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[lesmashvi]

Sorry sorry I'm supposed to be doing something else but I'm still spiralling over

Tay Tawan: Gun kissing me made me lose my videogame and now youre complaining at me on the internet? Was I put on this earth to suffer? Anyway it's not possible to be friends with Gun and NOT kiss him. Get real

#so very real of him

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Saw a tweet of someone going like "there's a cis guy in our discord (the only cis guy in our discord) who only hangs out with mostly trans people....well at least he's cis for now 👀" and it's like....can we not?

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High quality plot twist

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Tbh it’s funny to me when @do-you-know-this-queer-character posts a Thai BL character and the info section says they use he/him pronouns. No he doesn’t! He uses gu/phi/pom/noo/[his own name] pronouns. WE use he/him pronouns for him.

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i just don’t think “is dude gender neutral” is that productive of a conversation because a word can be gendered and still used regardless of gender. i call my male friends girlypop and my female friends man but i don’t think anybody would agree that those are somehow not gendered terms.

the real question is just “would you be willing to apologize and stop using a word if somebody told you it made them uncomfortable?” the answer to which in a surprising number of cases is no mostly because it seems like overall ppl r more upset abt getting accused of transphobia than they are abt being transphobic

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Can we stop with the “do you want a man like this in the women’s bathroom then huh? [picture of a passing trans man]” stuff.

Because it ignores and downplays the violence trans men face in bathrooms it frames trans men as a threat to cis women.

Also just the whole thing of framing someone who looks like a man/masculine as being a threat is just . Weird. Non-passing trans women aren’t a threat either.

Transphobes have made it very clear they want to ban trans men from both the men’s and women’s bathrooms. They don’t want us in either.

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240508 supanut ig story 💙 Up Poompat and Nut Supanut at Central Embassy 10th Anniversary Event

#nut supanut #up poompat

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I know someone who calls herself a feminist, puts her pronouns in her work email signature, donates money to women’s empowerment funds, and thinks we should deport more refugees. I also know someone who calls people ‘pussies’ when he plays video games, who doesn’t know what a pronoun is, and, for his defence of low-wage women workers in a highly-exploited industry, is a better, more strident defender of the rights of working-class women than almost anyone else I know. Of these two people, I know who is on my team, and who I want on my team, yet the standard liberal feminist calculation would have me chose the woman who loves a little deportation over the man who is occasionally uncouth, solely because the woman knows to keep her language civil, and the man doesn’t. Liberal feminists get incredibly caught up in the politics of language, because language is all they have. They don’t have a revolutionary programme for overthrowing patriarchy, so they’re forced to tinker around the edges of it, quibbling over word choice and jargon instead of building the coalitions necessary for destroying patriarchy.

— We Should Not All Be Feminists by Frances Wright

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I can’t stand them

#sea tawinan #jimmy jitaraphol #jimmysea

[lesmashvi]

if you are a trans man or masc, masculine nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid or other gender non conforming identity, masc gay, a bear, a butch, stud, or boi, or other masculine queer person and don't feel welcome in any queer spaces, you're not alone.

the communities both irl and online have become EXTREMELY hostile toward mascs and men to the point of straight up excluding us and changing their wording to justify their violent exclusion. from renaming nonbinary spaces to "femme & them" and "she+" spaces, to telling men & mascs that they would "Scare" the women and "nonbinary" folks just by being there, as if masculinity and manhood are inherently traumatizing to be around.

masculine and male nonbinary folks have it so hard- most nonbinary spaces are almost definitely women's spaces who also conflate womanhood with nonbinaryhood, and often times just view nonbinary people as confused women. we are not inherently traumatizing to be around: masc enbies need places to go. we are still nonbinary and still trans and still queer for fucks' sake

nonbinary has never and will never mean femme or woman-adjacent inherently. nonbinary means what it means: people who don't or refuse to adhere to the gender binary, regardless of what side it is. masculinity is included in this, femininity is not the only way to be nonbinary.

masc queers do not have to bend over backwards to try to be more feminine and thus "less threatening" in order to have places to go. that's dysphoric and just inaccurate to a lot of queer folks' identity and presentation. it blows my mind because it makes no sense, anyway, even within the gay community, hypermasculinity has been present and even sought after by some people who find it very attractive, twunks, hunks, bears... but between the periods in queer history people started viewing masc gay leathermen and kinksters as the ones who were responsible for spreading AIDS and thus removing them from pride parades,

AND the lesbian separatism moment picking up to remove butches & male & masc lesbians from lesbian spaces identity, paving the way for modern rdical femniism, we've only entered a downhill landslide of hating men and mascs and ultimately trying to erase us from the queer community entirely.

the queer community is not the "women & femmes community". the queer experience is broad and vast, it includes a wide variety of masculine and male experiences, as well as genderfluid, multigender, completely ungendered and other gendered experiences. the lesbian, trans, bisexual, nonbinary, gay and general queer communities aren't the "safe place to hide from men & mascs community" like estranged rdfems and terfpilled trans folk like to tell you they are.

this is the QUEER community and it includes ALL forms of queerness, masc, femme, butch, male, neutral, bigender, neutral, and all. he/shes and he/hims and he/theys and he/its and so on are just as much of a part of this communities as she/hers and they/thems. you can't cast a blanket of "inherently abusive" over all men and mascs and one of "inherently abused/incapable of being abusive" over all women and femmes because that just traps you in a fantasy land that doesn't exist AND it prevents mascs and men from getting the help, resources and community they NEED.

men & mascs are hurt and abused by women & femmes every day and we refuse to speak about them because we live under a white cisheteronormal patriarchy and have complaints about how that functions. the complaints are legitimate but assuming that all men and mascs are oppressing all women and femmes and that women can never be oppressive is a false as hell narrative that actively damages people.

enough is enough. this mindset is hurting people. it's leaving masc and male queers to be estranged, harmed and even dead. i care about you if you're being affected by this mentality and these behaviors. you deserve community, safety, and a sense of belonging, you do belong, even if we struggle to form our own spaces due to unjust hatred. we will do our best to band together and keep each other safe. we must

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you there. high quality production youtube channel with a team of people. why are your captions autogenerated.

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My new hero has arrived and I love him.

#wandee goodday

[lesmashvi]

Bigots in leftist communities are usually not infiltrators or invaders purposefully trying to undermine your movement; they're usually just leftists with bigoted ideals from living in a bigoted society.

Framing all instances of bigotry in your community as coming from "somewhere else", from fakers or far-right agents or whatever, just lets you ignore your own bigoted ideals, the bigoted behavior of your friends and the people you like and trust, and your own complicity in it all.

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People focus on the "poor little girls are being manipulated into being trans" transphobia but completely ignore the "heterosexual women who fetishize gay man and want to force gay men to have sex with them" transphobia. And whenever I bring it up people just act like im crazy and that trans men are never seen as sexual perverts while everyday I get someone yelling at me online telling me im a sexual pervert who wants to rape gay men. People can't seem to wrap their head around the fact that a group can be infantilized and demonized at the same time.

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I lived with some cishet guys for a while and they were some of the first people I came out to as trans at the time because they were my closest friends. I was scared, but at the time I felt relieved because they seemed receptive enough. Sure they told me they'd use my new name and pronouns, but I was held to a ridiculous standard that none of them held each other to.

Sure, they'd address me as a man, but only if I dressed plainly, in polos, tees, jeans and slacks in neutral colors with no patterns. Only if I wore sneakers or men's dress shoes. Only if I learned how to walk and talk like a man. Only if I stopped being so open in my love of men and being gay/bisexual. Only if I stopped "sounding" trans or gay. Only if I tired my hardest to blend in to cis male society- even harder than they did, would they address me as a man.

Anything and everything else was met with direct criticism and "are you sure you're a man?" remarks. My masculinity and manhood were constantly under scrutiny, while theirs was not. This isn't acceptance; accepting someone isn't conditional. This is being made to jump through hoops like a dog. This is being forced to perform just to survive. This is not how people who respect you for being trans treat you. Learn from my mistake.

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actual footage of me trying to survive small talk

#my stand in #my stand in the series