BDSM gets a bad rep as like a violent (male) dom pushing the boundaries of a reluctant (female) sub but in my experience it's a lot of subs with wildly elaborate fantasies screaming shit like "PUT MY ASS IN THE CHILI" while a new dom is like "Okay I think, we are reaching yellow for me,"
thinking about how when you experience a lot of shame in your formative years (indirectly, directly, as abuse or just as an extant part of your environment) it becomes really difficult to be perceived by other people in general. the mere concept of someone watching me do anything, whether it's a totally normal activity or something unfamiliar of embarrassing, whether I'm working in an excel spreadsheet or being horny on main, it just makes my skin crawl and my brain turn to static because I cannot convince myself that it's okay to be seen and experienced. because to exist is to be ashamed and embarrassed of myself, whether I'm failing at something or not, because my instinctive reaction to anyone commenting on ANYTHING I'm doing is to crawl into a hole and die. it's such a bizarre and dehumanizing feeling to just not be able to exist without constantly thinking about how you are being Perceived. ceaseless watcher give me a god damn break.
I know it’s not hard to point out reactionaries hypocrisy when it comes to like safe spaces or hug boxes or whatever but genuinely how much of an echo chamber do you have to exist in for you to think this is a reasonable thing to say
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you’re at a low point:
If you were a fictional man right now, there would be *at least* ten people if not a large portion of the fanbase that would call you their wet beast poor little meow meow
A bunch of way too elaborate fanarts for one of my favourite polish comfort tv shows about a crime solving priest - ojciec mateusz :-)
(translation of the text: 1: Homemade dinner / at Natalia's / 'will you eat, father? - repeated. 2: Curiosity is the first step to hell / I, Killed, He, I love, Her. 3: the heart wants what it wants.)
[Transcript: Potentially a controversial take but I really think the Duo bird needs to chill out. Now that I have your attention, I want you to know that Haya's mother has kidney failure and doesn't have access to dialysis right now because all the hospitals and Gaza have been bombed. It is literally so urgent. She is in kidney failure with no dialysis. Please support this family, you can find them in my you know where. End of transcript]