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I need to read this when I’m in my feelings

i wish people would normalize being lost in life and just not knowing anything. not knowing what you’re passionate about, where you want to live, what you want to do, where you want to go— or what lies next. as a society, we normalized going to school, finding a passion, getting a job, finding a partner, getting married, having kids, working hard to earn an honest living. but what about when shit just doesn’t go that way? you really just don’t know. and what’s even worse is, you don’t know why you don’t know or even where to start so you feel alone. you feel as though you’re a disappointment to your family. as if you failed in life. but you haven’t, it’s okay, to not know. to be lost. you have your whole life ahead of you to figure things out. patience is a virtue. there is no time limit on life. you don’t need to rush. don’t allow society to fixate the narrative of having all your shit together at a certain age. it isn’t realistic for most. being lost is so much more normal than we think. and i just wish people would be more transparent about it.

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I just finished The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk and I would HIGHLY recommend it to anyone interested in looking deeper into this topic!

I suspect quite a few people on this site don’t realize they are struggling with the effects of chronic trauma. In particular I think more people need to learn about the symptoms of C-PTSD.

Distinct from general PTSD, Complex PTSD is caused by prolonged, recurring stress and trauma, often occurring in childhood & adolescence over an extended period of time. There are many risk factors, including: abusive/negligent caregivers, dysfunctional family life, untreated mental/chronic illness, and being the target of bullying/social alienation.

I’m not a mental health professional and I’m not qualified to diagnose anyone, I just remember a million watt light bulb going off in my head when I first learned about C-PTSD. It was a huge OH MY FUCKING WORD eureka moment for me—it explained all these problems I was confused and angry at myself for having. The symptoms that really stood out to me were:

Negative self-perception: deep-seated feelings of shame, guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, and stigma. Feeling like you are different from everyone else, like something is fundamentally ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ with you.

Emotional avoidance of topics, people, relationships, activities, places, things etc that might cause uncomfortable emotions such as shame, fear, or sadness. Can lead to self-isolation.

Learned helplessness: a pervasive sense of powerlessness, often combined with feelings of desensitization, wherein you gradually stop trying to escape or prevent your own suffering, even when opportunities exist. May manifest as self-neglect or self-sabotage. (I remember watching myself make bad choices and neglect my responsibilities, and having no idea why I was doing it, or how to stop myself. Eventually I just stopped caring, which led to more self-neglect.)

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.... i have never felt so seen

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I spit out my green apple Gatorade💀

Do you believe in second chances?

Yea I usually give about 5 or 6 before I realize I’m a fucking idiot

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My brother, my mom, my boyfriend, and I all have Leo risings lol

some astro observations ☕️✨💫

💜 gemini placements like to show their wit in debates, but gemini MARS specifically like to use “big words” to try to outsmart their opponent 

💜 significant 8th house placements (personal planets or stellium) are psychic istg

💜 people with mercury aspecting their asc, (also sagittarius mercury and pisces mercury) are often multilingual or have an interest in other languages

💜 I see way too many children with their sun/moon sign being the sign of one of the parent’s moon or 5th house cusp for me to not make this note

💜 people with the same rising sign get along well EXCEPT leo risings i’ve noticed! I think it has to do with them being leaders and liking the attention on them. If there’s two leo risings in the same room, they’ll most likely clash.

💜 cancer placements are truly very caring, but often practice “tough love”

💜 pisces suns with aquarius mercury are the most logical pisces

💜  I have never seen funnier arguments than those between a sagittarius and a gemini. These two are often bickering constantly, but lightheartedly. 

💜 sagittarius 4th house natives moved a lot during their childhood

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Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

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Ok I'm living for the fact that Gemini sun is 'bitching about' because it's so incredibly true in almost all situations

During the Lockdown I’ll be Sadly Punching Anger Itself ✨😅✨

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My actual goals are to be so successful & independent that I can spoil myself and my family and do what I love and go where I want whenever.

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bird watching goes both ways

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I don’t trust men who glorify ‘low maintenance’ women who ‘don’t ask for much’. You just want someone you can put in as little effort as possible for, who will be excited over the tinest bare minimum things you do for her because she doesn’t know any better and doesn’t value herself enough

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what is it about me sitting in my little corner of the Internet and saying “I actually don’t hate myself as an adult now and I want to be nice to people and that’s my entire thing” that makes these anons start foaming at the mouth

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MOOD

honestly there is some comfort in the fact that there are a lot of people who are trying to get themselves back in gear after whatever last year was, but are feeling lost because they don't exactly know how

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I love this so much

Athena blessed her with the ability to protect herself and men beheaded her for it.

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Lol the shade