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Year in Review

Highlights of 2023

Ran half marathon

Played my first piano recital in over 10 years

Traveled to Chicago, Hawaii, Paris, Berlin, Philly, Boston (3x), Japan, and China

Got engaged!

Became comfortable driving 

Raised the most amount of money ever for Soulo ($50K!)

Started manufacturing my first product

Learned how to bake

Nature. I remember seeing the people surfing in Hawaii and being so mesmerized and in awe. Both of the sheer magnitude of the waves but also the fearlessness of the people riding them. I learned that I only truly feel relaxed & on vacation when I'm surrounded by nature.

Manufacturing & Materials. From my China-Japan trip I got to see the manufacturing plant and went to an exhibit about materials and where they come from. I want to think more about where products go.

Family. Family is a key theme this year - not only did I get closer to my parents, but Jon and I started establishing our larger extended family. We had a joint dinner between his family and my family and I also got to know Harrison a lot better.

Hosting & Cooking. This year I had a lot of people over for dinner and games, from Chinese New Year dinner, to mahjong, to friendsgiving and Jon's family. I truly enjoy feeling the warmth of everyone's presence and cooking for everyone and really tried a lot of new recipes. Next year, I want to continue to make these moments special.

Establishing life as a unit. Jonathan moved back to NYC to live with me at the beginning of April. We've fully meshed in our life and routine together and I slowly handed him more things to handle in our household. This involves establishing a cadence of who does what, grocery shopping, taking care of Totoro, cleaning the house etc.

Many of the 2023 themes carried over as well, such as sport and ambition, and valuing routine. I had wanted to establish a better relationship with food and I feel like achieved that to some extent but not fully. I still eat too much when eating out but overall, I'm much more conscious of when I'm overeating.

When I look back at my goals, I feel like I didn't end up accomplishing a lot of what I wanted to do - I didn't take that art class, or execute that personal project, or change jobs and accomplish anything career-wise or lose weight. I'm not upset about it - Soulo picked up a lot more this year in comparison to 2022 and that took up a lot of my bandwidth. I also think that with Jonathan's presence, I needed to dedicate quality time to him as well- like cuddling on the couch watching TV or cooking together etc.

2024 Goals

Become fluent & confident speaking in Chinese 

Start selling the Soulo Nail Trimmer commercially and make income

Learn an art (ceramics? print making?)

Execute a personal project (wedding)

Start to realize my parents' house

Get married and go on a honeymoon!

Career goals - find a new job (it's been almost 4 years at EY)

Lose weight - Still aiming for 115lbs

Visit my grandma more

Continue to improve our living space

Bake everything in my Baking Progression document

Themes for next year: I want to reconnect with my friends more. This year I felt like it was harder to keep in touch and maintain a close connection. When Jonathan is around, most of my time defaults to spending it with him, and I take him wherever I go. I want more 1:1 time with my girlfriends and be more mindful of what they need and do nice things/acts of service for them.

I also want to focus more on one thing at a time and stop spreading myself so thin. Maybe that's why I couldn't achieve the things I wanted to last year - I just had too much of everything going on to be able to dedicate myself fully to learning a new craft.

As Jonathan and I start our lives as a married couple soon, I want to be intentional about making time for us. It can be so hard to relax every night and be in the mood for sex. I realized that I'm only in the mood when I'm not overwhelmed with my to-do list. I want to create moments where we can put the to-do list and responsibilities aside and just focus on each other.

So here's to growth in 2024! By then I will be 27: I hope that I will be more mature, be at my peak fitness, have started a new job and progressed career-wise, earning side income from my startup, connecting more with my family, creating intentional time for my friends, and growing as a unit with Jonathan.

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Year in Review

Highlights of 2022

Totoro became an important part of my life and a part of my daily routine.

Getting promoted to senior, massive bonus and salary jump

I learned how to ski! Went 5x at the beginning of the year

Got my first patent!

Traveled to 5 different countries: Italy, France, Germany, UK, and Norway

Ran my first race of 4 miles!

I learned how to play tennis!

Drove by myself multiple times like for skiing or to Storm King Finally fixed the floor and ceiling, and installed lights

PISTE Benefit in October, designing the entire event and immediately seeing my work in public

Released a new version of the Soulo Nail Trimmer with new features and earned 1k in revenue

Travel and Relax. I went to 5 different countries. I learned to appreciate wine and became a part of the relaxed culture of Italy and France. And whenever I traveled, I had time to read and let time pass more slowly. I truly enjoyed and appreciated traveling and now have a desire to do more of it. 

Ambition and Sport. This year was all about being inspired by these accomplished athletes. Starting from watching Eileen Gu win the winter olympics, to getting closer with Nzingha, watching the US Open and tennis matches online, to the World Cup-- I realized that I wanted to feel moments of victory and loss and to work hard towards something that pushed my body to its limits. 

Valuing routine. With athleticism and sport, comes routine. I established a routine for once, and understood the value of it. My routine included taking care of Totoro, mandating myself to play piano, run, answer Evergreen Noom and other apps everyday. Fasting really helped with establishing routine and helped me regulate my eating schedule. Returning from travel made me realize that I only like temporary disruptions but ultimately still like to stick to a schedule.

Stronger friendships.  I feel like I have a solid friend group and people that I hang out with regularly. There were so many moments this past year when I felt so loved by my friends and I’m so grateful to have them in my life. 

Independence, freedom, and comfort in self. Part of the reason I was able to form stronger friendships was because I could go anywhere any time. I’m able to spontaneously pick myself up and get out the door. I found hobbies that were independent of my friends too, like running. And having Totoro at home made me more comfortable being at home/being alone now and doing what makes me happy and running on my own schedule. 

Relationship with my parents. Having my own space and being independent contributed to a better relationship with my parents. I think I’m able to communicate with them better, and we maintain Friday night dinners. 

Hard lessons in relationships. I learned how to navigate my relationships better. I was nervous about going into long distance this year and I’m glad Jon and I came out of 2022 stronger. I now know the pitfalls of ldr relationships and the key to maintaining them. It’s given me a lot more insight into other people’s relationships as well and I know what to do more proactively in the future to build stronger relationships.

2023 Goals

Fitness: I want to lose weight 115 lb (attempt 2x) and have a better relationship with food. This also means establishing a daily routine and sleep at a set time.

Career-wise: Get a job as a PM or get into Ycombinator, and decide what to do with Soulo - full time or license the IP?

Run a half marathon and continue to improve at tennis and badminton

Get better at jazz piano and perform at a recital

Try an art class (pick between painting, water color, sketching)

Execute 1 personal project

Continue to improve my apartment, make it more “designer” and less cluttered

Cook more intentionally and try new recipes

Read 1 book

In 2023, I would like to have a better relationship with food and be more disciplined. I want to have better eating habits. I want to stop mindlessly eating while watching TV or my phone. I want to stop using food as a way to compensate for my lack of sleep. I want to gauge when I feel close to full and stop eating to a point of discomfort. I want to stop following eating scripts like dessert after dinner, even though I’m already full. I want to stop feeling “food fomo” and getting food that I don’t really need just because I’m in the area. Food is becoming less enjoyable because of these bad habits and makes me feel gross which is really unfortunate. In 2023, I would like to be more in touch with my artistic side. I want to absorb more of the world, and take in the things around me. I want to take some art classes and explore new mediums and get creative with a personal project. And lastly, in 2023, I would like to be less anxious and to be more self aware of my anxiety and to control it. I don’t want to live anxiously, I want to live care free. 

I’m really looking forward to living with Jonathan again and sharing a space together. I’m excited to be able share more of my life with him and make memories together. I feel a little bit anxious about how we’ll adjust together, if he’ll like this apartment, and whether he’ll want to hang out with my friends, but overall, I’m just looking forward to feeling relaxed and content with him at home. I also can’t wait to see what this year holds for travel. Going to China and seeing my extended family for the first time in 3 years will be exciting to see my cousins grow since high school and going to Japan and even potentially other parts of Asia will be so fun. I would also like to have a stronger relationship with my grandma and take her outside and do more activities together and hear her stories. 

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2022 A Year in Emotions

Memories: 

Started off the new year with Jon in NYC! Homey takeout dinner with my parents, Moma, climbing with Greg and Dior exhibit. 

Uncertainty, Relief.  The moment I met Totoro! I picked her up and heard her meowing in the carrier. I released her in the carrier and she immediately started rubbing herself on me and purring. I was so relieved that she liked me. 

Fear, Accomplishment. Trying ice climbing. Woke up at 5am, and when we got there it was negative 13 degrees. I felt the least athletic and didn’t have the right gear but I overcame my fears and had a great first climb. 

Newness. First ski trip with Halle, I remember driving her car for the first time and being scared. But I realized from this trip that I really like roadtrips. 

Togetherness. Trying molly for the first time and going out to Basement. I felt so loved and protected by my friends. I wanted to party my heart out and the DJ Tool was so good and dropped some sick beats. 

In Love. Paris - sitting by the Seine and watching the sunset behind Jon. The last night we were there the Eiffel Tower sparkled in a special way and we kissed.

Proud. Going to Tesla gigafactory and see the graffiti that Jon was working on made me so proud of him. I was glad he was doing so well in a foreign country. 

Brave. Going to the fetish wear store and trying something that was completely out of my comfort zone. I struggle with feeling comfortable in my body when I truly felt different when I looked at myself in the mirror- it was like I could turn even myself on. 

Seeing Xin in London, going to the art museum but then getting a UTI, but also having really good English breakfast at the 100 Shoreditch hotel

Creative. Spray painting for the first time with Chanel, touching new medium, getting it on my nails. 

Accomplished, Amazed. First 4 mile race in Central park and eating a colorful bagel with Rebecca after and my first 10k in Prospect Park 

Happy. Dancing at the Elsewhere rooftop with Ami, Keo, Alp, Tim, Corey. The sunset was so beautiful and I felt so at ease and happy with a great group of people who were willing to be vulnerable, let lose and dance without inhibition.

Content, Simple Happiness. Sitting on the balcony at Lake Como, feeling so at peace and content in my relationship with Jon. I remember dunking myself into the cool water right before we had to leave and feeling so happy, simple and refreshed.

Inspired, in Awe. Also seeing the Biennale was truly inspiring. Some of the coolest art pieces, like the falling lava, and taking the water taxi.  

Relaxed, at Peace. Sitting on the beach in Rugen with Jon. Just eating a really good hot dog and ice cream (all courtesy of Jon) and reading so much of the Overstory.

Comfort. Eating at Barra in Berlin.. maybe my favorite meal of the whole year. I still remember the sea aster and dessert. Staying with Jon made me realize that home is wherever he is and I still feel nostalgic for his old apartment where we had hot pot and cooked meals together. 

Anticipation. Seeing the US Open with Rafa and Tiafoe had me at the edge of my seat! 

Nostalgia. Going up to Ithaca for the Rev finale, I stayed at the Dorm Hotel which was so memorable, and got dinner with Eme at the Rook. 

Frustrated. My parents putting pressure on me about the house renovation situation, having a mental breakdown in Cindy’s room and then Michelle passing out on me. 

Intrigue. Norway- seeing the art pieces at the museum like the twisting benches, or the spinning water, there was something new at every corner. Fresco Hallen had an amazing ambiance for breakfast. 

Loved. My friends coming together for my 25th birthday, and even Jon being there! It was honestly the best birthday I could hope for, from multiple cakes to karaoke to EEAAO costumes.

Youthful Joy. Day trip to Fishkill Farm to apple pick with Ami, Maya, Benji, Tim, and Alp - just a wholesome day where the weather was so beautiful and I got to do all the fall activities I wanted! Pumpkin patch, corn maze, cider donuts, riding a truck, it was genuinely so much fun. 

Excited, Proud, Touched. PISTE Showcase Benefit, getting a shoutout from Nzingha, seeing her realize this dream and being so proud to see my work, in flesh, everywhere I looked at Samsung 387. 

Intimacy, Vulnerability. Xin staying over for 3 nights, made me feel so close to her again. I put on candles and we turned down the lights, and sang together over Tom Misch’s songs. 

Sophisticated. I hosted Ami, Kush and Keo and brought out wine, nice wine glasses, and even put together a chacuterie board. I felt like a great host. 

Moved. The Moth, with Maya Michelle and Niki, 5 stories about “now you see me” were told in such an impactful way, I could never forget. Daniella Faith singing at SoFar Sounds gave me goosebumps, and I loved that she told us to sing with her. 

Creative. Nude sketching at Happy Medium made me realize that I missed art so much. Mugler exhibit also reminded me of this creative world that exists in NYC that I haven’t tapped into

Intimacy, Beauty, Appreciation. Ending the year with horny thoughts and the cozy comfort of 2 duvets, and a scenic 4 mile run around Boston with Jon that made me feel so happy and appreciative of my body, of Jon, and of the beautiful world.

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2021 in Review

Highlights & Memories for 2021: 

Began the year with lots of chess and Queen’s Gambit

Making a snowman with Jon in Prospect Park- coziest day ever. 

Ordering tons of Ki Sushi with Jon at 158 15th. I miss the tofu cream cheese bagel place, the almond croissants and Reyes burritos

Talking to John Park on Clubhouse while waiting for Domino’s pizza

Spontaneously deciding to stay a night in a hotel, getting Jewish breakfast at Barney Greengrass and then walking down to Lincoln Center for the best halal

Met cloisters in Harlem, sitting under the cherry blossoms and then eating Dominican food and going to the Botanic Gardens

Taking a spontaneous trip back to Chicago, staying with Hayoung and revisiting my old neighborhood around Rush

Getaway excursion for Jon’s birthday. Celebrating with lychee and green tea roll, and roasting food on the fire pit (burnt pizza)

Taking a surfing class and being really afraid of the waves 

Trying the fried rice ball in North Boston while Jon was away for the bachelor party

Driving up to Dartmouth for Connor’s birthday

Moving into my parent’s apartment and cleaning for like 2 days straight. 

Going to the US Opens in Queens and getting dim sum really late at night in Flushing

My graduation! Driving all the way up to Ithaca right after Mid Autumn Morgan team event- going to meet Jon Olin, seeing Medium friends at CTB, taking a tour of the new Humec building and chatting with So-Yeon

Dressing up as Ash and partying at Good Room with Ami and Maya on my birthday

Going to Tiffany’s on my birthday and getting my first really expensive piece of jewelry with my mom

A lot of good times at Cindy’s apartment with Emily, Brian, and more

Thanksgiving dinner with my extended family, lots of crab, some karaoke and 

Hosting my own dinner party and getting 2 more chairs from Harlem the morning of. burning pasta lol

Ended the year in Boston, getting closer with Miso and teaching him how to climb the stairs, and staying in an airstream for the first time and having really good seafood chowder

Highlights of 2021: 

Learned how to 3D print, debug my printer, and solder prototypes

Actually have hobbies for the first time outside of work and career Building upper body strength- can finally do push-ups!

Got into the habit of running: running down to prospect park or across the Brooklyn Bridge

First time trying golf, tennis, surfing, and glamping 

Converted to EY employee

Talked to my first Angel investor and VC Dealt with legal issues

Developed better relationship with my parents

Became friends with a lot of people!

Moved out of my first apartment & learning to live by myself

Went to concerts and raves by myself

2022 Goals: 

Fitness: I would like to get to the peak of my fitness when I turn 25. This means shredding fat and getting to 110lb. This also means actually sleeping at least 7 hours a night

Career: Get promoted... and then quit. To work at a startup maybe or for Soulo to truly take flight.

Running: Run my first 5k and 10k Climbing: Start climbing v3 and v4s, and try outdoor climbing and ice climbing

Music: Learn basic jazz piano, compose my own piece, and learn basic guitar technique (strumming)

Improve my apartment: fixing the ceiling, adding lights and fixing the floor

Upgrading my life: Get better at makeup, and upgrade my style to be more sophisticated

Financial security: 

Adopting a cat and learning to care for an animal!

Read 1 book

Looking back at 2021, I’m proud of the person I’ve become and also astonished as to how transformative this year has been. I’m a much more independent person, and live by myself now. I have more responsibility taking care of the apt by myself but living alone has allowed me to enjoy New York City to its fullest. I’ve been able to connect with so many more people by meeting friends of friends, go out late at night to drink at a bar or go to a concert. And I’m able to be spontaneous which is something I was working towards for this year- I can choose to go wherever I want whenever I want and the freedom to do that is so refreshing.

This year, I’ve forged my own identity and I have a clear understanding myself for the first time. I know what I’m good at (blue sky thinking, leadership, teaming and community) and what I want in my career (something related to startups). The affirmation that I received while working on Soulo was life changing and I miss that energy. I’m fearless because after talking to investors, I feel like there’s really nothing too complicated or too difficult to figure out. I’m more blunt, saying what I want and what I think directly simply because that’s how they communicate and not waste time. I feel grateful for all the experiences this past year and how it’s shaped me. 

Looking ahead at 2022, I’m nervous to spend the entire year doing long distance and it feels uncertain as to where everything will end up. But at the same time, I know it’ll challenge me and give me space to grow myself in other ways. I’m looking forward to traveling to Europe, adopting a cat, growing my hobbies, and challenging myself in my career, and being reunited with Jon at the end of the year (and seeing how he’s challenging himself in his career). Hoping for a god year, here’s to 2022.

#p #year in review

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it’s fall of 2020. wow, the way the seasons pass..

it’s hard to believe I will soon be 23

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「 緑の窓口　樹木トラブル解決します 」

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You're my salvage, you're my balance, you’re so new..

So often I’m angry, stressed, frantic, but seeing him, being with him, just makes all of that subside..  he’s the only one I seek, especially when I’m high, because his presence calms me down. with him, I am safe. like when we cuddled on the couch, ate ramen and watched a documentary about Thai food.. so safe.. nothing else mattered other than his embrace. he has never for a second, made me feel second to any other girl. there has been no doubt in mind.. 

Amongst a sea of people, I will always look for him, to come home to, to be at peace.

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i know that most of the time i come here to rant, and most of the time the things that I write are negative. 

but I also know that I love him. I want to marry him. Because if I didn’t, I would regret for a lifetime, to not know what life with him is like. I do not want to live with regrets. 

he brings me so much joy, just with his smile. there’s nothing that I want more 

there are no second chances.. its just you and me, right now ..

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not enough

that night i needed him, he could’ve called me, could’ve texted jessica to ask if im okay, could’ve called eme to bring me home, could’ve done anything more but didn’t and just went to bed // all the fucking UTIs ive gotten, and he’s never even cared to accompany me to cornell health, or research why i get them. i told him i might be pregnant and he just sends me a “<3″ // the first thing that he thought of when cornell closed was to call his mom to go home. where was i in his thoughts? did he think about what would happen to me? or when we would see each other again? // so many more examples..

what he does is never enough. literally any stranger could’ve done what he does, which is text me, send a <3 and say “let me know if you need anything”. // it’s all the things that he failed to do, that he never did. and hence, every time he leaves me feeling chosen over, and insignificant. he doesn’t do enough to make me want to stay forever, but he also doesn’t do anything bad either to make me want to leave. this is where i stand, and eventually it won’t be enough.

and me? you know i’d forfeit and flunk a test or stay up all night to talk to you instead. you know i’d fight with my parents and disobey them to be with you. because when you cut your hand, i cried because i’d rather it be my hand. because i’d pour in hours to making something, since ah gong and mason are important to you and your family. because when you told me your trauma, i stayed up and sat next to you while you slept, and couldn’t sleep for a week. because id pass on opportunities even if it meant that you’d be far away from me, because i value your growth first. because i preoccupy myself with thinking about what to cook even when im crazy busy, so that you can eat better // i don’t feel a level of concern and sacrifice from him that’s even remotely close. and he’s shown that he doesn’t need me to care that much anyway. so why do all this for someone who wouldn’t do the same for me?

so i tell myself that i shouldn’t care. i tell myself to put myself first. stop making sacrifices, do your own thing. 

so why doesn’t it feel like both of us fighting for this relationship you ask..? ... because im waiting for actions that prove this is something i should continue to fight for

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when have you ever put me first? above your own concerns? 

when have you ever chosen me over yourself?

#never

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you never tried to understand me. not even in the least. 

you’ve always made it my burden to explain myself to you. never have you ever fucking burdened yourself, to go out of your way to understand me. there are a million ways to find me: this blog, my second Insta, my portrait, it’s all there and you have never cared enough to look. you sleep so soundly at night, because it doesn’t bother you, because my pain is mine alone to bear.

“how can i help” “let me know if you need anything”

you said this when i had a pregnancy scare, you said this when i was fighting with my parents, you said this when im telling you that i almost died. wtf, i don’t know how you can help!! can’t you think for yourself, and be proactive? stop assuming that you can’t do anything, and just do something for once

this is the biggest doubt i have about you. 

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2019 in Review

Highlights/Memories of 2019: 

Began the year in Tokyo! TeamLab with Jonathan, walking around Tokyo at night 

Eating in the Chinese restaurant at Pike Place, with the ferris wheel glowing behind us

Grinding late at night for hotel comp, and then going to Aurora Ale w Yiwen and Rhonda

Sitting at the top of the mountain after snowshoeing with dried mangos and Andre3000 playing in the background

Traveling to Boston to consult for Converse, wandering around the museum with my friends and Jon’s mom, and meeting up w Rebecca Hayoung

Eating bento in the trunk of a rental car with Jon, maker faire, dancing like I didn’t give a fuck in an SF club and feeling like I’m a part of the 20s

Watched my senior friends graduate (Bailey, Y, Zach, Maya, Jen) and packing like crazy

Moving into a new apt with Eme, very sweaty

Feeling really scared and praying at mom’s surgery at NYU

Chilled in Tina’s place eating coke chicken wings

Watching 4th of July fireworks at Connor’s beach house, lying in Jonathan’s arms

A/D/O, the future of work with Maya and Creativity Inc. w Emily and Pam

A lot of Crunch, battle ropes and abs, and crying on the treadmill

Dinner with Chanel and Maya at Hanon Noodles, milk bar after that

Hiking in Maine, climbing up the rungs of Beehive and watching the Office while eating Phillip’s chicken parm

Watching Harry Potter with Jon in the Flushing Airbnb, Congee Village and talking about the future, biking along the west side, or just wandering around in williamsburg

Medium theme meeting where we group hugged and I almost cried 

Getting high at the griffith observatory. 

Breaking up, then breaking down, and having sex

eLab Pitch Night and entrepreneurship summit with Jessica and Josh 

Ordered room service in Sheraton hotel with Jonathan over Thanksgiving 

A night of mahjong and Louie’s fries with Yiwen, Ophelia, Anthony and Eme

Wine tour with Yiwen and Eme after graduation 

Christmas with Jon: walking around the emerald necklace, gropius house and sculptures, sleeping together

This Year I Have: 

Filed a provisional patent, got a lawyer to represent us

Became the president of an organization

Completed 1 year of long distance

Did my first real internship- earned 10k and spoke to clients! 

Learned how to animate! and design apps! 

Took working out seriously- went to the gym and got a trainer

Consulted for Converse and other companies through HLW

Got my first sex toy, thanks to Jon

Went on my first camping/hiking trip! 

And got to know Connor, Phillip, Jon’s grandparents, met Lev

Traveled .. even more? (Seattle // Lake Tahoe & Reno // San Francisco & Half Moon Bay // Boston // Maine // Los Angeles) and many many art museums in between..

New competition wins? (Big Idea Competition // Hotel Typology // Contribution Project) 

Did a lot of interviews for summer internship (nbbj, perkins eastman, arrowstreet, continuum, memorial sloan etc)

Started using apple calendar, sort my emails differently, got on a whole new level of productivity and understanding of management, learned a lot about business and strategy

A real friend group, hung out a ton with Eme, Yiwen, and Ophelia, and I feel like I’ve really built up the Medium creative community

My Goals for 2020: 

Have a new website

Complete my thesis

Graduate college!!

Get a job

Move out and get my own place, with Jonathan hopefully

Learn how to drive on the freeway (from 2019)

Make progress on my personal projects (ldr, clinic, my blog, a book etc)

Read... read all those design books that you’ve bought but never got around to

A year of no lateness

A year of working out, fitness and healthy foods

Get back to cooking! 

Spend more time with grandma (from 2019) and old friends from hs

2019 was a really tough year.. Long distance has changed the pacing of my life. It’s a lot of waiting, counting down the days, saying goodbyes at airports and crying. It’s a lot of front loading work so that i can have free time with Jon, moments of such highs when I’m with him and lows when I’m not. Tbh there was a lot of time wasted. Times where I sit and stare at nothing and just feel so down without him. Time where I curl up in bed and just say his name over and over. This past fall semester I felt like I lost my edge. I used to be so much more hardcore and I feel myself slipping, my expectations for myself falling. When Jon was by my side I felt twice as productive and motivated to work. 

But when I evaluate myself against my goals for 2019, I feel pretty proud. I’ve learned and accomplished so much, gained so much skill. I’ve found creative communities, met new people, became close friends with others, experienced so many new things, and felt more independent than ever. 

For 2020, I want to regain the hardcore, productive me. I want to be on top of it, on time, prepared, getting As, pushing my body when working out, applying for jobs and more. I’ll also be turning 23, and with each year I find that the time in my 20s is so precious and fleeting. I find myself asking, when will I have the chance to do this again? Before I have to get married and start a family? Before my grandparents pass away? 

2020 will be a year of risks and last chances and big changes. Let’s get it. 

#p #year in review