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i see we have reached that time every 2 to 3 years when this entire tag completely forgets/warps the meanings of words and instead of just doing absolutely any research, just says incorrect information with their whole chest with the false confidence of a child emporer so here's a little reminder

empathy is broken up into 2 components. cognitive empathy and affective/emotional empathy

cognitive empathy is the ability to correctly identify and intellectually understand the emotions of others. an example would be, ur friend has lost a relative and has been upset and down recently. u recognize their lack of engagement and low energy and need for time alone as them processing that grief, u understand why they are upset after the death of someone they cared for. none of this requires u to personally feel any emotions, it is an intellectual understanding and is therefore something people learn through experience with others. it is connected to emotional literacy and understanding human behavior

affective/emotional empathy is an involuntary and uncontrolled mirror response. it exists in social species to help strengthen bonds and encourage emotional understanding, and is when u very literally experience the emotions of others. an example would be, ur friend has lost a relative and is upset, and u mirror their emotional state and share in their grief. u feel pain and sadness and loss alongside them, u cry, u need time alone to process, u not only understand why they are upset, but u urself are also upset as if this was happening to u as well. this is an involuntary response, it cannot be taught or learned, and it cannot be conciously or actively turned on or off by the person experiencing it. u feel these emotions reguardless of if u want to or not. it is instinctual the same way yawning is. yawning is theorized to be a type of affective empathy and the instinctual response to yawn after seeing someone else yawn is an example of mirroring

all human beings are capable of cognitive empathy. it is a skill that can be taught and learned. most people learn this skill in childhood, others when they are older, but there is no limit to when u can learn to understand this

emotional empathy on the other hand, is much more complex. people experience this on a spectrum, like most things. trauma hugely impacts our ability to feel emotional empathy, and it is a common and standard symptom for victims of abuse to develop empathy dysfunctions. this can include anything from empathy "turning off" or "shutting down" which describes a fluctuating state of empathy within a person. they can have empathy for some people or situations but not others and is highly connected to their specific trauma. its a defense mechanism, these people often had their empathy weaponized against them and used to abuse them, so their brains learn to stop feeling it in order to protect themselves, like building up a pain tolerance some people lose the ability to emotionally empathize entirely after abuse, and cannot expereince empathy reguardless of the person or situation. sometimes this is temporary and with enough healing and time away from abuse they can regain that ability, others do not and never experience it again. and some people are born without the ability to emotionally empathize at all and have never expereinced it (like some autistic people, this is again a spectrum)

cluster b disorders cover a range of empathy dysfunction, but they do all expereince it. hpd is usually catagorized with short, temporary interruptions/dysfunctions and can almost always regain the ability to emotionally empathize, bpd and npd usually have fluctuating empathy that turns on and off, in bpd it is much more likely for that to become lifelong, whereas with npd it is more likely to be able to regain full empathy, and lastly aspd is catagorized by a complete break and lack of emotional empathy that is not able to be regained

and absolutely none of that is connected to ur treatment of others. empathy is not an action, it is solely about ur own internal emotional expereince or lack thereof. it has nothing to do with how u respond to others, how u handle situations, or ur ability to act compassionately or with care and consideration for those around u. it is solely about ur own personal internal emotional expereince in response to other peoples emotions

hope that helps

#i somehow had npd and aspd switched in my head #but yeah the distinction between cognitive and emotional is important #not having emotional is not an excuse to not to learn cognitive and to not be an asshole

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"Under the new rule, which goes into effect Sept. 30, food will no longer count toward calculations for eligibility for benefits, known as In-Kind Support and Maintenance, or ISM.

The new rule means SSI beneficiaries will no longer have to worry that the groceries or meals they receive from family or friends may reduce their monthly benefits, said Darcy Milburn, director of Social Security and health care policy at The Arc, a nonprofit organization serving people with developmental and intellectual disabilities.

The Social Security Administration, in turn, will no longer have to use its limited resources to document every time a beneficiary received free food and then cut their monthly benefit by as much as a third, she said."

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I love the old timey phrase "you forget yourself". bro that was so impolite like do you even know who you are rn

#i say this about my dog all the time when she misbhaves or poorly performs a command #ill just be like you forgot yourself #thats ok lets try again #leave it

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I shouldn't even be surprised bc I ran into pretty much the same issue when I was homicidal. Like if you are just suicidal they will take you. But if you are seriously homicidal no one will touch you. In my case I was actually worse than my partner and was like I will kill someone grunted in the next week. Still no one. Ended up having to lie to a hospital intake and say it was suicidal. And then people act like it's such an unpreventable mystery when severe mental illness leads to murder

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I travel to the weekend mondocon😊

Ferret adopt WIP

Lots of embroidery that would be nice to sell.

Wish you luck🥺🍀

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Trying to get aid took 7 hours. Which my dog was not prepared for. She coated herself and her crate with feces. We gave her a bath and now I have hives on my arms wherever poop touched

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So the plan right now is my partner gives me their key to their weapons safe. When they are having an episode they isolate to the shared room and I stay in my room. Until they see their psych on thurs.

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dtiys for @bymossypine, congrats on all ur milestones!! (go follow her shes cool as hell!!)

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So hours later. No one will help him. None of the emergency clinics or hospitals. Because he's violent and psychotic. Which makes them, their words, "uncomfortable". They just insisted he needs therapy and to see his regular psychiatrist who was adamant that she had no slots open soon and would do nothing over the phone. Well finally the psychiatrist caved and said she can see him Thursday.

Literally hate how broken the system is.

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I hate the system. It's built so mentally ill and their partners suffer

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The emergency clinic said call psychiatrist. Psychiatrist says go to emergency clinic

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After 2 hrs they gave him a list of therapists and sent him on his way. That's it

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I feel like whenever I have something traumatic happen to me my partner has a breakdown so then we have to get them help and in return I don't get the help I need. I had to miss therapy today so I still haven't addressed my mom sexually harassing me

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@felis-the-complex-multiple

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