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GQ published this, got a phone call, and killed it, but someone had already archived it, so...

Time to make sure lots and lots of people see it!

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I try to stay away from a lot of fandom discourse, but since I’ve been seeing this on my dash again and in tags, I feel the need to make a statement on this, particularly for any young fans who follow me that might get drawn into this mindset.

Stay away from purity culture. Warn your friends away from it too, if you see them starting to fall for it. It’s very easy to get drawn into it

Almost always, it starts with one of three roots, pedophilia, incest and/or abuse. Usually it’s pedophilia. Funnily enough, that’s also what congress usually uses to try to justify passing bills that undermine online privacy & security. Because it’s an easy, extreme target, and when people attempt to argue against it, it’s nice and easy to say “Oh so you like pedophilia” rather then actually engaging with their argument.

The logic goes like this, although there’s many forms of it.

“Pedophilia is bad.” -> Obviously, you agree with this. You’re a reasonable person, and the idea that anyone would do something like that to a child is horrible. This is a normal human reaction.

“Because pedophilia is bad, all fictional explorations of it must be equally bad.” -> Here you might hesitate, but it adds up, doesn’t it? The thought of pedophilia in any context probably gives you a bad feeling, that makes you inclined to go along with this logic. 

“Anyone who creates content with a fictional exploration of pedophilia is also bad.” -> Maybe you pause here, or maybe you don’t. But still, it adds up, it’s a very easy flow. After all, we’ve decided that that is Bad, so why would anyone Good want to create something like that?

“Since people who create content with a fictional exploration of pedophilia are just as bad as people who engage in pedophilia in real life, it’s okay to harm them.” -> Here’s where you might pause again. The argument might not win you over entirely, you might not be willing to do harm yourself, but you may be a lot more willing to turn a blind eye to harm being done to someone. Or to consider it ‘justified’.

The pattern now repeats for anything else that’s considered “morally impure”, and “pedophilia” is expanded and expanded, often to ridiculous points, such as merely shipping two underage characters. “Abuse” becomes any ship that the person pushing doesn’t like, for any reason. And so on and so forth.

This is the foundation of “anti” culture, and it’s important to be aware of it so you can catch this false equivocation. Fictional explorations of something, are not the same as the thing itself. Fictional explorations are fiction. The characters are not real people. There is no actual harm being done. Equating fake harm and real harm is a dangerous, slippery slope, which leads us to fundamentally flawed ideas of moral purity. It’s a form of controlling people & making them feel guilty for their very thoughts, rather than holding people accountable for their actions. 

A very handy trick for when you encounter this sort of argument, is to replace whatever the selected purity term is with murder. After all, we can all agree that murder is bad, but at the same time, we understand that a murder in a book =/= a murder in real life.

Let’s see that argument again, shall we?

“Murder is bad”

“Because murder is bad, all fictional explorations of it must be equally bad.”

“Anyone who creates content with a fictional exploration of murder is also bad.”

“Since people who create fictional explorations of murder are just as bad as the people who commit murder in real life, it’s okay to harm them.”

Hopefully, it’s now easy to see why the above argument is fundamentally flawed.

Keep your eye out for purity culture in your fandom spaces, and when you see it, refuse to engage with it. Warn your friends if you see them falling into the same traps, although try to be kind about it; this is a very easy thought pattern to fall into. I don’t recommend trying to argue/debate anti’s. The attention only feeds them. Block them instead. Don’t let people control or shame you for what you create or consume, and don’t control or shame others for what they create or consume.

Also, as a note, let me be clear about something. If you are uncomfortable with any of the above discussed things, or anything in general in fiction (ie, underage ships, murder, incest, abuse, penguins, needles, etc), that’s perfectly fine (it’s also called a squick, for those that haven’t heard that term before). Absolutely control your fandom experience by blocking people, filtering tags, unfollowing, etc. However, just because you are uncomfortable with something, does not give you the right to control other people. Other people have no right to control what content you create or consume, and you have no right to do that to them either. 

Okay?

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The Colorado senate just passed a bill that would require all hospitals to disclose if they don't provide gender-affirming care, end-of-life options, and reproductive health-care. The hospitals won't be forced to provide any of this type of care if they don't want to, but they will no longer be allowed to hide that they don't. A lot of patients haven't found out that these types of care aren't provided until they've already paid for an appointment, are already dying, or even are already mid-birth, so this is a really important step.

And, honestly, this is how it should work. If you have religious objections to something (because it is primarily the Catholic hospitals with these problems) fine, you can do that, but you don't get to dictate other people's care based on your own beliefs. Forcing hospitals to disclose what they will and won't do allows patients to make informed choices on where they want to go based on their OWN beliefs.

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April art

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Never tried it on a subscription, but used it for reservations, either a credit card (try to never use debit as it takes longer to reimburse) that is no longer in use (expired) and modify the dates or look up a generated credit card number online they fool the system!

It should 100% be illegal for companies to make you give them your payment information when you sign up for a free trial version of their product. It is not necessary and there is no good fucking reason for them to do it. It’s blatantly just so they can steal forgetful customers’ money.

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So, at work the managing team in my department has an avarage age of 30 (only 2 are over 36, the rest a mix between 24 and 35), we are not serious at all because of this, like, you enter the office and an anime ost could be playing or it could be Metallica, depends on the day, anyway, yesterday as i was arriving we began talking about off days and vacation time, for some reason one of us made the joke of stip dancing to get our supervisor to give us the requested off days, being the nonfiltered person that i am, i said "is strip dancing the only thing i need to do to get those days off? Should have told me sooner" they found it hilarious, my supervisor laughed and blushed before leaving in a haste...

Not sorry haha

#poor guy #my supervisor needs timeoff #we are terrors at work

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Society doesn’t talk about aging and mortality anywhere near enough

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Ok, so this right here has the spirit but not the right information, or at least not the whole thing.

Yes, abortion is decriminalized and its actually accesible at any health care center, we have a "free" health care thing going on (we pay for it on our taxes and it covers the whole family as long as a parent, son or daughter, husband or concubine works in a company that offers this "benefit") where we can go and get birth control (i got mine there), talks about parenthood as well as any assisstance during the pregnancy or the abortion process.

This photo was taken during an 8th of March march, where mostly women (there were men as well) protested infront of palacio nacional (where the president "works") and what started as a peaceful protest quickly became a danger zone for the protestors. Police was brutally effective in making sure no one could step into the area.

The metallic wall you see there? Was built the night of march 5th in advance of the protest, and protesters used it as a canvas, writting in there the names of those women who had been murdered, dissapeared or suffered violence that ended their lives.

Abortion has been legal in mexico for quite some time (for abuse, medical reasons, economic standing), but just as in the US, not every state was on board with it, placing impossible time frames into their laws to penalize both the women and doctors, making it near impossible to have it done.

This headline refers to the law that has been passed so that nation wide the "guideliness" or requirements are the same in order to get an abortion that is done by a professional, safe and most importantly, accesible to every woman who needs it.

Sorry for the long post.

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This is by far the funniest thing to ever come out of the Kenobi show, the entire thing was worth it just for this

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things are going to be difficult. But you

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I didnt realize Elon Musk had other kids from before Grimes, but learning he has an 18 year old trans daughter who is legally filing a name change to match her gender identity and so she'll no longer be related to her father in name really puts his "pronouns suck" "this isnt your heart" shenanigans into a much worse light.

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Fist bumps are arguably less sanitary than handshakes if you consider that people often wipe their nose with the back of their hand

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In some places, gas prices are more per gallon than people make hourly

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A mass murderer in a horror movie studio could probably get away with it for most of the day.

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Anything that is man-made seems simpler the more you know about it. Anything nature-made seems more complex the more you know about it.

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vanilla used to be an exotic expensive flavor but nowdays it’s synonymous with basic or plain.

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@ameliahcrowley you are my hero, i mean, the hoody gave me life!!!

Im not American so please forgive me if this comes across as rude but when Americans start a sentence with “during the 2016 killer clown craze-” I can’t help myself. Talked about like it was a force of nature. Said with a nonchalant air like its an inevitable part of growing up. The killer clown craze.