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[imdisabledduh]

I forgot to add tags fuck

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[imdisabledduh]

[imdisabledduh]

... i spent 5 minutes sobbing alone in my nans kitchen today because i was in so much pain i just couldn't hold it back.

and there's nothing wrong with that. an emotional reaction to pain is normal, its human. chronic pain is exhausting at the best of times, and flare ups can make you feel everything ten times worse. don't beat yourself up for being overwhelmed. you're going through enough already. don't put yourself through more.

i love you. i support you. i hope you can find some relief, even just a little. you deserve it.

[ID: A gif that says "THIS POST IS ABOUT CHRONIC PAIN DO NOT DERAIL" in glittery pink caps.]

[imdisabledduh]

Some tips for spoonies who have sex questions but cant talk about them

If your hips dislocate often, being on top might be better, or reverse cowgirl. I found that position in particular works for me. Thigh grinding and clit stimulation tend to be less energy than actual intercourse if you have a vagina.

If youre into any bondage and have EDS/any tissue disease please dont use duct tape its hell on earth for the skin. Try the fuzzy handcuffs or ribbons, silky fabrics can be just as much fun and less pain than sticky or rough textures

Yes being hypersexual is normal if you have chronic pain or chronic fatigue as its normal human response to get out of pain and into pleasure, it alsp can push an adrenaline rush and give sudden energy.

Yes being sex repulsed is natural if you have chronic pain/fatigue because sex can be exhausting, and more painful. And even if it feels good, it can be really bad afterwards going from pleasure to pain.

Dislocation or pulled muscles are common, heat or a bath afterwards can be really helpful.

Dont forget to pee after sex its like ten times as likely for people with low immune systems to get utis than healthy people.

If youre into anal and are likely to have prolapses please be super careful and start training yourself beforehand, and be slow about it.

If your skin is stretchy or tears easily please because during intercourse and especially nipple play.

If you have devices/tubes on you/in you be sure not to put a whole lot of pressure on them. Stop if somethibg doesnt feel right. If you do bondage make sure your tube doesnt get tied up with you.

Being sex repulsed and hypersexual us really normal especially if youre on medications.

Yes, anti depressants, painkillers and especially anti psychotics can make it nearly impossible to orgasm. Dont feel guilty about it, its just how it is. Lots of foreplay and edging can help but for many it takes getting off the med to get your sex life back/achieve orgasm.

Back spasms can and will happen! For regardless of sex/gender, if you orgasm, your muscles get tight and excited and it can cause spasms in the legs and especially your back! Be careful.

If you have a vagina and have any tissue disease, its usually easily to tear tissue in both the anus and the vagina, make sure you are lube up as much as possible before any insertion. And if tearing still happens make a note of it and talk to your doctor if it doesnt heal.

If you bruise easily, youll get hickeys easily, and if you heal slow those motherfuckers do too.

Its fun when youre flexible, but make sure youre not hyper extending during sex, because that could make you extra likely to have a dislocation.

Yes, jaw dislocations while sucking dick are super common, lock jaw and jaw weakness are too. Dont be ashamed to stop. Its a lot of energy and a lot of work and movement your neck/jaw might not be used to. Ice packs work best after a long day of suckin dick.

Premature ejaculation is also common for a lot of spoonies (especially spoonies with penises) due to the sudden rush of adrenaline/pleassure and extreme sensitivity. Dont be ashamed!

Yes, your meds can make it hard to.maintain na erection, talk to your doctor about what to do, but dont be ashamed, its super common especially on anti depressants.

Its common for people with chronic illnesses to have a hard time staying wet/maintaining an erection during sex as youre basically battling both fatigue and pain, try foreplay and other things outside of penetration before going straight for intercourse.

No ones gonna tell you this but people with inflammatory dieases, your vagina will inflame during penetration, it may hurt, you may not feel it, thats why you should start slow.

If you have unique allergies please please for the love of god make sure you dont have a latex allergy or an allergy ro certain lubricates, condoms can be the worst for those of us with bad immune systems/unique allergies.

Be prepared for wrist and shoulder dislocations during handjobs/fingering.

Theyre not gonna yell you this but fingering and handjob can advance your arthritis/give you early arthritis. Please take breaks when you feel pain.

All i have for now. Will be adding more.

[imdisabledduh]

i will never apologize for my accessibility needs. i will never apologize for standing up for myself and my accessibility needs. i will never apologize for having accessibility needs. i will never apologize for asking for my accessibility needs to be met. neither should you.

[imdisabledduh]

Honestly fuck you Emilia Clark and Sam Claflin

MORE DISABILITY MEMES I MADE

What they put on morphine? No seriously I want to season my coffee with it

My walking limbs say 💖 No 💖

🥰 Shut the fuck up you little ableist piece of junk 🥰

Show’em, mommy!

Fuck you stairs

This week the theme is pain because it makes me grumpy like a small goblin and ultra sensible to bad feelings

You telling me I need to watch “Me before you” = you want me dead

[imdisabledduh]

MORE DISABILITY MEMES I MADE

What they put on morphine? No seriously I want to season my coffee with it

My walking limbs say 💖 No 💖

🥰 Shut the fuck up you little ableist piece of junk 🥰

Show’em, mommy!

Fuck you stairs

This week the theme is pain because it makes me grumpy like a small goblin and ultra sensible to bad feelings

You telling me I need to watch “Me before you” = you want me dead

#disabled memes #disability memes #disabled negativity #disabled problems #physically disabled #disabilties #disability #actually disabled #disabled #disabilities #disabled community

[imdisabledduh]

My boss came to me saying this shit. I am so pissed

Bitch stop lying lol

[imdisabledduh]

The lies omg omg 🙉🙉🙉

Bitch stop lying lol

[imdisabledduh]

annoying disability tropes in media

[imdisabledduh]

Bitch stop lying lol

#disabled memes #disability memes #disabled negativity #disabled problems #disabled positivity #disabled pride #disability #disabled #therapy #actually disabled #disabilities #disabled community #disabilties

[imdisabledduh]

blows my mind when people try to argue “yeah well physically disabled people are taken seriously 🙄” I think all those people should try being physically disabled and explaining their limits to a doctor or parent or other family member or employer or teacher or

[imdisabledduh]

what i saw one day

The paralized kid: ay yo ima head out

the blind kid: you can walk??

the quiet kid: you can see!?!?

the deaf kid: dog you can talk??

Me: What the fuck?!

[imdisabledduh]

That's so me omg

I hate having to pretend it doesn't hurt when I walk sometimes

my leg hurts so bad rn (༎ຶu༎ຶ)

[imdisabledduh]

How I talk to adults vs how I talk to children

Scripts I use as a disabled autistic person when someone asks why I'm in a wheelchair (You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you're using a mobility aid, these are for if you want to/have the spoons):

-"I'm disabled."

Pros:

-They can't ask further questions because who in their right mind is gonna say "why are you disabled"

-Teaches abled-people that it's none of their business

Cons:

-They do tend to get huffy for some reason?

-Leaves no room for Creativity

-"I have a condition that makes walking or standing for long periods of time unsafe"

Pros:

-It gets the point across

Cons:

-Often leads to further questions

-Kind of dry

-No room for creativity

-"An evil witch in the woods stole my ability to walk and I have to be in a wheelchair for the rest of my life as penance for stealing her chickens to feed my family"

Pros:

-Mysterious and whimsical.

-Makes you out as tragic hero

-Interesting AND creative

Cons:

-None

[imdisabledduh]

Me, to my malformed limb: It's walking, you are a leg, do your fucking thing!

disabled culture

[imdisabledduh]

3. Don't give a shit about it and proceed to show you their toy

Kids reacting to you having a disability / disorder can go one of two ways:

they embarrassingly yell to everyone that you have or don't have something

they're the most supportive and precious person ever like holy shit this kid is kinder than every adult professional I've ever talked to

#i love kids #children > adults #disabled positivity #disabled problems #disability #disabled negativity #disabled pride #actually disabled #disabilities #disabled #disabled culture