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"You Missed the Point by Idolizing Them" Starter Pack

#all he wanted was some marmalade 😩

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Hiking is an extreme sport with winners and losers and the prize is the friends we made along the way

#I always win #because I play alone 😂

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and now, a word about dick size

(if you need to take breaks to giggle like you’re twelve in health class, it’s ok, it’s fine, there’s a whole lotta dick ahead)

I was chatting with @wordcubed about various things that annoy us about fanfic (and, to be honest, professional fic too, except we are both goblins who mostly huddle in our caves reading fanfic). I brought up how when it comes to dick size in fanfic, it’s like the famous closing line about Lake Wobegon: everyone is above average.

I don’t think the Standard Deviation Above Normal Dick should be the only dick in fanfic, and I would like to do my bit for king and country to spread the word that All Dicks Are Good Dicks. But the problem is there doesn’t seem to be a way to talk about even average dicks that is sexy and flattering.

Like I can write about big tiddies, small tiddies, flat tiddies, uneven tiddies, in-between tiddies, and make every one of them sound good in their own way. There is an array of sexy and positive words to choose from for all kinds of shapes of tiddy.

Where is the positive/sexy language to talk about dicks that doesn’t just come down to how big they are? I’m not positively saying it doesn’t exist, but it’s damned few and far between.

I have plenty of dicks in the M and E rated fics I have written that I am personally imagining as either average or even below average, but what I generally end up doing is basically not writing about the size at all—in that sense, it’s only conspicuous that there isn’t the “my goodness gracious this dick is AT LEAST in the 30th percentile” that seems de rigeur in other smut.

So how can a writer say “his dick was average” in a sexy way?! Can it be done? Do we have the technology???

I mean it can’t be fun for people who have dicks to constantly hear that the only acceptable dick is an above average dick? Because, like, by definition, that means that the majority of dicks are not acceptable.

All I’m saying is that gosh, there ought to be room in erotica for average or even smaller than average dicks where the dick size isn’t a fetish, just as there are all kinds of other sizes and shapes of people in erotica where those sizes and shapes are not themselves a fetish.

#🤔 #if people try to turn this into some kind of shaming like jacking off to spiritually in tune people I’m going to lose it though #but this is good for education purposes #so people aren’t disappointed by their actual partners #I’ve been with guys with big dicks and they don’t know what they’re doing and guys with small dick that know what they’re doing #it’s really the partner who makes the sex good #and communication #nsfw paper cylinders 😂

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That showering poll really helps me understand why cons smell so bad

It’s not to be mean. I understand shower triggers a lot of things and takes up time and energy and they aren’t always accessible. A lot of nerds are neurodivergent and have anxiety. Basically, they fit the mold of why someone wouldn’t shower daily.

I’m connecting the dots. Maybe I should conduct a study.

#are you a fan of comics or anime? #how often do you shower? #do you attend conventions or meet ups? #the card game players are a big one too #a friend told me his first and last Pokemon game the guy he played against smelled so bad he gave up

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#these answers scare me #every damn day #I’m also a gym rat #and I work with dead people and peoples houses are nasty

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Being a girl is: wanting to go to bed early but deciding to just get on tumblr/wattpad/Ao3 for a little bit and then end up finding a fic series that you really like and read until well past your usual bedtime then keeping on because it’s already past your bedtime. Then being mad when you wake up in the morning because you overslept your timer.

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#banana is not an egg you know? #I have a milk allergy #I just accept that I can’t have certain things #and that’s that

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that's it. put on the pizza hut maid outfit.

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girl me too

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my mom warned me about these kinds of internet users

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im getting my oil changed and i heard the mechanic go "tee hee hee". whats happening

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Writing tips for long fics that helped me that no one asked for.

1.) Don't actually delete content from your WIP unless it is minor editing - instead cut it and put it in a secondary document. If you're omitting paragraphs of content, dialog, a whole scene you might find a better place for it later and having it readily available can really save time. Sometimes your idea was fantastic, but it just wasn't in the right spot.

2.) Stuck with wording the action? Just write the dialog then revisit it later.

3.) Stuck on the whole scene? Skip it and write the next one.

4.) Write on literally any other color than a white background. It just works. (I use black)

5.) If you have a beta, while they are beta-ing have them read your fic out loud. Yes, I know a lot of betas/writers do not have the luxury of face-timing or have the opportunity to do this due to time constraints etc but reading your fic out loud can catch some very awkward phrasing that otherwise might be missed. If you don't have a beta, you read it out loud to yourself. Throw some passion into your dialog, you might find a better way to word it if it sounds stuffy or weird.

6.) The moment you have an idea, write it down. If you don't have paper or a pen, EMAIL it to yourself or put it in a draft etc etc. I have sent myself dozens of ideas while laying down before sleep that I 10/10 forgot the next morning but had emailed them to myself and got to implement them.

7.) Remember - hits/likes/kudos/comments are not reflective of the quality of your fic or your ability to write. Most people just don't comment - even if they say they do, they don't, even if they preach all day about commenting, they don't, even if they are a very popular blog that passionately reminds people to comment - they don't comment (I know this personally). Even if your fic brought tears to their eyes and it haunted them for weeks and they printed it out and sent it to their friends they just don't comment. You just have to accept it. That being said - comment on the fic you're reading now, just do it, if you're 'shy' and that's why you don't comment the more you comment the better you'll get at it. Just do it.

8.) Remove unrealistic daily word count goals from your routine. I've seen people stress 1500 - 2000 words a day and if they don't reach that they feel like a failure and they get discouraged. This is ridiculous. Write when you can, but remove absurd goals. My average is 500 words a day in combination with a 40 hour a week job and I have written over 200k words from 2022-2023.

9.) There are dozens of ways to do an outline from precise analytical deconstruction that goes scene by scene to the minimalist bullet point list - it doesn't matter which one you use just have some sort of direction. A partial outline is better than no outline.

10.) Write for yourself, not for others. Write the fic you know no one is going to read. Write the fic that sounds ridiculous. You will be so happy you put it out in the world and there will be people who will be glad it exists.

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you're constantly horny aren't you

well no sometimes I am asleep

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Mice straight up go on missions and no body talks about it