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Some gay men really put 0 hours of work into unlearning their hatred of women’s bodies and anatomy it’s embarrassing. Like i’m super fucking sorry that you’ve got a pussy ick thing going on but i got over it after like one conversation with a friend and you’re 29 years old publicizing your pussy ick on twitter dot com dot gov posting about how super fucking hard it is that trans men are also in gay bars and that’s Not Valid because ewwww they have vacheena which is the opposite of gay eeewwwwwww! And you have to let everybody know that you’re gay not because you like men but because you hate pussy so much it makes you transphobic. Like how can you even continue to serve cunt in such a state

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“ew thick water gross and weird” ITS NOT FUCKING FOR YOU!!!!! “ew why buy pre-cut vegetables when you can cut your own” ITS NOT FUCKING FOR YOU!!!!!! “I don’t need a device to help me put my socks on I’m not lazy” ITS NOT FUCKING FOR YOU !!!!!!!!! “Why drink liquid meals when you can cook them” ITS!!!!! NOT!!!!!! FOR!!!!!! YOU!!!!!!!!

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I just watched a video that revealed teenage baseball pitchers are getting elective arm surgery to "get it out of the way" so they have a better chance of getting drafted and having an MLB career.

I don't ever want to hear about the 200 or so 17 year olds getting top surgery every year while sportsball parents are making their kids get arm surgery so they can pitch a little better.

Apparently it is child abuse to help your kid drastically improve their mental health and relieve severe dysphoria but if mommy wants a McMansion from her son's pitching arm, surgery is perfectly fine.

I'd also be grateful if I could never hear a conservative talking head say "perfectly healthy breasts" again.

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im kinda tired of the assumption that physical disability = visible, and non-physical disability = invisible. it is not that simple and it certainly aint the case for me.

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Everytime a cis women tries to argue against gender neutral language in medical settings it becomes very clear they care more about their comfort then trans men being denied medical care and dying.

I don’t care how ‘uncomfortable’ the terms person with a uterus, person who can give birth, person with breasts, etc. makes you. I very much care more about trans men having access to medical care than a cis person’s feelings.

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Really though, like we've made our cities so uncomfortable even for housed people, just in an effort to hurt the homeless. Parks and beaches close at night so homeless can't sleep there. Loitering is illegal so homeless can't sleep there. No bench at the bus stop because someone might sleep on it. No overnight parking because someone might sleep in the car there.

These laws aren't even beneficial to housed populations of the city, and they purely exist out of a) hatred for the homeless and b) an attempt to make your city look "presentable" to tourists. And it just sucks all-around.

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I'm moderately immunocompromised due to the medications I'm on that suppress my immune system

I'm also...

a university student. I'm in your classes

a community member. I'm in your public spaces

someone who does my own groceries. I'm in your grocery stores

someone who takes medications. I'm in your pharmacies

someone who likes to eat out with friends. I'm in your restaurants

someone who shops. I'm in your malls and shopping centers

someone who appreciates local artists. I'm at your markets

I am not elderly. you cannot look at me and see that I am high risk. You can't know to avoid me if you leave the house with covid or the flu but covid or the flu could kill me

new covid guidelines are suggesting that you can leave isolation while you're sick but that you should avoid high risk people. you cannot do this, we are everywhere. we look like elderly people on ventilators but we also look like fit young adults and energetic children. you cannot spot someone high risk. you cannot avoid us. if you're sick stay home

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Trans allyship leaving y’all’s body the moment a trans man has a unique relationship with masculinity/manhood and doesn’t want to look like a cis man

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My chronic pain doctor suggested I exercise more

I asked him “how?”

He looked confused. Said I should try a bit every day

I said “not when, how?” I asked what exercises I should do

He suggested half a dozen options that had all been explicitly banned by other doctors. I’m not allowed to run. I’m not allowed to bike. I’m not allowed to use my rowing machine or my punching bag.

I walk my dog whenever I have the energy and when it doesn’t hurt too much

What else can I do?

He told me I should exercise more

And then he changed the subject.

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I was talking with my friends and one of them was like "how many times do yall shower?" and I was like heeere we go again.

so a few said everyday, the others every other day. and my answer was "two times a week, but most of the time only once"

and ofc they were all shocked like "ew what do you mean you don't shower every day wtf"

well, know my little guy that I am mentally! and! physically! disabled!!!

so I would want to see you as an autistic (with sensory issues) who experiences autistic inertia, meaning that you have issues starting and ending a task, plus you have pda! which means you sometimes procrastinate things you're supposed to do and feel obligated to do (like showering)

but you're not only autistic, you also have a physical disability that makes your little body tired and hurt every time you do something, and you sometimes pass out after you did something that cost a lot of physical effort, like for example, showering.

yup, we'll see then if you'd shower every day.

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I think the scariest thing about having a chronic illness is you truly don’t know what you’re going to feel like from one day to the next.

Yesterday I was able to shower and stand up for more than 10 minutes and today breathing is hard.

The unpredictability and the sheer fear of having to deal with flare ups and feeling like everything is falling apart constantly.

I am tired.

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Normalise mourning the life you may have had before chronic illness took over.

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There’s no such thing as work-life balance for neurodivergent & chronically ill people.

This is because everything in my life requires work:

maintaining friendships

keeping up with my hygiene

managing bills

making money

remembering my basic needs

sleeping regularly

outputting creatively

All requires some aspect of work for me.

And when everything in your life requires work, your balance goes out the window.

If you're neurodivergent and overwhelmed — I see you.

If you're chronically ill and overwhelmed — I see you.

You're not dysfunctional.

You're not incapable.

You're doing your best.

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I want people to understand. Sitting up hurts. Because of my hypermobility, weak core muscles and chronic fatigue, sitting up itself is exhausting and hurts. Do people realize how fucking weird and almost dehumanizing it is to have something as simple as sitting up hurt? Like something that people need and find so easy is utterly exhausting and painful to me. I know a lot of my chronically ill friends go through this. Sitting up just hurts!!

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As your friendly local religious studies scholar and theologian, I endorse this message ,🙂

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“THESE fare-dodgers are RUINING the livelihoods of our POOR POOR bus and train drivers” another day another example of news media fuelling class warfare on purpose. literally shut the fuck up!

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Sometimes being disabled is metaphorical tunnel vision. For every small action, there's pain and fatigue on the other side, so you overthink and procrastinate every move you make. You put on real shoes instead of slippers for the first time in 6 months and wonder if it was always this hard to tie your shoes? You're not sure exactly what's different, but you just remember it being... easier.

At a routine appointment, your doctor lectures you about deconditioning instead of ordering physical therapy or diagnostics for your worsening neck pain. You can try again in 4 months.

You look up deconditioning later, but all you can do is wonder why they haven't come up with a term for a disabled person acclimating to their severe pain and limitations to the degree that they can't even tell exactly in what ways their disability affects them anymore.