“The most contested individual for the title of Alexander’s lover is Hephaestion. Whilst never explicitly stated as Alexander’s lover – always referred to as his epithet Φιλαλέξανδρος (friend of Alexander) – several modern historians interpret the relationship as amorous, rather than platonic. Hephaestion secured high-ranking positions in the army and, in Troy, the two made sacrifices at the shrines of Achilles and Patroclus: two other likely lovers that suffered history’s homosexual erasure. Moreover, Alexander was mocked for abandoning imperial administration due to lusting after handsome Hephaestion’s thighs. These interactions strongly suggest the two were not merely friends.”
“After Hephaestion’s sudden death in 324 BC, the grief-stricken Alexander mourned over the body and refused to depart until dragged away by his companions. [He] ordered that the whole empire be plunged into a state of mourning; all music was banned and the statue of Asclepios, god of medicine, was demolished. Since mortals were supposed to respect the gods, Alexander’s subjects were deeply offended. This mark of poor governance demonstrated Alexander’s hysteria after the death of the one he loved the most.
Birch, A. 5th May, 2021. Alexander the Great: LGBT Icon?: Manchester Historian. (Retrieved here)
* friendly reminder: i’m not a historian with an ancient history degree under my belt. (i’m more of a 1500-2000’s history student tbf) i don’t have the understandings that ancient macedonians held around the notions of gender and sexuality. and not to go ‘and historians will say they were roommates’, but i sort of have to..?
from what i’ve found (and i had to use my school library account for this), the two were no more than close friends. there’s no concrete proof that confirms alexander really did have a romantic or sexual relationship with hephaestion, but certain recordings of their interactions can be read as such. (i just thought i’d post this because i find it very amusing that ben willbond seems to continuously play characters that align with the lgbt+ community.)