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"Trust" and "safety" flow in both directions.

When we talk about d/s relationships, it's very common that we speak of the dominant providing a space for the submissive to feel safe. We speak of the dominant earning the submissive's trust. And all of that is true.

But I am also coming to understand that trust and safety flow in both directions. I'm a dom/sadist. For the record, not all dominants are sadists and not all sadists are dominant. Ditto for the complement of that. Not all masochists are submissive and not all submissives are masochists.

I like to call myself a loving sadist. I love to inflict carefully calibrated pain on someone who is happy to receive it. And yet, I also have a strong protective and caregiving streak. I spent my working years in a caregiving profession. And I've spent years coming to terms with my sadism. It's been a long process to accept that enjoying the pain of someone I love is not evil. I have desires that the wider world does not accept. Desires that I cannot express in very many places. The ONLY safe place for me to bring out those desires is in the company of a loving masochist.

And, in order to safely and responsibly express my sadism, I need to trust her to be honest about her feelings, about her wants and needs and boundaries. I need to trust that she will use her safewords when needed.

Lately, I've been in a relationship with a lovely and brilliantly smart submissive/masochist who has created a space in which my sadism has been able to truly grow and flourish. And it's helped me to the realization that, just as I have made her feel safe enough to surrender her body to my untender ministrations, SHE has also made ME feel safe enough to express the fullness of what I am.

There is always more room to learn and grow.

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Please...

Impact

📷: @dirty.archangel on iG

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This Right Here

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We’re all just wishing we could be fucking some other perverted degenerate mutual like us on Tumblr,

but they live thousands of miles away😤

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i want you all to know that there is an artist (carmen papalia) who, after he started using a white cane, assembled a 12 foot long white cane and began using it in downtown vancouver. the length of the cane made it functionally useless as a device and the only purpose it served was making him an obstacle for sighted people. dare i say… 2019 goals

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So true!

Everything is not what it seems love💕🤭

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💜💜💜

"It's choice -

not chance -

that determines your destiny."

~ Jean Nidetch

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Oh gods...

Softly caressing her face and admiring her beauty...

Roughly using her holes and making her a sloppy pretty mess...

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With joy.

For the right man she’ll do disgusting and disturbing things

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Oh oh oh ...

-TheDarkMirror-

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Mmmmmm...please....

Passion

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Whimper...

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Bliss...

She’s an over thinker, so fuck her until her brain shuts off.

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Please...

part her thighs and use your tongue to drain all the fucking chaos from her brain

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Oh gods yes...

brain is so full of so many things when it needs to be empty and my cunt full of cum.

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an explanation is not owed