chaoshaven

[chaoshaven]

everyone always wants to know what country i would base a pokemon game off of if i could make one but that is my twisted little secret. if i could make a pokemon game.... there would be no region.... it would all take place in one city

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I need people to stop glorifying the 4B movement in Korea, from a Western (white) perspective. Stop it. If you are blissfully unaware of this (having not been on TikTok) - in theory, it makes sense. No sex with men, no dating men, no child rearing with men, and no marriage with men. But. BUT. Feminists in Korea are problematic AF. I know this from both personal experience (having been on the receiving end of their ire online) and everything I've read about them, in Korean. I see all these white TikTokers (and even some in the Korean diaspora) fawning over how "we" in the US need this and, no. If your feminism is transphobic, hates gay men, hates men in general, that's not the feminism I'd endorse. Why is Korean feminism transphobic? In 2020, Korean feminists ACTIVELY CAMPAIGNED AGAINST a woman who was accepted to Sookmyung University. An all womens' university. But she was a woman, you say. What could be their problem? According to Korean feminists, they didn't want a "man" in their space. Because she is a trans woman. This is not unusual for Korean feminists. Having lived there for 5 years, to some extent, I understand their anger against misogyny. But if you are truly against the toxic patriarchy that exists in Korea, you must also help dismantle military conscription because that is where a lot of men become radicalized, bullied, etc etc and "grow up" to be the most toxic form of men seen on this earth. But Korean feminists don't give AF about that and in fact, I've read a lot of them express that it's good for men to suffer. Guess what? That view is internalized misogyny and toxic patriarchy, too. And I don't want to hear it about the movement being so "young". Korean women have stepped up to the plate before in our history. We are capable of better than this fucking nonsense. It's a bunch of transphobic, gay hating radicals that have hijacked what was supposed to be about social justice. WOMAD (link is to the Wikipedia article, not their site) and Megalia are the two sites they stem from. It is the most toxic group of people I've ever had the displeasure to encounter online. Any form of criticism is, at best, ignored and worst - I've been "called out" for being Korean-American, and therefore, to "butt out" of "Korean issues". Amongst other bullying I've personally received. And yes, not just on forums but on public articles that I've commented on.

I know it's a catchy title and it appeals in theory but please, please do not glorify these transphobes and TERFs. They don't deserve your attention.

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i remember adults telling me, as a kid, to listen to doctors and get my flu vaccine and any shots i could because they remembered Before.

then they started fighting Covid precautions.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that the ozone was disappearing and the earth was dying and we needed to recycle and save the planet.

now my parents think climate change is a myth.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that racism was a plague, that we had to love and accept everyone, that we should never judge before walking a mile in their shoes.

then they told me that protesting for my Black siblings was wrong.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that we needed to give to the poor. working at soup kitchens. making quilts. collecting food and money and supplies. building houses. because it was the christian and just plain right thing to do.

now they look at me, on food stamps with their grandchildren, and lament the "welfare state".

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that it was easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter the Kingdom of Heaven and that any rich man, especially an immoral one, should never run our country.

you can guess who they voted for.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, so very much.

when did they forget?

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Pretty disappointed with you reblogging that bad take post on the latest JKR furore... You have such good takes on political stuff usually but not this time. Look up Malcolm Clark's twitter thread on this subject and you'll see a much more accurate take

Well, I'm more disappointed in you for (a) thinking it's remotely appropriate to send criticism to people anonymously (either accept responsibility or don't send it, bach) but (b) for genuinely thinking you could direct me to *checks notes* the Twitter account of noted transphobe, friend of JKR and founder of transphobic hate group the LGB Alliance Malcolm Clark and I would think he had anything approaching a 'more accurate take'.

Like. Mate. Come on.

However if you normally think I have 'good takes on political stuff but not this time', clearly I haven't yelled this from the rooftops enough recently, so here you go:

Trans women are women. Trans men are men. Transphobes fuck off.

Hope that clears things up

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[chaoshaven]

In case no one told you growing up

Bras last longer if you let them air dry. Don’t put them in the dryer.

If you have a problem with frizzy hair, don’t dry your hair with a towel. It makes the frizzies worse. (I recently read an article that said to use a t-shirt? I brush mine out and let it air dry.)

Whites wash best in hot water. Everything else can be in cold - save on your electricity bill.

You can kill 99.9% of germs in a sponge by putting it in the dishwasher for a cycle or by microwaving it for 2 min (be sure to make the sponge damp before microwaving and to put a cup half full of water in with it and please DO NOT squeeze the sponge until it has cooled off)

Airing out your room/house and letting sunlight in every so often can decrease the number of household pests like silverfish and ants.

Black underwear is best during your period as stains are less likely to be visible.

To save money, put aside 10% of each paycheck into a savings account. It’ll add up.

Unless your hair has something on/in it (like grease or mud or something), using conditioner first can actually be the better choice. The conditioner holds in the good oils that help you hair look sleek and beautiful, which shampoo would otherwise wash away.

Speaking of shampoo - if you have long hair, washing just the bits that touch your scalp is generally enough. The rest of your hair gets cleaned with just the run off from your scalp.

If you put a tampon in and it’s uncomfortable/you can feel it, you didn’t do it quite right. A properly placed tampon is virtually unnoticeable by the wearer.

Apply deodorant/antiperspirant a couple hours in advance of when you need it. This gives the product the chance to block your sweat glands. Using deodorant just before going somewhere where you’ll sweat (this means walking outside for people in high humidity places) results in your sweat washing the deodorant off and starkly limiting its usefulness.

After running the dryer, use the dryer sheet from that load to brush out the lint catch - it gets everything off in a fraction of the time it’ll take you to get it clean with your bare hands. Paper towels also work well.

Wash your face everyday, or as often as possible. Forget which brand of cleanser is best. Just washing your face everyday will guarantee you clearer skin. And do you best not to pop pimples, as tempting as the urge may be.

Fold laundry asap after taking it from the dryer to avoid wrinkles. This may seem obvious for dress shirts and silly for things like t-shirts, but you’ll notice the difference even then once your shirts stop looking like unfolded paper balls.

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Tumblr's reply to the situation with CEO's transphobia is pathetic and you should not be thanking them for doing the bare minimum of saying he's not speaking for them. They fucking thanked that bitch.

The affected trans women are still banned.

A transphobic manchild offered no proper apology. Or stopped. He is also still in his position.

Tumblr is still factually transphobic. Keep pushing.

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Justice for predstrogen.

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If staff says they can't undo the wrongful terminations of people because it was done by the CEO, that means that the CEO can continue to act with impunity and that their words are hollow and meaningless.

Even if you somehow believe that Rita did something wrong on predstrogen, her worst crime on her later blogs was documenting the way the CEO was targeting her. And dozens of trans women's blogs have been terminated in the past week or so for similar

If these blogs, who only performed actions that you as staff say is fine and defensible, remain terminated; how can we trust anything else that you've said

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Right, considering the current state of corporate politics on this site, and that it seems that only those affected seem to be actively speaking on the matter, it is up to I, the only fucking cishet on tumblr, to drag this out to a wider audience.

REBLOG IF YOUR ACCOUNT IS A TRANSFEM SAFE SPACE.

We need to show these higher ups how much we truly value them.

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I didn't know predstrogen or her blog but that doesn't matter to me and it shouldn't matter to you. if they came for her they will come for you. if you're not trans they will come for you when they're done with them.

hate doesn't start and end with one target, it morphs and amalgamates until no one is safe, and it lashes out a lot.

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I don't normally make "political" art like this, but after recent events I felt I had to say something

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I was reading a book (about interjections, oddly enough) yesterday which included the phrase “In these days of political correctness…” talking about no longer making jokes that denigrated people for their culture or for the colour of their skin. And I thought, “That’s not actually anything to do with ‘political correctness’. That’s just treating other people with respect.”

Which made me oddly happy. I started imagining a world in which we replaced the phrase “politically correct” wherever we could with “treating other people with respect”, and it made me smile. 

You should try it. It’s peculiarly enlightening.

I know what you’re thinking now. You’re thinking “Oh my god, that’s treating other people with respect gone mad!”

Happy Valentine’s Day.

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@staff @humans @support @photomatt @cyle @zingring

why have i not heard anything back in over 2 months about a report i filed regarding a harrassment and stalking campaign against me for the entirety of the last year?

why, the first time i tried to submit a report about this, did i just get an email back saying "oh sorry, wrong email, go here instead :)" within a day? how come thats faster, but not this?

how come, in the time its taken to reply to me about the stalking and harrassment, have you deleted my main account @predstrogen even when you have stated before that it is not breaking terms of service after it was flagged due to the same reports that got me banned?

how come this has happened before in summer, when your websites system was flagging anything involving trans women as explicit, including my own selfies and transition timeline? especially when several known staff users have commented about this exact situation, i recall people even mentioning me specifically! [1 - 2 - 3]

and on top of all that, ive been seeing a massive uptick in right wing users openly harrassing me, even going as far as to admit theyre reporting me and making up lies about me as a trans woman. so many people have told me theyre recieving anonymous asks slandering me. is your site going to do anything about that? [1 2 3]

or is your site going to ban me again on here, and delete every single thing ive uploaded saying it "breaks TOS". even my transition timeline, my fucking face and identity. like you did already

am i ever going to see anything get better? all three of my past accounts, @madhopz, @sadhopz, and now @predstrogen have been deactivated after a year. its a pattern, and you havent listened to any requests for help against this harrassment

what am i, and everyone else this happens to, going to get to fix this?

if youre seeing, please reblog this. this blog might not be around too long either, i want it known that this happened again so i dont get ignored again. i have a paper trail, evidence and defence for everything

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An early Valentine's PSA: James reminds you to be safe out there 😂

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A "warning" to the newcomers