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shout to men who struggle with anger. the men who beat themselves up without letting anyone else know they're in pain. the men who try to put on a tough facade, and it exhausts them. the men who just want and need someone to protect help, and support them.

to the men whose anger hides their sadness, shame, guilt, and loss - whose anger denies their need to be loved, vulnerable, and safe. and to the men who have yet to realize how much they're struggling - not knowing they are held in all these words:

you do not deserve to be in pain. it is okay to feel emotions. it is okay for others to hear your thoughts, and support you through your worries and woes. you deserve to be supported, and protected when you're in danger. and i promise, it won't be this way forever. there is hope. there are people who will care for you - genuinely.

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maybe this is a fundamental difference in moral views because i think oppression isn't bad because it harms certain groups, it's bad because it harms people. it DOES harm specific groups, and that's a necessary part of understanding it, but the mistreatment is the problem, not the fact that that mistreatment is unfairly distributed

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It does bug me when I see the phrase "white, western modes of gender" in this discourse.

I mean it's not WRONG, I just feel the implication that non-Western cultures are leaps and bounds ahead on their conception of gender doesn't hold up to closer scrutiny.

Trans women on Bird App are apparently digging into a publication about Hijra (a "third gender" from India), pointing out that the othering of people who were ostensibly trans women isn't progressive and shouldn't make them a different gender.

It's almost as though the tides are starting to turn and people are looking at these "third genders" critically, saying "hey wait a minute", and realizing that they're just categories used to isolate LGBT people from everyone else.

But still not quite. Not yet anyway.

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Grim.

#Australia #news #real life

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starting to think we need to put the word "liberal" up on the shelf

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I appreciate that this guy is doing A Bit,

but as someone who has occasionally veered towards this IRL

don't actually do this.

#for mental health purposes

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incest cw

every time I remember that incest between consenting adults is like, literally a criminal offense in the US that you can go to jail for blows my mind

like obviously it’s virtually unenforceable and when it occurs between knowing parties it’s likely in some really sick and distressing contexts, but it’s still wild to think how many people I’ve known who grew up with best friends and neighbors who were secretly their half-siblings. one of my coworkers never knew that her bff was actually her sister until they were in their fifties and happened to get DNA tests just for funzies long after their parents died. if they’d been lovers and didn’t break up after their discovery could someone have reported them? could it lead to arrest? what would that court case even look like?

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I actually have a very powerful fear of dying, more than enough to outweigh any mental issues and prevent them from turning into suicidal thoughts.

If I was in a fantasy magic setting, I would be the guy who has to struggle against the temptation to obsessively seek eternal life (which would of course come at a great cost, to myself or others)

That either works out to option 3 or option 6; I chose 6.

Checking in.

The last time I asked is here.

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I feel like a lot of people in the notes are saying that this is rank hypocrisy to talk about treating people with basic respect in the same sentence as saying that they're like your pet

But I also think that OP posted this searching for the angle that cishet men deserve LESS respect, because they're out here being congratulated for doing the bare minimum

(sidenote for OP: I'm sure you can appreciate the difference between something that is congratulatory or uplifting, and something that looks that way but is actually horribly patronising)

But yeah OP is a garden-variety misandrist, so don't expect them to agree with you if you think cishet men might actually deserve a bit better than this.

i dont have a funny caption for this one. lmfao

#misandry

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Radfems also say "people with penises" all the time, mostly because they seem to believe the penis itself is an instrument of oppression.

Like the first person I ever saw use the term "penised people" wasn't a Woke Trans Agenda type activist or an organisation allegedly browbeaten by the same, it was John Stoltenberg, widower of Andrea Dworkin.

“Why is it people with uteruses and never people with penises?!”

Quickly walk into a planned parenthood grab a pamphlet about the services they offer and you will see the terms ‘people with penises’ ‘people with prostates’ and ‘people with testicles’

You just ignore it bc it doesn’t fit your transmisogynistic narrative of trans women ‘erasing womanhood’

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Men!!!

We don't appreciate men enough. I used to be the kind of bi woman who was ashamed of my own attraction to men due to the misandry and internalized biphobia perpetrated on social media.

To make up for that, here's some love.

Gods, the feeling of holding a man's hand is so nice. Bigger hands? They make me feel safe and secure. Smaller hands? Our hands fit perfectly within each other.

Oh dear are men's eyes gorgeous. I love looking into their eyes. All eye colors are beautiful but what encapsulates me is the designs in their eyes. Not to mention a lot of men have long and pretty eyelashes—perfect for making wishes with.

Men's bodies are great, and not just in a sexual way. I love hugging and cuddling with them to share our body heat. I love being close to them because their bodies are soft. When being held by them I feel like I could stay there forever.

There are so many amazing physical traits of men that I appreciate and love so much. However, that's not all that there is to them. Men are not just their bodies. They have minds, hearts, and souls which also need love.

I love speaking them. Not only do so many of their voices just make me feel better, but it's also fun to exchange knowledge. I like knowing what they know and knowing how and where they learn. I can find out how their minds work and what interests them.

Hearing them talk about things they love is so sweet. When they go on for half an hour about something that they're interested in (or that they hyperfixate on) makes me happy knowing that they're talking about something that makes me happy.

To everyone reading, appreciate the men in your life and tell them why. Tell them what about them makes you happy and content. They deserve it.

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who’s left- Mariame/Prison Abolition

by Flynn Nicholls

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Like are you going to sublimate all efforts to aid middle class white women because the system falls harder on black women?

I am going to keep banging on this drum until it gets annoying, but the answer to this is "yes."

The core problem of intersectional feminism is that it does exactly this, every time, and nobody seems to see anything wrong with it.

I guess giving men the Original Sin of creating patriarchy is pretty much the same principle applied in reverse - men don't deserve help because they suffer the least ("least" is an arbitrary metric derived from whatever concerns the most oppressed demographics in particular)

once again just preserving the insane takes here on tumblr dot com. Like yeah the specific guy you're talking to who's been harmed by this shit in some way personally created the last several thousand years of gender relations. girl i think you might be talking to a vampire, you're in danger, run!

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In order to hold more abusive parents/guardians accountable, we also need to be listening to the teenagers that are speaking out against their parents

Some of these teenagers are suffering and they might get the courage to say something, only to be completely dismissed

I think for some people it's easier to imagine that they're just being angsty teens and they'll mature and eventually see that their parents were in the right rather than acknowledge that some parents just aren't good people

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One wonders what sort of things were considered devils before we started advocating for them...

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DAMN but J.K.'s slope has been a slippery one.

if you're just joining us, george takei is having to educate jk rowling on holocaust denial

#radical feminism #holocaust denial #nazism #j.k. rowling

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Great idea. Let's make rape convictions a guaranteed death sentence, then watch amazed as the number of false accusations against black men freaking skyrockets.

Men bitch about society "overlooking" male SA victims because feminists "don't care about men who get raped," as if feminism isn't the entire reason rape is considered harassment and the victims are considered victims in the first place.