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and i’m just gonna say it, re: this ”you’re not a real system” bs

you know what it’s called when you purposefully cause someone (strangers or otherwise) to doubt their memories? their history? their existence and their reality? you know what it’s called when you purposefully cause someone to sit there, anxiously going “well maybe they’re right and i’m wrong, maybe my experiences and feelings are wrong”? when it causes people to clam up in an effort to avoid further damage?

it’s called gaslighting

by refusing to listen to someone’s experiences and shutting them down

by telling someone they’re remembering things wrong, that their memories/histories are different than they remember

by trivializing what someone has experienced

by denying the fact that telling someone they don’t exist is harming them

by turning it around and making it about how they are supposedly harming you

by purposefully causing people to second-guess themselves; doubt their own feelings and experiences; doubt their own sanity; shut down/withhold information to avoid incidents, and cause confusion, a negative self-image, and anxiety

you are engaging in gaslighting

(and yes, even if you’ve been abused and have trauma, you can engage in this behavior, so let’s not even try and pretend)

let’s ALL knock it the hell off already, and quit telling other systems of ANY sort that they’re not real

#for fucking real guys

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@scrumss hey i love u, ur a wonderful friend and very fun to be around n talk to and stuff. heres some pale solrezi 

#angry young yellowblood #well #not so angry now #tz

[dracotroubadour]

i luv these 2 also…

#angry young yellowblood

[dracotroubadour]

You know what I think is humorously pathetic? When anti-otherkin use the word ‘otherkin’ (or ‘fictionkin’, ‘therian’ etc.) as a singular noun. I.e. "I think otherkin needs to see a doctor." Like we are all one individual, a hive mind. 

We are Otherkin.

We are legion.

#otherkin #fictionkin #we are coming for your souls #dwyer.txt #'i just think otherkin needs psychological help' and etc.

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Kin Poll

A lot of people on tumblr like to say “Ugh, otherkin are just idiot 12 year olds vying for attention!” So, out of curiosity, I’d like otherkin to reblog and put their ages in the tags!

(If you are young and otherkin, I’m not saying don’t do this. In fact, please do. I want an actual idea, not one based on just older kin reblogs. So if you are 12, 13, etc. please add your age anyways! Your age doesn’t make you any less valid.)

#nineteen #woohoo

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You don’t have to disclose your memories to anyone. It’s okay if you’re not interested in finding your canonmates, or find solace in starting over with those that didn’t know you back then.

This universe is a fresh start for some of us. It’s okay to focus on improving the person you are now, and as long as you’re learning and growing here, it’s not anyone else’s place to be the judge and jury of your past sins.

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there's something deeply satisfying about drawing yourself/your kintypes in clothes you really like

it feels... very comforting, somehow

#dwyer.txt

[dracotroubadour]

I was just talking about this with a friend and one thing I’d just like to say is that there are a lot of ways to be otherkin/fictionkin. Reincarnation/past life theory is just one theory among many and memories aren’t the be-all and end-all of being kin. 

And one thing that I find tumblr tends to focus a bit too much on are trying to gain memories and finding people from the past, rather than just focusing on the experience of being kin in the present. Sometimes it’s just best to step back and focus on the things that you experience here and now that make you feel like you are, or might be, otherkin.

So yeah, don’t stress too much over missing memories or having no memories at all because that’s just one way to be otherkin. Doesn’t make you any less for it. Look for other explanations/theories that fit better with what you think may be the reason/what you’re experiencing and just reflect on that. Don’t have to try and mold and lie to yourself to try and meet expectations from others because that’s the quickest way to an unhappy life brah. 

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submitted by @wizard-of-wind

#sleepy dragon

[dracotroubadour]

tulpa.io is another great place to hang around. Sure, the name says "tulpa", but they're equally open to all forms of plurality, including 'bonds. Plus, reading guides meant for tulpas and tulpamancers can still be super helpful!

Can you recommend any active soulbonding websites outside of tumblr? The community on here is getting a little too toxic for me to handle...

http://soulbonding.org/ Is the most active one that I know about. Beyond that I might recommend getting involved with the tulpa community which has significant crossover.

#bonding

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you thought you were in for a fun cool message but it was really me- Mom

#crowsandrobins

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I love that the form Giratina chooses to take in Pokémon’s standard dimension has doofy little caterpillar feet.

I think this turned out pretty good! I put a lot of work into it.

#archival dragon #the caterpillar feet are such an important part of the aesthetic How Dare You

[dracotroubadour]

A true gem

#angry young yellowblood #important signs of he

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子世代はディーアとフォレオがダントツグンバツだよ

#sleepy dragon

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執事親子！

#sleepy dragon #well MY kokoro has just been punched in the fucking face #sob

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[x] [x] [x]

Nap time.

#angry young yellowblood #i would still love to meet roxy tbh

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That’s not the first time I’ve seen someone worried that they’ll get in trouble with their friends for knowing doubles and…guys, that’s so unhealthy. It’s not okay. If two people can’t be near each other then they can block each other. It’s not your responsibility to cater your whole social circle to meet the needs of other people. If someone is uncomfortable with doubles, it’s their own responsibility to block them and avoid confrontation and discomfort.

If anyone tries to control who you’re friends with, that’s fucked up and unhealthy. Mental illness isn’t an excuse, insecurity isn’t an excuse. Asking for reasonable accommodations from friends is one thing, but making unreasonable demands is another. You are responsible for yourself in this situation. You do not get to decide who your friends can be friends with - that’s controlling and manipulative, end of.

#T H A N K Y O U #I can completely understand not wishing to speak to doubles #But I've seen at least one person say things along the lines of #'If you follow me you are not allowed to follow any doubles of me!' #After a point it stops being polite requests and starts being selfish demands #Controlling who a friend hangs out with is literally one of the textbook traits of an abuser #cw abuse