do you like fictional relationships because it’s cute or because you have a romanticized version of life and you’ve never really been loved by anyone before and you’re desperate to be so recklessly in love that everybody get sick just looking at you and your soulmate and now you’re living vicariously through a fictional character’s life just to feel something and there’s this frightening feeling building up inside you of but what if I don’t ever get to experience being loved like that and you don’t know just what went wrong in your life for you to be jealous over fictional characters
Hi! I’ve been a huge fan of your blog for a long while - sorry if this is a weird question, but you’re the only person I can think to ask.
What was my favourite show introduced a plot point that I absolutely hated. It ruined the season for me and possibly the whole show. I wrote a fix-fic, two in fact, but I still can’t help feeling bitter and upset over where canon went. It’s like I’m still hyperfixated on the show even though I hate it.
The show’s future is currently up in the air, and most of the fandom is actively campaigning to save it. And I feel awful but I really don’t want it renewed; the next season would probably be a direct follow-on to that plot point I hated and most of the fandom is rooting for that.
So I guess my question would be - how do I move on? What can I do to get over this feeling?
Oof. I wish I knew what to tell you anon. I also left my last fandom because I wasn't enjoying canon anymore and it really hurt a lot. I didn't want to leave behind the lovely people I'd met in the fandom, but I also didn't want to see anything to do with the new episodes and seasons. I struggled with it for a long time before just sort of abandoning ship.
I still love the first few seasons and I'll always love the characters, but I had to stop looking at anything new. I also ended up stopping writing and reading fic and making fanart. It left a big hole where all of that joy used to be, and I'm still trying to figure out how to fill it back up again.
In my case, I had a really good friend who felt similarly to me, and we just sort of went off and did our own thing. We write together and we've tried out new canons and new characters and new ships and it's not the same as that old love, but it's still good. Hopefully I'll find something I feel that passionately about again someday.
I recommend you find someone you can vent to about your feelings. It doesn't have to be someone who knows the fandom at all. Just someone who's willing to listen to you rant about how something you loved is now something you hate.
That's about as far as I've managed to get and I still miss it so much even though it's been arguably a long time. But it's easier now than it was when it was fresh and it'll get easier for you too. I know it ❤
Have any of you had experiences with this? How did you move on when canon disappointed you too much? How did you find happiness again on the other side?