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something i wish i had realized earlier: you can write poems on the same subject more than once. you can write, paint, draw the same thing over and over if you want to. you can spend your whole life making art about oranges. i think i always felt this pressure to get it right the first time like i couldn’t go back and use that inspiration again. but you can. you can go back and revisit it. you can pick up the conversation again and again if you have more to say.

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Quando Xu mi morde, quando mi ha tra i denti, nuda e cattiva su di me, io sto bene. Non è una cosa umana ma è accaduta lo stesso, come accadono i tifoni o i terremoti.

Viola Di Grado, Fame Blu

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“You’d be surprised how quickly the mind goes soggy in the absence of other people. One person alone is not a full person: we exist in relation to others. I was one person: I risked becoming no person.”

— Margaret Atwood, The Testaments

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No I am NOT emotionally available, yes I WILL treat every one of our interactions like I'm doing improvised stand up comedy, whats not clicking here

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it’s kinda fucked up that you’re only an age for a year. I didn’t know how to be 23 yet, let me try again

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EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED — TAYLOR SWIFT ↳ my swiftie spring/autumn exchange gift for @actual-sleeping-beauty ! ♡

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guy who makes a spreadsheet to figure out if his crush likes him back

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Mary Oliver, from “Toad”, Truro Bear and Other Adventures : Poems and Essays

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quote of the year

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something deeply intimate about being outside early in the morning all alone and seeing the world as she is

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Stop obsessing over him…

While it might seem fun to fantasise about a man, to think about him non-stop, to imagine your life together what you’re actually doing is sending a very strong signal to the universe that energetically ‘I come second’. While this might sound extreme, hear me out... Your thoughts are no longer your own because you are thinking about him. You can’t focus on you because you are thinking about him. All of a sudden everything is about him. You wake up, you take a shower. Lost in the fantasy...He might be a man you’re talking to, dating, fucking, whatever the case my be. Obsessing over a man in thought is never something you should get comfortable with, giving your precious energy away to moments that will ….most likely never happen. And what for? What about thinking about you. Your dreams, passions? The vision for your day? You only have so much mental capacity each day. And getting lost in the fantasy is not the answer.

Create no fantasy of him. This is your lesson. Press pause. Literally press fucking pause. Eject the tape. Throw it out the window. This is YOUR movie. You get to take centre stage. You no longer have to play second to mentally overthinking men. 

Start choosing you. But you have to choose you in thought first and foremost. You can’t come second in thought. Your thinking has to be on you, about you. You can’t come second mentally because a man who is not your man is taking centre stage in your mind. Your thinking space is prime real estate. It needs YOU. YOU need to own that domain. Not think it’s cute to imagine the future, get all giddy and love sick. No. No no no. Bring it back to you. Your job now is to remain focused on you. That is it. Remain focused of you. Let go. Just let go. 

Is this message clear enough for you. Do you understand now how harmful it is to make a man first priority in your mind? 

Give yourself some grace. Clean your room and get back to you. Focusing on you. Energising you. It’s a process, but the shift can be instant..all of a sudden one day you just say no. No to allowing a man to take up the domain of your mind. And just like that you can switch off that light in your mind that gets excited to overthink a man. Say no. Pray. Ask for a miracle. Call on angels. This is truly serious because focusing on you, and remaining in your centre is how you win in this life. 

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Lili Brik, from a letter to Vladimir Mayakovsky featured in Love in the Heart of Everything; The Correspondence between Vladimir Mayakovsky & Lili Brik, 1915-1930

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The use of words like "collapse" when describing how people fall into one another. Sometimes giving in to that desire for comfort feels a whole lot like destruction.

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Pulls up to the event whimpering and pathetic and asks if anyone would hold me