My best friend has this too but after we've both done a lot of research it's worth pointing out that BPD can easily develop in those that do not have a traumatic trigger as well.
I’m very open about having BPD and it’s an extremely difficult thing to have and manage.
A key difference between BPD and other mental illnesses, is BPD is caused by traumatic events in one’s life, that physically change the shape of the brain. Where something like depression & anxiety, are chemical imbalances that can be treated with medication.
Because it alters your brain, there is no medication for BPD. There are multiple forms of specialized therapy like DBT (Dialectical Behavioural Therapy), and from what I understand, it doesn’t go away, one just gets better at managing it, and understanding why they do what they do. You have to put in 2x the work, to get 1/4 as far as someone who doesn’t have BPD
I find the biggest struggle is feeling a type of way, even though I know my feelings aren’t realistic in anyway. Feelings that overtake my body to a point I can’t even bring myself to drink water, or get out of bed. I have an automatic litter box & feeder for Jupiter just in case I can’t take care of those things.
It took me a long time to understand I have it and what it is, and I’m only learning recently how it has affected me in my past & present situations. But, it isn’t who I am. There are many beautiful things about BPD as well, because it isn’t just negative.
If anyone is interested in hearing about my struggles with it or want to talk about mental health in any capacity, feel free to message me! This can be very lonely to deal with.
I’ve been so blessed to know someone who struggles with this too, and regardless of any situation, she has always helped me understand and share what has helped her. I wouldn’t be where I am now without this person.