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A trend I’m noticing more often lately is how women’s rights will be reduced to the fight for abortion while everyone else gets full acknowledgment of the full scope of their rights.

Like ppl will really say “we need to protect civil rights, black lives, LGBTQ rights and abortion” as if women’s rights don’t extend beyond their wombs. Not saying abortion isn’t important but come on.

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what is the psychology behind women who religiously watch reality shows like 90 day fiance. you enjoy watching a bunch of men abuse and gaslight women...? maybe it's the desire to talk shit about them... my mom likes to tell me stuff like "oh this guy is SO abusive. he did this and that and yadda yadda..." like okay yeah i know men abuse women. why would i want to watch that. i hate listening to it. constant screaming and fighting and gaslighting... this is entertainment to you?

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today in famous male scientists that had their wives do half the work and receive none of the credit, french chemist, bacteriologist, and microbiologist louis pasteur, who invented the rabies and anthrax vaccine, pasteurisation, and other significant scientific achievements. his wife, marie pasteur was his 'assistant'. not only did she obviously do all the housework, raising their 5 kids, three of whom died before adulthood. but she was also an active participant in his experiments, wrote down everything he said and did, recorded his experimentd, and defacto created his publications, cared for his human test subjects (when it came to rabies, parents were basically throwing their bitten, not yet symptomatic, children at the couple to vaccinate), and helped collect and produce the resources needed for his experiments. she was an educated woman and chemist in her own right.

he said very little of her, certainly little praise, but louis pasteur's students and his colleagues all praised marie on her work and contributions with louis, and for so many traditionist men of science to informally credit marie in her efforts, she must have had a major impact on louis' endeavors. pierre curie is marie curie's collaborator, marie pasteur is louis' assistant and wife, as are so many other wives that contributed immensely to the research and work of their husbands. in fact, little can be found about marie pasteur, at least in english, beyond mention of the basic information above, from the biographical dictionary of women in science by marilyn ogilvie and joy harvey.

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straight and bisexual female friends often tell me the reason they did unwanted, degrading or painful acts with men were feelings of inadequacy and inferiority towards other women caused or validated by their boyfriend. my conclusion is that this is how predatory men erode women's boundaries, as in, it is widespread and they are often doing it on purpose.

you know, making random demeaning comments about their bodies (on how their gf is "flat", or has "love handles", or w/e), "jokes" that play into their insecurities (i.e. about looking scary without makeup, or about leaving them for a hotter younger girl someday - then they go OmFg iT wAs JuSt a JoKe!!! and make her feel as if it was her fault for having no sense of humour; the seed of insecurity is already there), comparing her to other women, celebs, pornstars, talking excessively about loving traits she doesn't have (i.e. boyfriend of a B cup woman talking about how much he loves huge breasts and thinks all women should have them), staring at other women in their presence and/or commenting how attractive they are....

eventually, the girlfriend - usually after a period of constant gaslighting about how "sensitive" she is and how she's making mountains out of molehills - agrees to do any degrading porn act. she craves approval/attention, wants to be treated as attractive and satisfying, and good enough for her partner. she hopes she can "make up" for her "flaws" by out-doing other girls in sexual sacrifice. she feels inadequate and wants to fix it or make up for it by meeting his sexual demands. she hopes if she does things other girls don't want to do, it'll make her the supreme girlfriend despite all her imperfections, and that will earn her exclusive approval, adoration and affection from her boyfriend.

it's classic predatory male behaviour - I just want women to know it wasn't your one off ex just being an asshole on individual level, it's a pattern, it's what men do, it's how they wear you down.

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by insisting humans are sexually dimorphic, the evil terfs apparently reinforce inherently racist western white beauty standards... unlike the good and righteous cosmetic surgery industry which heroically charges people to pursue those exact standards (a reasonable, freestanding desire uninfluenced by any systemic bias) at the risk of their lives and health

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there was no perfect path. you did not get punished. your life did not unravel when you made a left turn. the memory will always be there. you can visit whenever you want. there is no alternate timeline where you made a better choice and got a happier ending. you were a little girl chasing the ice cream truck, playing hopscotch, swinging and aiming for the never ending blue. yes, the grief was waiting up ahead. but so was the miracle of saturdays in a car headed wherever you wanted to go. enough sky to wrap around every wound. friends who, despite your perennial bouts of silence, kept an ear close at all times.

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some of you talk about “neurotypicals” like they’re a completely different species and not just the vague concept of people whose behaviors and capacities fall more consistently within a narrow range of culturally-approved norms

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Daphne du Maurier, from The Parasites

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Sylvia Plath, The Letters of Sylvia Plath Volume I: 1940–1956

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Anyone just ever think how wild it is that we have to have secret blogs in order to speak honestly about our thoughts on sex, gender and womanhood because thinking sex is important and that our essence as human females can’t be boiled down to a social identity is now forbidden and considered bigotry.

We don’t deserve this.

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Everyone knows that maIes on average are dangerous predators and women are their prey so anybody telling you to trust them or that "it's not all men" wants you harmed by them. They want you dead, they want you raped, they want you sacrified to the beast to save their skin or their loved ones skin. Only to blame you for it after.

Look at all the precautions the average woman takes in every aspect of their lives to navigate maIe violence. I've seen women go as far as ordering food under a maIe name because the delivery drivers would prey on them otherwise. Even when a woman IS interested in a maIe she'd still take precautions dating him because -she knows- moid on average are dangerous. This is also why women settle in crappy relationships because they KNOW their chances of encountering worse is higher than their chances of encountering better so they stay because it's personally & socially better than being alone for them. "He's emotionally distant but at least he isnt cheating on me", "he's cheating on me but at least he's not raping me", "he keeps bothering me for sex every night but at least he hasn't killed me". Women know. This is why I no longer get into back and forth about moids with women either I aint wasting my fucking time arguing shit we both know is true. I wont be your goddamn sacrificial lamb.

Moids themselves know how dangerous moids are as they "shield" their female relatives/partners from other moids. Many moids are terrified of prisons or gay moids because they fear facing what they make women face.

People wouldn't typically advise women & girls that are close to them to trust maIes, heck teenage girls are often scared off moidlets with parents saying that "boys bring trouble"/"theres only one thing boys want" typa shit. Many parents worry about their daughters because they know the evil that moids are deep down and can only hope it doesn't affect their daughters badly.

So I dont fucking care what's said online, most of these women pandering to moids or moids pulling the "it's not all men!1! We get hurt tuh!1!" bullshit would not individually trust moids. Ladies dont ever feel bad for protecting yourself. Keep generalising & judging ALL xys. You aren't crazy for seeing their evil & having your guard up. Dont explain yourselves to moids, the world already explains. Womens lives > moid feelings. It's better to be safe than sorry.

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I Am Not An Incubator. Chicago, 1992

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Saw on here someone asserting that transwomen experience the mental and social aspects of being women or something. Moving past the obviously stupid assertion that there is such thing as some womanly mental experience, I’ll just go ahead and say it…

Transwomen are not treated socially like women. Their social status is very rarely if ever seen as woman (and this is only for as long as they pass as female), but as homosexual/gender non-conforming men. The negative treatment of transwomen isn’t because they’re women, it’s because they’re men acting “effeminate” or “gay”. It’s because they’re men “lowering themselves” in order to dress and act like the male idea of a woman. It’s the homosexuality and gender non-conformity that makes them a target by our society.

The simultaneous mass praise and worship by liberals is equally a male phenomenon. They are being treated poorly or worshipped like an idol for their presentation for the very fact that they are men. It’s for this same reason why transmen are pushed aside, often barely brought up, and when they are, never taken seriously. Why? Because the idea of men stooping so low as to degrade themselves in womens’ dress and stereotype is more socially catalyzing than women pretending they could ever be so perfect as to be a man. The social perception is such that men can do it, and it’s pathetic and degrading, but that women could never and it’s childish to try (unless they move far enough in presentation to be likened to a butch female, where the laughter is replaced with equal disgust). All this to say that the treatment of transgender people is informed entirely by their natal sex and the lack of gender-conformity to that natal sex, not the magical thinking that as soon as they ID as a given sex they are treated in a way that could at all resemble the treatment of the opposite sex.

Never take the assertion that transwomen have any idea what it’s like to move through the world socially as a woman as truth. Even after transition, their social experience is and will always be male. Their treatment, bad and good, is and will always be rooted in the fact that they are male. They do not move through the world as women, they never have, and they will never know our existence, no matter how much they try to lay claim to it.

Anyways, I love women.

Signing off, Anaïs