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Nash01778 from SeekingArrangement

First time being back on Seeking and I got stood up for the first time ever.. he told me he was unpartnered and does not have children. He came to India when he was really young.. he told me to pick a date/time and lunch location to meet. He was already running 20 mins behind and I think he might've drove past by me and saw me waiting. I asked if he was okay with parking.. after 10 mins of no response saying he was close, he said he had an emergency and had to head back home? I feel dumb for apologizing but the fact that he did not bother to follow up with me a whole 24 hours I knew he was playing games. Says he's a well known construction engineer in the Weston and Lexington, MA area but he should've said he's also a well known POS. BEWARE LADIES! I've chatted with one potential SD to let them know how I just came back and got stood up.. told me if he said it was an "emergency" that usually means his wife has him by the balls. I'm trying really hard not to give up since I JUST got back on Seeking but the Boston bowl is getting me real down.

#sugarbaby #seekingarrangement #sugarbowl #sugardaddy #blacklist #bostonsugar

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KindaFunny on SeekingArrangement

He's been on SA for YEARS and he does the same thing.. asks to see your pics then block you. Why does SA let this man exist? He's Asian, 38 and apparently has children and a wife. He's definitely on SA just to troll but if you ever met him.. I would love to know .

#sugarbaby #seekingarrangement #sugardaddy #blacklist #sugarbowl #bostonsugar

[eastcoastsugar]

If any SB ever feels like they can't tell a friend where they are, feel free to message me with your information or something for safety so SOMEONE knows.. Your secrets are safe with me, and REBLOG if you also are willing to be a confidant for someone who doesn't have one.

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Tezman aka 'Cam' from SeekingArrangement

I decided to drive an hour outside of the city to meet '"Cam".. First of all, he's verified on SA which still doesn't mean shit. I asked him what he did for work and he said, "I don't do anything". He ended up blocking me as soon as I came out the bathroom. He texted me saying he was still out waiting for me after we saw each other for a quick minute. I had a feeling he would disappear but the nerve to not say he wasn't interested or that he might've been a Splenda daddy considering he smelled when I came in for a hug. Do yourself a favor and do NOT engage with this man on SA in Tynsborough/Nashua/Manchester area. I think he deleted his profile too but beware. He texted me from Whatsapp and sent me a half face pic... weirdo alert. I feel so dumb coming out this far for no reason. I also just came back from SA after not being in the sugar bowl for 5 years so I could really use some advice from the sugar community... UGH!

#sugarbaby #seekingarrangement #blacklist #sugarbowl #bostonsugar

[eastcoastsugar]

How do you get men to wanting to care for you and help you? It doesn't matter what kind of men I meet, bf/pot/sub they don't want to give me money, they don't want to give me any gifts and they don't want to help with anything. And I don't get it? It's like I am so strong that I should manage by myself. But I never do the whole independent woman thing, on the contrary I really try to be feminine, I ask for help, I show appreciation when they do things for me etc. What am I doing wrong?

You are either picking up men in the wrong place or your “look/appearance” is not giving off a “kept woman” vibe. You get men wanting to take care of you by looking and acting as if you’re already being taken care of.  

You have to look like it, act like it.You have to eat, sleep and breathe it. You have to EMBODY it.

Giving you a “script” or phrases to say doesn’t always work because certain words don’t have the same effect on every man. 

For instance some guys love damsels in distress. (aka “captain save-a-hoe” types). If you approach them with a tragic, sad story they’ll leap at the opportunity to help you. 

But every guy isn’t like that. 

Some guys love the bossy, princess type. They love a girl that’s a bit demanding, bitchy and takes no shit. 

Both of these guys will “keep” you. But they will do it for different reasons. And if you try to use a “bossy princess tactic” on a “captain save-a-hoe” type it’s not going to work. He’s going to get turned off and will probably cut off contact with you. Or he’ll pretend as if he’ll assist you and then never come through. 

Words are not the most effective way to IMPLANT the idea into a man’s head that you want to be kept. 

Most people don’t really hear you when you speak. Everyone has “selective hearing”. They hear what they want to hear. 

So what do you do?

You show them better than you can tell them. 

It’s 80% of how you present yourself and 20% of what you say. 

Haven’t you ever made up your mind about someone or made a judgement about a person before they even opened their mouth to speak?

Your words merely back up your actions. 

You have to dress like a kept woman. This doesn’t mean you have to be draped in Chanel but you do need to be put together. Looking put together is SO fucking important. Look at how the “rich women” in your area are dressing and presenting themselves. Are you doing the same? Everyone has their own unique style but the common theme is that they are put together from head to toe. Be honest. Are you doing this? ALL of this? Hair. Eyebrows. Skin. Teeth. Makeup. Posture. Perfume. Properly fitting outfit. Manicured nails. Quality handbag and shoes (it doesn’t have to be designer).

When you look like a million bucks you attract a million bucks. There are quite a few videos on YouTube about how to look expensive on a budget. Watch them and take notes. 

You have to act like a kept woman. How would you act if you were already being sponsored? What would your hobbies be? Where would you go? What would you do?

Begin incorporating it into your lifestyle. And don’t think it has to be expensive either. It costs absolutely nothing to walk around Saks Fifth Avenue. 

Now where are you finding your men?

I know you’re on a lot of online sites. I urge you to diversify and begin freestyling and to also change the pictures that you’re using. If they’re head-shots or body-shots of you in some random location or in front of a plain background/wall they’ve got to go. 

A picture is worth a thousand words and you need to set your narrative: 

A picture of you in an upscale hotel lobby.

A picture of you in front of a high end department store (with the name of the store in the picture with a shopping bag in your hand)

A picture of you in an expensive restaurant at the bar with a pretty drink.

A picture of you holding a bouquet of flowers, box of chocolates, etc. 

And when a man sees that type of profile with those kinds of pictures, he’s not going to think “wow she’s an independent woman getting it on her own”. He’s going to think “there’s some man paying for all of that and if I want to get with her, I’m going to have to do the same.” 

And THEN when you start to ask for things, he wont be surprised. But you have to set this precedent from the very beginning.  

He doesn’t want to give you what you want? Thankyou, NEXT. 

I personally like to start off like this:

2 Dates at a NICE restaurant (do not accept drink dates).

Then I start asking for gifts. Maybe a dress for our next date. Or 2 dozen roses. Or chocolate truffles. Nothing too crazy as long as it sends the message that I am a luxury, I like luxury things and you will spend your money when you’re around me. 

It doesn’t matter if he’s a captain save a hoe type, bossy princess type or something else. NO MAN should have a problem with buying gifts for his lady.

He has a problem with it? THANKYOU NEXT.

After a few gifts, I ask for a small bill to be paid. Then I keep working my way up.  

And do not be afraid to “act dumb”:

“What do you mean you didn’t give your past girlfriends gifts??? Didn’t you want to do something sweet for her?” *look confused* What do you mean you never took your former Mistress/Domme shopping?? I thought you liked showing your appreciation? *look confused?*What do you mean that’s all you gave your previous sugar baby?? Didn’t you want to help her out more? *LOOK FUCKING CONFUSED*

You do not have to act bitchy or demanding (unless he’s in to that)You do not have to beg or plead.You do not have to act overly sweet. 

You simply say this as “matter of factly” as you can with a straight face. 

He’s going to feel like an ass and is either going to cave within 24 hours or disappear out of your life.

You have to set the standard from the beginning.  

And you can not waver from it. You have to be ruthless and willing to cut him off with the quickness if he will not meet your demands.

You don’t have to be mean. Just stop giving him attention.

A kept woman does not “ask”, she expects.

She expects you to take her on shopping trips.She expects you to take her dining at upscale restaurants.She expects you to take her on luxury vacations.She expects you to take care of her financially.

That is simply the “cost” of dating her.

When I look at both my successes and failures I noticed that every time I failed it was because I acted like a woman that WANTED to be a kept woman. Every time I succeeded it was because I acted like woman that IS a kept woman. 

There is a difference.

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1/19/18

I have been talking to a potential sugar daddy in his late 30s that’s looking on SA. Apparently... his wife is interested in a third person in the relationship like I’m some unicorn. I mean, I wouldn’t mind being a unicorn. But... he’s telling me his wife isn’t comfortable with someone that’s really young (I’m 21, young, yeah). He’s telling me his wife is uncomfortable with my age, but I’m apparently her type? We plan on meeting next week (just me and him) for coffee... not sure on a set date yet because our schedules are crazy. Anyways, I’m not sure if his wife is jealous due to my age or she feels threatened? I’ll be pretty upset if me and him don’t work out after talking about how excited we are to meet each other and that we have a lot of things in common in terms of music like The Killers and/or post-punk revival music in general. Plus, he’s really attractive for his age. I really wanna know if I’m wasting my time talking to this guy that’s married and has a wife that won’t let him have arrangement, but am comfortable with each other going to adult island resorts!??!!?!?

[eastcoastsugar]

Hey honeybees,

I am starting my spring semester classes on the 22nd of this month and I’m extremely nervous. I am two semesters away from finishing my bachelor’s degree and I am super antsy, but excited. I’ve been spending this winter break really re-evaluating my life and what my desires are. The past year I completely gave up on finding a SD because I felt like I was wasting my time and didn’t want to go through the hassle of finding the “right” guy.

I am currently talking to two potential SDs right now and they’re waiting for me to be back at school, so we can meet and hopefully set an arrangement. I haven’t been in an arrangement in a little over a year, so I feel completely new to everything.

I already have a day outfit and a night outfit to wear and a date hasn’t been 100% confirmed yet, but I’m ALSO nervous about meeting one of them. I’m hoping the one that I’m attracted to, he’s roughly 39 y/o and really good looking, BUT he’s married (so our convos are sporadic) works out in the end. I feel like I should definitely keep talking to multiple heads to keep my options open, but I have REALLY high hopes for this guy.

FINGERS FUCKING CROSSED!!!!!!!!!!

#sugarbowl #sugardaddy #seekingarrangement

[eastcoastsugar]

Sugar baby friends

I’m looking for sugar baby friends in the Boston area.

Update: I just got out of a shitty relationship and I am glad to be back in the sugar bowl.

YA GIRL IS FINALLY 21 TOO BTW!

And if there’s a #sdblacklist please tell me!

#sugarbaby

[eastcoastsugar]

New Year

So it sounds crazy, but I am going back to school next week. I haven’t been sugaring, mostly just working at my old job. I’d still like to make some new friends if anyone is interested.

Stay cozy!

*fingers crossed*

#sugarbowl #sugarbaby

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[eastcoastsugar]

Literally guys on SA do this shit to me at least 8 times then get annoyed with me and block me. Pathetic asses.

Yes, I saw it. Maybe try saying literally a single word to me first next time?

Is it rude for me to suggest that?

[eastcoastsugar]

I wanna meet SBs in Boston, so I can freestyle, but I've never done it before. I need help.

[eastcoastsugar]

Things I give a fuck about

1. Making money 2. My edges 3. My eyebrows 4. Keeping my knees n elbows hydrated 5. Finding natural hair products when they on sale.

What I DON’T give a fuck about

1. FuckBoys 2. FuckMen 3. FuckDads 4. FuckBros 5. FuckBretherens

Fuck you thought?

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yasss

POT date from Craigslist last night. We have so much in common, he’s easy to talk to and he’s attractive. We agreed on $2800 a month, not including gifts, vacays or dinner obvi. He said he’d let me borrow his BMW next time he’s outta town for business. Lets see 😏.

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👋🏾 #sugarbaby #sugarbowl #sugardaddy

[eastcoastsugar]

Stroke a mans dick you get him for a night, stroke a mans ego you get him for life.

Perfect stranger (via thespoiledmoroccan)