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reminder:

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“I am not the whiskey you want, I am the water you need.”

— Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

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“The right one for you will move mountains to be with you—he won’t hide behind them.”

— Mandy Hale, The Single Woman

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@hanneketsujimaru

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when he says “ily”, but Achilles once said “i would recognize you in total darkness, were you mute and i deaf. i would recognize you in another lifetime entirely, in different bodies, different times. and i would love you in all of this, until the very last star in the sky burnt out into oblivion."

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when they’re fucking you and they ask “who do you belong to??” 🥵🥵🥵

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Ropes+Roses

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Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by

Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.

You. Are. Overstimulated.

People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.

These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.

Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time

Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!

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“If someone does not want me, it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.”

— Nayyirah Waheed

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via instagram

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“If you light a lamp for someone else it will also brighten your path.”

— Unknown

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“I can’t think of anything I’d rather have more than somebody loving me.”

— Sue Monk Kidd

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“You said you liked storms, so I let you in. Turns out you only like a little rain, and I am a hurricane.”

— Unknown