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i also think it's bad when very rich famous people (looking at you, ana de armas/lily james/lupita nyong'o) take jobs promoting "natural diamonds" for de beers fyi. i think that once you get to a certain income threshold you do actually have some ethical duty to consider the brand partnerships you agree to and blah blah blah no ethical consumption but when it's something as cartoonishly awful as promoting tourism to regions where homsexuality is punishable by the death penalty or whitewashing the diamond trade by promoting it as something that "empowers women globally" then yeah you become uh. how do you say. morally culpable for those choices

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Rich ppl are weird as hell. 

people are genuinely twisting themselves into gordian knots to justify beyonce accepting $24 million to play a concert in dubai, where it is illegal and dangerous to be gay, right after releasing an album ostensibly intended to celebrate ball culture and gay cultural pioneers. unhinged behavior tbh

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They took the NSFW warning off my page. Hey gyns

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This article title stands out to me because Reductress always makes jokes that are about changing or compromising with the shittiest, bottom-of-the-barrel men. Who would undoubtedly be violently transphobic.

#reductress #jk rowling #misogyny #men doing the bare minimum

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I do not care how mean and harsh I have to be I will never validate people hating their bodies and turning to surgical or otherwise unhealthy means to fix it. I will never indulge you and tell you that you weren't born perfect and that your body should be changed. I will never tell you your plastic surgery after photo is better, I will not encourage and condone this behavior, I will not let capitalism rot our literal bodies the way it has our minds. We are not bags of parts to be fixed we're people I don't care how rude I have to be I don't care if I'm the bad guy!!! I know what the slippery slope is like you think oh if I just fix x I'll be happy and then you fix x and you aren't happy so you think well maybe once I fix y I'll be fine and you fix y and you still aren't happy so you move the goal post again to fix another thing but it is an endless chase. You'll never be happy with yourself because what your diseased mind hates is YOU, not your breasts, not your stretch marks, not your fat stomach, but YOU, and you'll still hate yourself even after you spend an arm and a leg "fixing" those things, in fact probably even more, SO WHY NOT LEARN TO FUCKING ACCEPT YOURSELF ALREADY? OH MY GOD!!!!!!!

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why do gay men care so much about uplifting conventionally attractive women and venerating feminine beauty? like even the men who aren’t even attracted to women judge women based on their appearance and expect them to perform femininity and sexual appeal. it truly confuses me

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they didnt give a fuck when men raped and murdered prostitutes but the moment that very same group of men started to get murdered by a prostitute they executed her and branded her as one of the most evil and deranged killers in american history.. i see. very interesting.

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canonize women. make an effort to learn about great women and give them the respect and recognition they should have had all along.

how many times have you heard phrases like “he’s the mozart of coding” “he’s einstein-levels of brilliant” “he’s the new mark zuckerberg/elon musk/steve jobs/bill gates” “he was out of there faster than usain bolt” “focusing with bobby fischer-like intensity” “innovative like shakespeare” and so on and so on and so on?

how many exceptional men have become so easily recognized as brilliant that their names become symbols for greatness itself? how many exceptional women are ever even acknowledged, much less known widely enough to get the same treatment?

canonize women. mention exceptional women and act like it’s a travesty (because it is!) that their contributions aren’t known.

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I can't stop watching this omg 🥺💞💞💞

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how is gnc women getting harrassed out of bathrooms the fault of the evil radfems and not the bepronouned moids who force themselves into every female exclusive space and keep women on their toes

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Mental gymnastics

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My therapist recommended that I read Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall and…

Sigh. I see so much wrong with this. The Men of Color™ apologia, the idea that people critical of trans ideas are ideologically the same as conservatives, the idea that trans women objectively have it The Worst™ when women who aren’t trans are also still fighting for basic rights around the world, the reductionist idea that gender matters more than sex when it comes to oppression, the false idea that women of color are expected to treat patriarchy as monolithic authority… 

Black women, we must center ourselves. We don’t need to keep sticking up for men when our hair is against the rules in several facilities in the U.S. We don’t need to bring up trans women and bathroom policies to earn the right to talk about how black girls are given heftier punishments in schools. We must stand up for ourselves without “returning the favor” so often. 

We don’t owe anyone anything. Sex-based oppression is real and black female people, regardless of how we identify, will always be treated as black women and therefore experience that oppression. 

It’s okay to just exist as a black female person. You don’t need to shoulder every single burden. 

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i’m hesitant about sharing dr jessica taylor’s new study at all because, if you look at the faq, she states “this data is not representative of uk women as a whole population” and it becomes clear why. her samples are not randomly selected, they are not only from an online questionnaire originally linked on twitter, inspired by the amount of uk girls and women coming out about sexual violence experiences on anonymous apps, as well as on twitter, meaning that the majority of women who answered it did so specifically BECAUSE they know they’ve faced sexual violence before, skewing the data, particularly in terms of missing the massive demographic of older women, who do not occupy many online spaces (another thing acknowledged in the faq). but even more telling, other samples were collected from EMAILS. sent to her. women sending emails about their experiences to her. no woman is going to email her or her team to say “nothing happened to me”. and she acknowledges these major gaps in her faq, but then just says “we do not think our data is biased”. you can’t just say that without actual proof??? she goes “oh yeah, this is an issue with every non randomised survey, but i don’t think it is for ours” HUH???? that’s not scientific at all??? 

i support the other ways she went about the survey. the way the questions were asked were great, and no doubt that women experience sexual and domestic violence at higher rates than other studies show, because as radfems know, many women do not understand what qualifies as “abuse” or “rape”, and so will say “no”, but if you ask “have you ever woken up to your boyfriend having sex with you?”, “has a man ever hit you on the head?”, then you get more accurate responses. but her data is pretty much useless apart from being anecdotes and a peek into the large amount of violence towards women. with data and results so significantly different from any previous studies, what’s needed to make it worth anything is an actual randomised study using the same question style, preferably collected in interview, where any kind of woman can be accessed (ALONE, away from men as well), with the nature of the questions remaining secret from the men in their lives, at least during, so a census or general survey (such as the world values surveys, which ask MANY different questions, so it would be easy to fit these into the interview with women alone) would be optimal.

targeted online surveys and requests for emails might be an acceptable way for a due university paper, but as a legitimate resource, that laws and actions can be based on, that’s a no. there’s probably a reason why this study was self published and only on her website, and not in a peer reviewed journal or library. i completely agree with her goals, her recommendations to officials and institutions, and i do firmly believe that close to 100%, if not 100% of women have faced sexual or domestic violence, including harassment and catcalling, at least once in their lifetime. but i am not stating that as a proven fact, it is only an opinion. i’m not even “debunking” the paper, she admits these faults herself. this is mostly caution to those, like you women, who see the paper or articles or posts that come from it and aren’t aware of it having such major limitations that it can’t be viewed as representative of the total population of uk women, or women around the world. i say this because others will absolutely bring this up and pick the study apart, and there is no way to defend this study from that because they’ll be right.

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Is there anyone on radblr who is versed in what's happening with Jessica Taylor, author of Sexy buy Psycho and Why We Blame Women for Everything? I've read a bit from the woman who says Jessica used her story without consent and is gaslighting her, and this woman presents a very solid case. I started to read more into Jessica Taylor, but also navigating twitter is annoying and any other info is locked behind paywalls or are extremely long forum threads.

I'm currently reading sexy but psycho and tbh I'm going to stop because this is all sketchy. But I would love an in depth explanation of the situation. Ty!