodies up as cannon fodder

• Shutting up and using our voices to uplift anyone but ourselves

• Substitutes for cis men/any oppressors

This is all we are to ATEs. We’re bodies to feed the patriarchy so that ATEs can live another day. This is our very reality.

Don’t trust non transmascs.

#i actually thought op was a joke at first #like a little piece of irony to see how ridiculous it is when you flip the script #nope!!

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I wish people remembered that one way men are oppressed for being men when they are men who date other men.

Saying men can't be oppressed for being men is homophobia. Gay men who love other men, their status as men is central to the oppression they receive!

Ergo, trans men are oppressed for being men. We are men who are transgender. The transphobia against us is because we are men who are trans. If you take away the man in trans men, you take away the trans! The two are inseparable. Just how gay men's sexuality is inseparable from their gender as they are interdependent.

This is aside from the oppresion disabled men and men of colour face.

Men are oppressed for being men. Its just that the most visible men in society usually aren't.

#WHAT #can’t believe i’ve never thought of it this way

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So here's the thing:

Transmacs do not need fucking permission from non-transmascs to coin a word.

This is not a committee decision with the people who hate us.

It doesn't actually matter what word we use because the people who hate us don't believe we're oppressed in the first place and therefore don't "deserve" a word in the first place.

Fuck you.

I'm sticking with transandrophobia. But if I see someone using transmisandry, that's ok too. So is anti-transmasculism. And transmascphobia. THEY'RE ALL FINE. They've been fine the whole time.

Don't let people who hate you decide the language you use, because they'd prefer you use NO words.

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We cannot win as trans men!

We are damned if we do, damned if we don’t, damned if we try to fight the broken fucking system!

We are too much of everything, and yet not enough!

How am I supposed to know who I am when the world tells me every path is the wrong one?

#ftm #mtmine #transmasc #transandromisia #transandrophobia #treiphobia #trans man #transphobia #transmasculine #transmasculinity #trans #transsexual #transgender #additions welcome even if not trans man