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The number of hours we have together is actually not so large. Please linger near the door uncomfortably instead of just leaving. Please forget your scarf in my life and come back later for it.

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You can see that things are going wrong and you still choose to stay because of the love. And it's really sad when you choose to throw away your self respect in the hopes that something will continue, when you are banking your hopes on what that person is in your mind versus how their actions are speaking.

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If we’re supposed to be together, one day, then maybe we will but I’m not going to place all of my hopes on it. I have to live my life.

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Sometimes if you really love someone you have to let them go, even if it destroys you. Because they don’t love you back.

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I've been trying not to think about it, I can't help it I know you don't wanna hear from me, but I am selfish It kills me inside you can drink on Friday nights Not even pick up the phone It amazes me you move on so easily From someone that you once called home Think I fell in love before I even knew your birthday Kissed you on our first date Somehow, I knew someday This would hurt 'cause I could never let you go Oh, I'll spend my whole life Missing a part of me, part of me

The first time that you told me You thought that you loved me That bar in the city I thought you were drunk But I knew deep down that you meant it Wish that I had said it I was scared to let it happen But it happened and now I cannot forget it Oh, I'll spend my whole life Missing a part of me, part of me Oh, I'll spend my whole life Hoping your heart is free, heart is free

#crazier things #chelsea cutler

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They say that a person's personality is the sum of their experiences. But that isn't true, at least not entirely, because if our past was all that defined us, we'd never be able to put up with ourselves. We need to be allowed to convince ourselves that we're more than the mistakes we made yesterday. That we are all of our next choices, too, all of our tomorrows.

#anxious people

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The truth, of course, is that if people really were as happy as they look on the Internet, they wouldn’t spend so much damn time on the Internet, because no one who’s having a really good day spends half of it taking pictures of themselves. Anyone can nurture a myth about their life if they have enough manure, so if the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, that’s probably because it’s full of shit.

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Showing up for yourself is to know and understand yourself. To acknowledge when you are hurt and rejected, and yet love yourself despite it all. When your love grows, nothing can bring it down. Thankful and proud of myself for taking steps out of my comfort zone, for saying no to fear of rejection and facing the outcomes rather than never knowing and hiding in fear.

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I choose to be happy, to be grateful for each breath I am able to take. I am thankful to be alive, to be able to have thoughts, and feel the ground beneath my feet as I walk.

I choose to be brave and to step out of my comfort zone. I choose to be vulnerable and open. I choose to put myself out there, to reach out to people that matter to me.

If I fail, so be it. If I am rejected, I take it as a lesson learnt. With each step I take for me, to be me, to be closer and truer to myself, I become free. Free from the weight of fear and unhappiness, as I gravitate closer to people who like me for me.

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Trauma isn't just the sadness that comes from being beaten, or neglected, or insulted. That's just one layer of it. Trauma also is mourning the childhood you could have had. The childhood other kids around you had. The fact that you could have had a mom who hugged and kissed you when you skinned your knee. Or a dad who stayed and brought you a bouquet of flowers at your graduation. Trauma is mourning the fact that, as an adult, you have to parent yourself. You have to stand in your kitchen, starving, near tears, next to a burnt chicken, and you can't call your mom to tell her about it, to listen to her tell you that it's okay, to ask if you can come over for some of her cooking. Instead, you have to pull up your bootstraps and solve the painful puzzle of your life by yourself. What other choice do you have? Nobody else is going to solve it for you.

#what my bones know

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Estrangement is not freeing. It has not felt joyful. It has not been happy. It has only felt necessary, and even that is something I question all the time: Does this make me selfish? Does it make me cruel? The silence now is not so different from the lonely holidays I endured over the years, an extension of the months of silence we'd exchanged but more total. There is one major difference: I don't have to work on earning his love anymore. I can just work on accepting that I will never have it. That is far from peace. But it is what it is.

#what my bones know

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Fear is nothing but the opportunity to conduct yourself with grace.

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You can trust people but you also have to trust yourself enough to be able to walk away.

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If someone shows you who they are, believe them.

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You can learn a lot about a person from the way they treat someone they do not need.

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We have the right to our emotions and no one can tell us how to feel and not feel. But we don't have the right to impose our feelings on others, and ignore the impact they might have.

Compassion is seeing things from both sides, and putting aside our feelings to consider if they are valid or based on our own insecurities and past experiences.

We have ownership over our feelings, but we cannot expect and force others to accept them. We should also consider the impact and consequences for the other party.

Maturity is rethinking the reasons why we feel the way we do, and choosing when to or not to react. Some guiding questions we can ask ourselves are whether we are upset because our egos are hurt, or are we holding on to past narratives of others.

Not everything needs to be said, and not everyone has to be your friend.

#emotional maturity

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Forgiveness is refusing to allow past experiences to define how you feel in the present. It is letting go of past versions of people, and accepting that people can change for the better.

#forgiveness