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fem strade is a fat bi butch who knows her way around a home depot, keeps a carabiner on her belt loop and doesn't wear a bra. if you even care.

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Shout out to all the Black ppl that can no longer participate directly in the fandom they love because of the stresses of racism 👍🏾 you contain multitudes of value and I'm sorry that the color of your skin and the power of your voice makes people not want to acknowledge that.

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Hey, don't cry. A single thread in a tapestry, though its color brightly shines, can never see its purpose in the pattern of the grand design, ok?

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"Kill them with kindness" WRONG. drop the opera house chandelier on them.

#hubband

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So what I’ve learned from the past couple months of being really loud about being a bi woman on Tumblr is: A lot of young/new LGBT+ people on this site do not understand that some of the stuff they’re saying comes across to other LGBT+ people as offensive, aggressive, or threatening. And when they actually find out the history and context, a lot of them go, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry, I never meant to say that.”

Like, “queer is a slur”: I get the impression that people saying this are like… oh, how I might react if I heard someone refer to all gay men as “f*gs”. Like, “Oh wow, that’s a super loaded word with a bunch of negative freight behind it, are you really sure you want to put that word on people who are still very raw and would be alarmed, upset, or offended if they heard you call them it, no matter what you intended?”

So they’re really surprised when self-described queers respond with a LOT of hostility to what feels like a well-intentioned reminder that some people might not like it. 

That’s because there’s a history of “political lesbians”, like Sheila Jeffreys, who believe that no matter their sexual orientation, women should cut off all social contact with men, who are fundamentally evil, and only date the “correct” sex, which is other women. Political lesbians claim that relationships between women, especially ones that don’t contain lust, are fundamentally pure, good, and  unproblematic. They therefore regard most of the LGBT community with deep suspicion, because its members are either way too into sex, into the wrong kind of sex, into sex with men, are men themselves, or somehow challenge the very definitions of sex and gender. 

When “queer theory” arrived in the 1980s and 1990s as an organized attempt by many diverse LGBT+ people in academia to sit down and talk about the social oppressions they face, political lesbians like Jeffreys attacked it harshly, publishing articles like “The Queer Disappearance of Lesbians”, arguing that because queer theory said it was okay to be a man or stop being a man or want to have sex with a man, it was fundamentally evil and destructive. And this attitude has echoed through the years; many LGBT+ people have experience being harshly criticized by radical feminists because being anything but a cis “gold star lesbian” (another phrase that gives me war flashbacks) was considered patriarchal, oppressive, and basically evil.

And when those arguments happened, “queer” was a good umbrella to shelter under, even when people didn’t know the intricacies of academic queer theory; people who identified as “queer” were more likely to be accepting and understanding, and “queer” was often the only label or community bisexual and nonbinary people didn’t get chased out of. If someone didn’t disagree that people got to call themselves queer, but didn’t want to be called queer themselves, they could just say “I don’t like being called queer” and that was that. Being “queer” was to being LGBT as being a “feminist” was to being a woman; it was opt-in.

But this history isn’t evident when these interactions happen. We don’t sit down and say, “Okay, so forty years ago there was this woman named Sheila, and…” Instead we queers go POP! like pufferfish, instantly on the defensive, a red haze descending over our vision, and bellow, “DO NOT TELL ME WHAT WORDS I CANNOT USE,” because we cannot find a way to say, “This word is so vital and precious to me, I wouldn’t be alive in the same way if I lost it.” And then the people who just pointed out that this word has a history, JEEZ, way to overreact, go away very confused and off-put, because they were just trying to say.

But I’ve found that once this is explained, a lot of people go, “Oh wow, okay, I did NOT mean to insinuate that, I didn’t realize that I was also saying something with a lot of painful freight to it.”

And that? That gives me hope for the future.

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at my sketchbook. straight up “drawing it”. and by “it”, haha, well. let’s justr say. Nothing

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DaanLevi Month 9 Kisses 😘

Already done kiss as illustration but what about animation 😎

#I have thought about this every single day since i've seen it #fear & hunger termina #f&h daan #f&h levi #daanlevi

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they should invent a place you can live that your parents also arent living at

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having an oc you havent drawn / written about publicly yet that only exist as a concept is so funny. i have special access to this limited edition guy from my brain

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Gonna stream in 15 minutes! i've had a rough day so just gonna draw and chill

I stream on discord bc it's what's easiest for me, here's my stream server! I'm usually muted and just playing music while drawing, no pressure to be in vc/present

#probably drawing strade /btd or commissions but possibly also funger may appear

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Hi! I’m sorry to bother you here, your DM’s are locked but I’m trying so hard to find your Twitter pfp in full and I can’t, do you still have the image? Hope you’re doing well!

Hello! My twitter PFP is a gift from @6robotmonster6 for my birthday last year!

I'll post it here, but I'd appreciate if it's not used for icons anywhere else, since it was for me from Reed, and I like using is as my icon regularly! I don't mind if others save it, just don't use it! Thanks!

#Reed if you want me to take it down I will haha

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I’ve been trying to post art here for days but Tumblr will not let me, I don’t know why , the posts just never post !

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#I’m always saying this

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Rage. In my heart. All-consuming. FUCK AI.

#troll post or not I think it makes a good point #ai does not have the nuance we do and to make art represent something #also if you touch mr harrings art like that you are dead to me

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[on the verge of having a complete breakdown] i need to make some kind of list or perhaps sort things into categories

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Hey!!! Finally made a graphic for my fanfiction commissions!

If you're interested, just hit me up with a message on here or my Twitter. You can also check out my Ao3 here!

My specialties are horror writing and smut, but I can also do other genres as well. I also don't really hate any pairing outside of what falls under my Wills/Won'ts.