fucking-relax

[fucking-relax]

anger is a pain. treat it like the injury it is:

you feel angry (you feel pain)

stop, take a moment to gather yourself and breathe deeply (stop, take a moment to apply first aid to your wound)

find the root cause of your anger; what brought your anger about and how come? (find what caused your injury; what hurt you, what type of wound?)

what can you do to regain control? try not to fuel the anger with violence; mitigate by being gentle to yourself and others (what can you do to keep you safe from further and future injury? what further treatment do you need? try not to aggravate your wound; be gentle and cautious)

accept you've done all you can, continue to breathe deeply, and find comfort away from anger and violence (accept you have done all you can and continue to take care of yourself)

[fucking-relax]

if you're wearing a binder right now

sit/stand up straight

relax your shoulders

chest out

take a deep breath in all the way down to your belly

exhale slowly

and another deep breath

and out again

[fucking-relax]

wiggle your shoulders and stretch your neck

and unclench your jaw

[fucking-relax]

point and flex your feet ten times or until satisfied,

rotate your ankles in each direction ten times in each direction or until satisfied,

give 'em a little shake!

[fucking-relax]

shake out your wrists and flex your fingers; do what you need to make them feel better

and unclench your jaw

[fucking-relax]

slow blink (like a cat)

[fucking-relax]

take in a deep breath.

now breathe out.

feel the fucking nonsense float away.

take full, deep breaths.

breathe in stength...

breathe out bullshit.

allow your breathing to find its own natural, unhurried pace.

with each breath, feel your body saying:

fuck that

(full Fuck That meditation here)

[fucking-relax]

it is alright to have boundaries

it is alright to say no

it is alright to keep boundaries

[fucking-relax]

That Fucking Point Between Your Eyebrows. Your Brows As A Whole. Relax Them.

start in the middle and massage away towards your hairline

follow along the brow and above the forehead

rub your temples and cheekbones while you're at it, any sore points

move your neck and body as needed but fucking relax

[fucking-relax]

eat when you’re hungry,

rest when you’re tired.

you don’t need to “earn it”

[fucking-relax]

have you brushed your teeth today?

find what works for you. i ask myself "which feels better":

electric toothbrush or acoustic toothbrush?

flavorful toothpaste, sensitive teeth toothpaste, or something else?

string floss or a single-use floss pick? fancy water floss machine?

staring intently in the mirror, scrolling media, or something else?

brushing your teeth anytime during the day is better than nothing. flossing your teeth when you're able (personally i went from none to once a week to every two days) is better than nothing.

heck, brush your teeth now if you can or set an alarm for when you have access.

[fucking-relax]

unhinge your jaw (like a snake)

[fucking-relax]

hey remember when you were feeling anxious, frustrated, panicked, whatever that emotion was, and then

you set a timer for 30 minutes and stretched and worked out aerobically? and while the core struggle isn't gone, it didn't feel so scary anymore?

this is your reminder that it helped. you should probably do it again, and give yourself a sticker about it

[fucking-relax]

when your body is stiff/aching,

try slowly stretching it out.

if you stretch too far to point of pain, back off to point of ache and hold it there for a bit.

body may still hurt but at least it’s at a higher threshold now.

[fucking-relax]

have you brushed your teeth today?

find what works for you. i ask myself "which feels better":

electric toothbrush or acoustic toothbrush?

flavorful toothpaste, sensitive teeth toothpaste, or something else?

string floss or a single-use floss pick? fancy water floss machine?

staring intently in the mirror, scrolling media, or something else?

brushing your teeth anytime during the day is better than nothing. flossing your teeth when you're able (personally i went from none to once a week to every two days) is better than nothing.

heck, brush your teeth now if you can or set an alarm for when you have access.

[fucking-relax]

slow blink (like a cat)

[fucking-relax]

take in a deep breath.

now breathe out.

feel the fucking nonsense float away.

take full, deep breaths.

breathe in stength...

breathe out bullshit.

allow your breathing to find its own natural, unhurried pace.

with each breath, feel your body saying:

fuck that

(full Fuck That meditation here)