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Affirmations for Asexuals Playing the Dating Game

For the aces who are playing the dating game and are dealing with your fair share of frustrations, here are some simple affirmations:

Asexuality is not a flaw. It is a valid sexual orientation, not a condition that needs to be fixed.

Asexuality does not make you any less desirable as a romantic partner. You are as worthy of love as everyone else. You have just as much to offer as anyone else.

The right time to bring up your asexuality to a date is whenever it feels comfortable for you. You aren’t “deceiving” anyone if you choose to wait before disclosing this part of yourself to a romantic interest, and you don’t owe anyone this knowledge. It makes total sense if you choose to wait until you trust the person more to come out to them.

When you do come out, keep in mind that you are divulging something personal about yourself. Your date’s reaction will provide excellent insight about their personality and values. Any decent person will appreciate and honor what you’re sharing with them.

Nobody gets brownie points for dating you “despite” your sexuality. Someone who is willing to date an asexual should not be placed on a pedestal by you or anyone else.

There are plenty of allosexuals who would be fine with dating an asexual and plenty who would not. Either way, that is not a value judgment about you as a person.

You don’t have to push yourself past your comfort zone to please a partner. You don’t have to behave in a way that is foreign or difficult for you in order to please a partner. You don’t have to pretend to not be asexual in order to please a partner.

You can say no. You are allowed to have boundaries. Your boundaries are just as valid as anyone else’s.

Compromise isn’t compromise if you’re the only one extending yourself.

Internalized acephobia is real. It might be something you grapple with while you’re dating or in a relationship. It might tell you that you’re an inferior partner because of your sexual orientation. Don’t listen to it; if you do listen to it, don’t believe it.

You don’t need to “make up” for being asexual. That’s the internalized acephobia talking.

You don’t owe anyone sex.

Having sex doesn’t make you any less asexual.

There are so many more ways to express love for someone other than having sex with them.

Your partners are privileged to date you. You have so much to teach others about love, emotional connection, and the human experience.

#seeing a post like this is so nice because I've been struggling with all of the above for YEARS #it's so nice that I wanna cry #asexuality

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‪This was so much fun to work on. Thank you @mirzers for letting me draw your Neo outfit design! ‬

#I love this so dang much #it's - chef kiss- #neopolitan #rwby #rooster teeth #my designs #rad art

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Ether Cammie! \o/

She will be available as a free sticker at RTX along with Scorbunny Cammie. You just have to find me!

#genlock #rooster teeth #cammie mccloud #ether #mir art

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mwpriddypinkie replied to your photo “rwbyartchallenge: It’s time for the Annual RWBY Art Challenge! ...”

Is there a fanfic version of this?

@mwpriddypinkie Not specifically (as this started out as a drawing challenge for myself before I made it public five years ago), but the given prompts are pretty versatile and can be used for fanfic! Plus, as the graphic states, the prompts don’t need to be followed.

The main goal is to create something RWBY related every day for 30 consecutive days!

#mwpriddypinkie #mir rambles

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It’s time for the Annual RWBY Art Challenge!

Best of luck creating!

#rwbyac #rwby art challenge

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I cosplayed Ms. Norman from Detective Pikachu at Fanime on Friday! I love this cosplay so much.

Made by me!

#fanime #detective pikachu #detective pikachu cosplay #pokemon cosplay #ms norman #mir cosplay #cosplay

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After thinking it over and realizing that I'm showing signs of a burn out, I've decided to officially stop with the "daily" part of the Pokemon Challenge. I'll still continue with it, but at a more generous pace.

I've been very hesitant at the idea of stopping for a while now. I felt like I would be a failure but then I looked at it from this perspective: I'm on month five. FIVE.

I did this daily challenge 35% of an entire year and that's amazing and definitely something to be proud of!

Thank you all for your support so far! It means a lot!

#mir rambles

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Pokedex Number 129

Magikarp

I’m so proud of my boy in Detective Pikachu :’)

By the way, I may stop doing these daily soon. It’s becoming a chore and I would like to work on other things but I can’t because this challenge takes up too much of my time. I don’t want to burn out.

#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #magikarp #mir art

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128/365

I was feeling a bit burnt out on the sprite redraws

#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #tauros #mir art

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127/365

#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #pinsir #mir art

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126/365

#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #magmar #mir art

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125/365

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#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #electabuzz #mir art

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124/365

Jynx will always and forever make me uncomfortable

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#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #jynx #mir art

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123/365

Scyther was one of my favorites when I was a kid

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#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #scyther #mir art

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122/365

Get ready for HG/SS sprite redraws but with R/B/Y coloring

#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #mr mime #mir art

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121/365

#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #starmie #mir art

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120/365

#pokemon #pokemon art #pokeart #staryu #mir art